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4 Ways to Shift into Happiness
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4 ways to shift into happinessThere are two things people are seeking when they come to me. After doing this work now for more than 5 years and having spent over 400 hours in session with people I can confidently say you're looking for happiness or fulfillment. Today I'll share 4 ways to shift into happiness

Happiness and fulfillment are similar although when you seek happiness what you're really seeking is a release and a sense of completeness at the same time. What you really want is to let go of anything keeping you from happiness and you want to bring any remaining closure to your life so you can enjoy the happiness you seek.

When you seek fulfillment what you're really seeking is wholeness. You wish to call back into your life the things you've let go astray and you want to send things out of your life that are keeping you from wholeness like stories, habits, or behaviors that no longer suit you. Next week I'll share 4 Ways to Feel Fulfilled. 

Before we dive into my 4 ways to shift into happiness I have to share this - happiness is not circumstantial. 

If happiness were circumstantial then the happiness you experienced because of your most recent accomplishment wouldn't have faded.

If happiness were circumstantial then the happiness you experienced because of your new relationship wouldn't have faded.

If happiness were circumstantial then the happiness you experienced because of your new house or new car wouldn't have faded.

If happiness were circumstantial then the happiness you experienced because of your most recent vacation wouldn't have faded.

These are examples of circumstantial happiness - happiness that is experienced because of some external thing. A new goal, a new relationship, a new material thing, or a new place.

So then, what is happiness?

Happiness is a byproduct of your beliefs and is within you right now

The good news (actually, great news!) is that IF happiness is a byproduct of your beliefs AND is inside of you THEN you can be happy right now in this very moment no matter what!

Given this truth let's explore my 4 Ways to Shift into Happiness.

#1 - Say Thanks

Spoken or written gratitude is the easiest and most efficient way to shift into happiness. Stop reading and write down 5 things you're grateful for right now. Remember my Ultimate Gratitude List? If you can't find anything to be grateful for look at my ultimate gratitude list for some inspiration.

#2 - Tune in

Chances are if you're reading this then you're in a safe enough space to do so. Tune into your present moment. What do you see? How do you feel? A worry is a future fear and a grief is a past. What of right now?

#3 - Look for Bright Spots

As my friend and women's business coach extraordinaire, Mary Ann McNulty, teaches - look for bright spots. We are hardwired to look for possible threats in your environment. Everything from an oncoming car to your ex showing up at your favorite coffee shop. What of the bright spots? The things in your life that are going really well? Search for these and write them down. Stop reading and write down 5-10 bright spots in your life.

#4 - Release 

Releasing is a powerful and simple technique to help you release your grip on your attachment to any emotional state. Any immediate reaction to something, like anger or resentment, will only last 1-2 minutes. The future of that emotion is dependent on your attachment to it. An emotion only survives in the future if you fuel it and keep it alive.

What if you let it go? It doesn't mean you have to let go of the hurt you were caused. It means you release the emotion from having such a strong hold on you.

If you have any of these strong emotions - apathy, grief, fear, anger, or pride - and you can't seem to let them go or the emotion is hindering your happiness please book a Power Chat. It's my gift to you and we can release the emotion and heal from the story in less than an hour.

Something you'll notice about each idea above is they're each a practice. Happiness is a daily practice. Slowly, over time, this practice starts to radically shift how you see and experience your world. You won't always have to put so much intention into this. One day happiness will be your default. Just like that.

In light and love,

AndreaPower Chat button

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3 Little known factors that could affect your happiness
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3 Little known factors that affect your happinessFor the most part I think what we crave more than anything in life is happiness. We're motivated by being happy, discovering happiness, and staying happy. I even wrote a post of 8 Super Awesome Books for Happiness. I summed up that each book teaches some version of this truth - happiness is in acceptance, letting go, and gratitude.   As we count down these handful of days left until we move out of 2014 I think happiness is worth giving our attention to. This was quite a year and I know I'm not alone in this. I shared a bit about my personal wake up call here. Through it all it was getting back to a happy center I was most after. Some day I share more on in order to be happy we also have to let it go.

But for today I want to share the 3 little known factors that could affect your happiness. Because in just a couple week's most of you will start setting goals for the new year. Me included.

I believe what you're most after when you set your new year goals is more joy. You think that if accomplished these goals could bring you closer to more happiness whether it be through health, financial security, love, career, family, or trying new things.

As I shared on Tuesday - The goal isn’t going to create the change you want – your perspective and your state of mind will. These 3 little known factors will help your state of mind be more prepared for the year ahead.

Gratitude

Research shows time and time again that a daily gratitude practice can increase your happiness dramatically. It can also change how you're feeling almost immediately. It is physically impossible to be happy and sad at the same time. Gratitude is a bridge between the two. Many people say they're grateful but don't act in accordance with this.

You say you're grateful but you pine for more. More money, more health, more love, more intimacy, more of something...what of what you have right here and now? In this very moment?

This is why Angee of Sheic Journals and I created this 10-day journal course, A Year in Reflection. It's a written gratitude practice. And it will set your mind up for what incredible things are possible in 2015.

Letting Go

Most of us are attached to something - attachment to things, people, ideas, expectations, desires, and more. What if you could let go of the following:

  • Expectations
  • What other people think of you
  • Comparison
  • Being certain or perfect
  • Being cool or in control

The danger is this: by focusing on what you want to let go of, you may allow it to overpower you. In one of my favorite books, “The Gifts of Imperfection”, Brene Brown outlines not only things to let go of, but also provides a tool that directly counteracts the effects of scarcity. By focusing on all the good stuff that’s inside of you, you shift your perspective. Focus on things like –

  • Authenticity
  • Self-compassion
  • Resilience
  • Gratitude
  • Faith
  • Creativity
  • Play
  • Stillness
  • Meaning

So it isn’t enough to let go. You also have to embrace the good. Don’t be ashamed of what you love in yourself. Don’t be afraid to live from a place of self-worth. You are a worthy creature. You have much to offer. You just have to shift your attention onto that, and your journal is the fastest way to do it.

This is why in my newest collaboration A Year in Reflection you can spend the last few days of 2014 reflecting on what worked, what lessons you learned, and how you can make more of this happen in 2015.

Acceptance

Acceptance is not passive. It is not surrendering or even giving up. Acceptance IS a powerful practice in sitting with what is. I understand that acceptance can be difficult. You feel like in accepting something even if you don't like it you somehow lose. Let me assure you, you don't lose. You get to move forward.

You can't accept the gifts you have coming to you if you're attached to the past. What do you need to accept in order to move forward in your life? What, if you accepted it, could you then let go of? What are you holding onto that is no longer serving you?

This is why Angee and I created A Year in Reflection. Spend 10 days before 2015 arrives outlining what you're ready to accept. Give yourself the gift of a clean slate so you can welcome all the incredible things you have coming next year.

Happiness can only come from within. It's a feeling and it doesn't have to get away from you. You can tap into a kind of happiness always available to you by practicing gratitude, letting go, and acceptance.

In light and love,

Andrea

P.S.

A Year in Reflection is a 10-day journal course that will set you up for your happiest year yet for one payment of $21. But don’t delay, registration ENDS tomorrow at 9PM PST and remember, there’s no risk with our 100% happiness guarantee or your full investment back at any time. IF you think this is right for you then click here to register.

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