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What Kauai gave back to me
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We just returned from the beautiful island of Kauai, also known as the "Garden Island" — 500 square miles of lush greenery and leaves the size of my whole body. Without fail, every time I step foot here something reawakens in me.

It could be the salt air, the warm water, or the fact that it's usually the first 10 days in a long while I've taken a breath. I can't say that I've taken a decent break since before my mom passed which was quickly followed by my dad passing — a two-year stint of navigating loss and the oddly timed logistics that come with the end of life. 

I knew life would not go back to "normal" as much as I wished and pleaded for it to. Somewhere along the way, I took a mental step back. A pause? A break? A re-acclimation? Perhaps all of the above. I came to Kauai with a new wish: to return to myself even if that return surprised me or took me in a new direction. 

We were sailing across the south shore of Kauai on our way back from the Nā Pali coast, a small stretch of cliffs that can only be reached by air or sea, and the sun began to set. It's the kind of experience that can suspend time. My phone stays tucked away inside the boat for the entire trip because I just want to take it all in.

If I want to crawl into the inner dwellings of my mind or heart I get on or near water; it works every time. Maybe it's the double Cancer in me or my moon is exalted in Taurus or that from a very young age my mom had to coerce me to get out of any swimming pool.

I love the water. I love her fluid, unruly, pristine flow. I used to joke that I was a mermaid in a past life. Not really. But I do feel most at home by the coast and will choose water over mountains any day. 

So, needless to say, being on an island is pure magic.

We came here to vacate, to take a much-needed pause. I took all but a few client conversations off my calendar, packed a few books, two journals, many pens, and an open mind. But I will admit, in the back of my heart was a secret wish to also heal a little.

Being tossed in the throes of grief for almost two years feels like being tossed by a riptide. It's hard to know which way is up. There is nothing grounded about grief. But, at some point, you have to get out of the water and let ruminations segue to new life.

I came to Kauai feeling ready, metaphorically, to get out of the current and stand on dry land again. And as counter-intuitive as this might sound, I also fought this re-emergence because that meant losing my parents really happened. There is really something to move on from. Rational? No. Real? Yes.

And so I chose to employ one of my core principles I use with my clients — respect where you are and listen to where you're ready to be. 

I will be the first to admit I am a bit of a development junkie. Not because I want to perfect life, but because I am deeply in love with the idea that you can literally create your life, which means no one is beholden to past thinking. But this little love affair can also create unrealistic expectations. 

I could hear my inner voice from the moment we stepped off the plane: "OK, I am here. Am I healed yet?" (Insert a big ol' eye roll)

Nothing.

Day two. Nada.

Day three. Nope, not yet.

And so it went. 

I read. I wrote. I swam. I got tossed by the waves. I found myself at dinner one night missing my mother so much I almost couldn't breathe.

Huh. Not what I had in mind.

Then as we're sailing into the sunset and the boat captain starts playing 60's rock n' roll, my mom's favorite, two birds cascade across the orange glow and I hear a small voice say what I'd been waiting to hear and also terrified to listen to...


"It's time to get going, Andrea. Move on. Bring us with you. But do not play stalemate on your life because you wish it were different."


There it is. The thing you avoid with loss. Getting going again. It's not like I haven't been living my life, but there's been a lot of motion without movement. And if I were to do it all over again? Well, I would choose the same.

Am I "healed"? No. Because the truth is, there is nothing broken. But I DO get to choose where to go next knowing that I will always wish to call up my mom or dad and regale them with my most recent adventure. And this is OK.

As Rich Roll shared in Finding Ultra (highly recommend!):


"Let go of the end game. Instead, fall in love with the process. Show up for life with enthusiasm and commitment. Connect with spirit. Wrestle with your soul and relish every hardship. Give freely of yourself to others. Because it's the journey that truly gives your path meaning. And there truly is no destination." 


Here's to a new chapter. One that equal parts scares me and invigorates me. One that relishes the hardship AND shows up with enthusiasm and commitment. One that chooses to be brave with my life.  


Will you gift me 90 minutes of your time to show you what you're capable of? Click the link below to choose your time & date.


Book a 90-Minute Problem Solving & Possibility Creating Coaching Experience with Me.


