Why letting go doesn't work
As promised, today I’ll reveal why my story of self-doubt is not unique and why there are many other people struggling with it, too. First I want to say thank you! I got a lot of personal email responses to my last article. I appreciate your feedback and your thanks. I was nervous to share my story in the first place, so thank you for all your kind words.
Just to recap, in my previous article I talked about my personal wake up call caused by a sudden wave a self-doubt. Thanks to my journal, I found a way through, but it wasn’t by simply letting go of self-doubt like I thought it would be. Today I’ll share why letting go doesn’t work on its own.
There is a scarcity epidemic happening all around us. Scarcity is what happens when you don’t feel like enough. People feel like they just don’t measure up. Measure up to what? Lots of things, and they usually end in the word enough - Not smart enough, not pretty enough, not thin enough, not rich enough and more.
But maybe there is an antidote: letting go. What if you could let go of the following:
- What other people think of you
- Being certain or perfect
- Being cool or in control
The theory is that by letting go of all these things, you will feel like enough all the time. But does letting go really work?
The danger is this: by focusing on what you want to let go of, you may allow it to overpower you. In one of my favorite books, “The Gifts of Imperfection”, Brene Brown outlines not only things to let go of, but also provides a tool that directly counteracts the effects of scarcity. By focusing on all the good stuff that’s inside of you, you shift your perspective. Focus on things like -
So it isn’t enough to let go. You also have to embrace the good. Don’t be ashamed of what you love in yourself. Don’t be afraid to live from a place of self-worth. You are a worthy creature. You have much to offer. You just have to shift your attention onto that, and your journal is the fastest way to do it.
Before you can make a shift toward embracing all the good, you have to face your self-doubt gremlins head on. Gremlins are the voices in your head telling you to stay doubtful, telling you you’re not enough. The gremlin that got me was avoidance. I’ll describe three self-doubt gremlins in my next article.
Inspired by my own focus shift, I’ve been working on a journal course to help you let go of self-doubt by embracing the good. Today I’ve put together three journal prompts that will get you started. If you like these prompts, you’re going to love what’s coming.
Update: Journal for Joy e-course is now open for registration! Enrollment is open until Sunday, October 26th at 9PM PDT. My next Journal for Joy course opens in January 2015. Sign up here to be notified!
In 10 years, my life will be…
What holds me back from my highest good?
What is my heart’s desire?
Use a timer and try journaling for just 10 minutes. Leave me a comment here about your journal experience and share what good things you’re ready to embrace about yourself.
Happy Journaling! -Andrea