Wait.

Before you click that link and book time with me, I want you to answer these questions for yourself:

  • Why seek a coach now? What was/is the tipping point that brought you to this place?

  • What do you need to come out of this conversation either knowing or remembering about yourself?

  • What is the cost of not doing this work now?

  • Who will be affected by you doing this work? Think of the ripple effect beyond what you can see.

  • What holds you back? What compels you to move forward?

OK — now...

Book a 90-Minute Problem Solving & Possibility Creating Coaching Experience with me.

If after this session you don't wish to continue coaching that's OK! If you do, then we'll discuss what this looks like. These sessions are currently booked 1–2 months in advance.

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5 Reasons Your Should Fire Your Coach
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For the past two weeks, members of our free community have taken part in an "unreasonable requests" challenge. These are requests that feel unreasonable because the person we are making the request of has no reason to say yes. The challenge? 30 unreasonable requests in 30 days. If you want to join us, use this link.

I have been doing this for the past six weeks now. One of my bold asks was to take a client and someone I deeply admire to a fancy lunch. We ate yummy food, drank wine, and she gave me a challenge. An ask of myself — to write an article that stretched me. Well, challenge accepted.

It's no secret I have a pretty strong opinion about coaching, as I should. I've been a professional coach since 2010 and if I had a punch card with 10 punches, one for every coaching conversation, then I would have filled 500 punch cards by now.

There was certainly a time when you couldn't have paid me to write what I am about to share because I was more interested in pleasing than serving, being liked than being honest, and being passive than being clear.

But I was having lunch with this hip chick a couple of weeks ago — she isn't afraid to speak her truth, something I've admired about her from the day we met.

We got onto the topic of coaching which was equal parts ranting and raving when she said, "You know how everyone writes those articles about why you should hire a coach? What if you did the OPPOSITE?"

And because I love a challenge, here we are.

What qualifies me to tell you why you should fire your coach? The very work that I myself am paid to do? Nothing. No, really. No one can tell you what is best for you. Not even your coach!

However, I am very passionate about coaching. You might put me on the obsessive spectrum right over there was fanaticism except unlike the definition, I have not forgotten my aim.

Just for kicks the other day I did a quick search on the statistics of coaching. Even I was shocked. 

Did you know that the average return on investment for working with a coach is 500%? That means if you pay $500 your return is $2,500.

Did you also know that people who invest in coaching with a goal in mind are 86% MORE likely to accomplish it than those who don't use a coach?

So if it's so great, why do I want you to fire your coach? Well, as Rich Litvin says, "The coaching profession has a problem that is two-fold: there is a low bar for entry and a high bar for success."

And that high bar for success is too often passed on to the wrong person — you, the client.

Let me explain.

Coaching is simple in theory: help people achieve their dreams by way of goals, commitments, and accountability by also removing any and all blocks or upper limits that get in the way.

Here's where most coaches go wrong — they assume that if a client is motivated or excited enough they will just make shit happen.

They coach the part of you that set your goals. But, did you know that the part of you that sets a goal is not in charge of achieving it? This makes EFFECTIVE coaching NOT simple.


5 Reasons You Should Fire Your Coach:

1. Your coach is not trained.

This is a controversial topic but it shouldn't be. In NO profession is it acceptable to enter without skills or training, yet somehow the coaching industry seems to think it is exempt from this principle.

Not only this, it is the MOST accessible training to find. Most are done via distance learning, geared for adults who are already working full time and don't require more than a few months to complete. If you've long thought about a coach certification then we need to talk.

2. Your coach only prescribes you action steps and strategic plans.

I am all for action but not in lieu of deep work. If a new plan was all it took to change your behavior which changes your actions which changes your life then we would not be the most depressed or in debt adult cohort in US history. Plans are cheap because they bypass YOU.

Think of it this way: if you are NOT a coffee drinker and I asked you to drink 4 cups of coffee today it would cause mental strain and physical exhaustion for the simple fact that you would have to effort your way to doing something that goes against how you see yourself. Then again, if you are a coffee drinker and I asked you to do the same, you'd be very buzzed at the end, but it wouldn't have caused a lot of strain to do the action because it's how you see yourself.

In short, action plans cannot outperform your identity. And a coach who isn't trained in this I wouldn't get near.

3. Your coach doesn't offer an extensive pre-conversation before asking for an investment.

If your coach is unable to demonstrate in advance why you should hire them, don't. If a coach doesn't offer MORE than an hour to have a real experience of their work, I would be cautious.

A coach who only demonstrates their best AFTER you hire them is someone who keeps their cards close. Also, if you feel pressure or do not enjoy the enrollment process, run. Will it stretch you? Yes. But that stretch should feel invigorating, not threatening.

4. Your coach doesn't have a coach.

I am shocked at how many professional coaches have never worked with a coach. How can we properly represent the power in this work if we ourselves are not also experiencing it? You are allowed to ask your coach, "Who is your coach?"

5. Your coach isn't successful at the thing they coach.

If your coach is niched as a money coach but is in a ton of debt...if your coach is a relationship and marriage coach but single...if your coach is a health coach who is not healthy...if your coach is a business coach whose business is not successful...

This should be obvious but I have seen this far too often. Are we all works in progress? Yes. But we have to be honest about where we are. I would personally fire a coach who was not actively demonstrating in their own life or business the very results I hired them to achieve. 

I know these may be controversial. But the thing is, I am so proud of this industry and the good work we are doing that I can't sit back and watch the people I LOVE to serve be lost to a lack of integrity in the very people they've invested their time, energy, and money with.

I stand behind my coaching 1,000%. And I genuinely hope your coach does too. However, if you've never experienced the power in working with a coach — why don't you try it on? 

Will you gift me 90 minutes of your time to show you what you're capable of? Click the link below to choose your time & date.

Book a 90-Minute Problem Solving & Possibility Creating Coaching Experience with me.


Wait.

Before you click that link and book time with me, I want you to answer these questions for yourself:

  • Why seek a coach now? What was/is the tipping point that brought you to this place?

  • What do you need to come out of this conversation either knowing or remembering about yourself?

  • What is the cost of not doing this work now?

  • Who will be affected by you doing this work? Think of the ripple effect beyond what you can see.

  • What holds you back? What compels you to move forward?

OK. Now...

Book a 90-Minute Problem Solving & Possibility Creating Coaching Experience with me.

If after this session you don't wish to continue coaching that's OK! If you do, then we'll discuss what this looks like. These sessions are currently booked 1–2 months in advance.

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Do you dream about inspiring people?
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I love this quote from Henry Moore: "The secret to life is to have a task, something you devote your life to, something you bring everything to, every minute of the day for your whole life. And the most important thing is — it must be something you cannot possibly do.”  

The first time I read this quote I had to make sure I read the last line correctly. "Something you cannot possibly do" seems like an odd thing to dedicate your life to, but herein lies the beautiful irony of such a challenge. The seemingly impossible things of your dreams become the very things you fulfill through the intentionality that success is not required — but effort is.

Coaching is like this for me. I used to coach because I wanted to help people be less stuck. Then I did it because I wanted them to find their joy. Then I coached because I wanted to save the planet. And today I coach because witnessing others do "impossible" things is awe-inspiring.

When I started to teach coaches I was hesitant. Would I be able to truly convey the power and joy in this art? Would the process of becoming a coach be as wonderful for my students as it has been for me? Then I just decided that whatever my students got from their own pursuit would be just as incredible for me as it is when I coach my clients.

If you've ever dreamt of adding masterful life coaching to your repertoire, join me for my third cohort of Awaken Your Life in May.

Becoming a coach was not my first choice. I wanted to help people. Help them do what wasn't exactly clear in the beginning. The only clarity I had was that I was built to be in service of others.

I've always been that girl strangers share their life stories with.

It doesn't matter if I'm in line at the grocery store or on an airplane, I often find myself as the person others tell deep and meaningful things to. I must admit, I like this. Someone choosing to divulge or share something that has depth with me as a total stranger kind of blows me away. 

Somewhere in my formative years, I was the "fix it" girl. The one who, whether others asked or not, was always mending people. I felt hurt when others were unhappy.

While I would learn to not take so much responsibility for others' life choices, to this day it is hard to witness someone turn away from their life no matter what it's costing them.

This was why I chose to be a social worker and then a counselor. But I left because keeping people beholden to their past is a waste of a life. You aren't meant to stay in your ordeals. You are meant to be shaped by them, carved out of the rubble, and given that inner flame that only you know why it wholly motivates you.

In many ways, coaching picked me. I was at a rehearsal dinner for my cousin and was introduced to the founder of a coaching school I would later go on to graduate from.

It didn't feel like a big leap. To be honest it didn't even feel like it was a real job. I did not become a coach to make a ton of money because I literally didn't know I could! I didn't become a coach to change the world because who was I to make such bold requests of the world?

No, I became a coach because it was somewhere between people's past and their potential future that a coach gets to play and I remember thinking, "Now that is a pretty cool gig."

Almost 10 years and more than 5,000 coaching conversations later it is far more than "a pretty cool gig." Transformational coaches, the really good ones, can change someone so profoundly that if you really knew the long term result of that change, it would astound you.

The really good coaches are change-artists. We take what isn't apparent and make it known. We are also known as "Someone Who Transforms Things for the Better." 

Some coaches hang out in plans and strategies: they use goal measurement and accountability to effort their clients to the next step.

Some coaches hang out in encouragement and energy: they use their cheerful excitement and belief in someone to motivate them to the next step.

And then there are the rare ones. 

The coaches who hang out with your potential, who use tools of the mind and quantum field to re-wire how someone sees the world — and in doing so fundamentally changes who they are in the world. Their clients don't effort or get motivated to their next steps. They become the very dream they've imagined.

I will be so bold to put myself in this category. Not because I am special or unique but because I am fascinated and slightly obsessed with this work. And my students are no different. They could choose any school, and there are thousands of coach schools to choose from. (Which is good, because I can only train and work with 8 students per 200-hour cohort!)

I am in this category because I want to be. I want my work to be more than something that feels good. If you are a coach or on your way to being one, then please find your place and choose the mark you will leave. I believe this is up to you and you alone.

My love for this work is confirmed through my studies and education, but my true understanding of it is unearthed in my daily commitment to live an awakened life. No one is born awake. It is through the diligence of practice and dedication we get to come home, time and time again, to our True Self and do the truly great things we are built for.

I’ve used the practices of coaching, journal writing, meditation, habit change, visualization, mindfulness, yoga, breath, NLP, and more to create a whole new life, to change my health, to heal depression, to create financial prosperity, to draw opportunities to me, and more.

I will always and forever be my first client and student. I will not ask you to do anything inside this work I myself am unwilling to do or have yet to do. Your path will not look the same, but the principles we use to create our very desires are universal.

I am a lifetime seeker, as are my clients. And while along the journey I know you will find the things you want, you will also continuously come home to your true self. Want to join me?

Learn everything you need to know here > 
www.awakenyourlifecoach.com

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Getting my groove back
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I had an experience over 7 months ago I haven't really shared much here. Sometimes the line between my own process and what gets used to teach or guide others is blurred. It can quickly feel like everything in my life is game for public consumption and to be fair, we promote this with social media. We want to know what the people we admire are living through. 

However, some experiences are mine to soak in. Some come to this space or into my work with some immediacy, while others feel harbored so I can really get what I need from the experience first. I am human and also do the work. I don’t feel it’s serving or safe to bring all of my stuff into this space because you aren’t here to take care of me. This can appear as though I’ve got it all figured out — I don’t.

I practice what I preach and am, like everyone, a work in progress. I work with coaches and spiritual mentors as well as journal, meditate, and reflect on my own fears and desires just like you. And last summer I got some potent advice from within that I've been loving and living from ever since.

I don't subscribe to dogmatic approaches to health or wellness. I am wary of trends (I do admit I am on the celery juice bandwagon right now) and I don't find extremes to be healthy for my psyche. I consider myself a pretty healthy gal and feel very blessed to be able to spend time in clean air, drink water from the tap, eat organic veggies, and design my day so that I get to do things like walk and meditate.

I also have had a poor relationship with my body since I was a kid. I can say easily that I've spent more years berating myself than loving myself. This has looked like many different things — crash diets, extreme exercise, not eating, not looking at my body in the mirror, counting calories, a myriad of mind games. This wasn't wellness. 

Being my parents' caretaker when they were both dying brought me nose-to-nose with the sacredness of living in a body and also profound gratitude for being able-bodied and mobile. And yet between grief and stress, I chose to cope the best way I knew how. We all do this. I was overwhelmed with this transition and took it out in my body through words and actions. 

I ate all the sugar. I drank all the wine. I ate all the pizza. I slept all the hours. I expressed all the anger at my stomach and hips. I numbed out.

Now, don't get me wrong. There were days with grief where these things felt like true nourishment. But when they stopped nourishing me I turned a blind eye. 

There I was just days after my birthday, staring into the pages of my journal willing words to appear and tell me what to do. Tell me something that would get to the heart of it and help me re-align with not just feeling good but choosing vitality. 

Then, this journal prompt came out of my pen before I could even contemplate what I was asking myself. The prompt? If you were pregnant and responsible for another life, how would you treat yourself?

Let me be clear here — I have never been pregnant and we are currently planning our life assuming we won't have kids. So this prompt surprised me but it also got my attention!

The next thing I knew I was writing out sentence after sentence for how to heal. Heal my thoughts, mend my body, eat to promote mindful grieving, movement for connection and not punishment, and the list went on.

In the end, here are the major shifts I made that have given me a new kind of love for my body and the part of me that carries me every day so I can do the things that call me.

I got rid of every toxic skin and hair product. This included hand soap, deodorant, face lotion, shampoo, and more. This is not something I ever considered. And yet as I cleaned out these things from my life and actually studied the labels...well I can see what my intuition was up to.

I took alcohol out of the house. This was big. Like, really big. For years I've been a casual wine consumer. I was so embarrassed by how much my consumption was creeping up and couldn't fathom not drinking. This was a pretty good indication I needed to shift my relationship to this substance. I didn't take it out completely but reduced my intake by 90%. This alone has changed my life.

I started strength training again. I began lifting weights in 2009 and to this day, a strength session has this ability to empower me in every way. I found someone I trusted and bought a membership. Even when it's very cold in our garage I am committed to inner and outer strength. 

I stopped eating gluten. Again, I am not dogmatic about this stuff. I don't have a grain allergy. And yet, there is a vast difference in my mind, my joints, my belly, and my energy when I don't eat gluten. 

I rearranged my schedule so I could walk with my love daily. Touching nature every day is pure medicine. 

I signed up for yoga teacher training. I joined to reconnect with my body through breath, stillness, presence, and a practice not predicated on fitness but mindfulness. 

I don't work with physical wellness in my work but I know you have a body and I also know that the relationship you have with your body matters, literally. I would go on to add more and more practices to my life and be less strict on others. However, I can say that this list is intact. My journal delivered me precisely what I needed to hear and in a way I could own.

The results from this shift are immeasurable. The biggest one I have to say is how I communicate with myself now. My cells are listening. I decided that since I spent the last 18 years convincing my body she was imperfect I owe her at least the next 18 years loving on her fiercely. Maybe even longer.

Is there a shift you're in the brink of owning in your own life?

Will you gift me 90 minutes of your time to show you what you're capable of? Click the link below to choose your time & date.


Book a 90-Minute Problem Solving & Possibility Creating Coaching Experience with Me.


Wait.


Before you click that link and book time with me. I want you to answer these questions for yourself:

  • Why seek a coach now? What was/is the tipping point that brought you to this place?

  • What do you need to come out of this conversation either knowing or remembering about yourself?

  • What is the cost of not doing this work now?

  • Who will be affected by you doing this work? Think of the ripple effect beyond what you can see.

  • What holds you back? What compels you to move forward?

OK — now...

Book a 90-Minute Problem Solving & Possibility Creating Coaching Experience with Me.

If after this session you don't wish to continue coaching, that's OK! If you do, then we'll discuss what this looks like.

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What's REALLY Possible?
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I used to think the word potential was too nebulous to have actual meaning in my life. The definition of potential is to "show capacity to become something in the future." By definition, you can never get there. And then, I read this book. I won't dilute this extraordinary read to a single sentence. The best I can do is urge you to read it. 

It reminded me of a life principle I've held true for many years now — that you don't interact with the world by how you see it; you create your world by how you see it. You draw to you the very experiences that uphold your beliefs, and therein lies the greatest opportunity of the human experience: you are not beholden to where you are today. But to live the life you feel destined for is going to take more than a desirous longing. 

It is going to take gumption.

My mom had gumption. During her life, she mothered, started businesses, became a writer, was an artist, drove across the country, fell in love with nature, and made a decision early in her life that her daughter would not know the tremendous pain she did as a child.

That her daughter would have the freedom, education, and opportunity to act on independent choices no matter what the world told her she was or was not. That daughter is me. 

I didn't fully appreciate growing up what my mother was doing. I didn't know any different. She was, in many ways, my first coach and mentor. But beyond that, she did more than cheer me on. She told me every day that I could do what I set my mind and heart to. 

But as an adult woman who spends her days riding the fine line with people between encouragement and unrolling the past, I bump into story after story riddled with reasons why someone must stay within the lines.

Why someone is bound to where they come from more than they are prepared to let it go.

This is the hard part of the work. Not untangling your stories or bumping into limiting beliefs or self-doubt. Put me in the ring with these parts of you any day. The hard part is watching someone who truly believes the fear and is choosing a life path that abides. A path that keeps the gremlins in play.

I'm not OK with this.

You see, I was also raised with one single rule. This was more important than our homework or weekend chores. This rule was paramount and respected. It came with no guidebook or instructions but it was pre-determined on behalf of me and my siblings that we would live by this rule.

The rule?

Follow your bliss.

Now, as a child, upon hearing this I remember thinking, "That sounds easy enough. I mean, it has the word 'bliss' in it. How hard can it be?" (This is where I insert an eye-roll emoji or several.)

Don't be fooled. While bliss is the thing that keeps you going, it is not a place you arrive fully. Thank goodness bliss dangles its light at the end of the tunnel or we'd never do the unfurling, untangling, or unhooking from our life in an attempt to reach it.

But to follow your bliss is an act of courage. 

Following your bliss is not about pursuing your passion. It is about going in search of the meaning of your life. I believe every human being has a bliss-point — a place within themselves through the pursuit of which they will discover the purpose of their life. 

You don't land in this meaning as a single revelation. As my dad told me once, "Andrea, don't go in search of the meaning of life. There is no ONE single meaning of life. You must CREATE the answer you seek."

In my own experience, this has meant walking through storms, sitting in dark nights of the soul, and crossing many plains of fear.

There are many moments where following my bliss feels lonely. Not because I am alone, but because along the way, I bump into so many people not following their bliss. People who choose their past as their default future and people who see bliss as the thing of fairy tales and child-like imagination. Certainly not a place to dedicate your life.

Well. I see things differently. I think the cost of us each of us individually and valiantly pursuing our bliss is precisely why we're suffering so immensely. Someone who is wholeheartedly dedicated to his or her life purpose and path isn't gleeful all the time or blindly happy. They are aware of something far more powerful.

They know their wholeness.  

And let me share a secret that you already know — when you know your wholeness you don't need to diminish the light of another. There's no competition, no battle, no lesser than.

From this place, abundance flows because you are literally enough, along with joy, contentment, trust, meaning, and the inevitable rise of the people you surround yourself with. 

The choosing of this, however, is where gumption comes in.

As far as I am concerned, I have only just scratched the surface of this work. I may be 9 years and 5,000 conversations in but it's just the start. However, in this time I can say one thing for certain — far MORE people will turn away from this than toward it. 

It isn't always for a lack of motivation or resource. Sometimes it is.
It isn't always for a lack of clarity. Sometimes it is.
It isn't always for a lack of desire or seeing what's possible. Sometimes it is.
It isn't always for a lack of gumption. Mostly, it is.

And if I want to see more people choose their PATH than not, I better also be prepared to go first. The thing about living your path is you get it wrong a lot. I get it wrong a lot. But it's my path, I have the right to fail at my own path! But I also have the right to get up, dust myself off, and keep going.

If I invited gumption to the table and asked her where it's time to dance what would she say? Well, per usual she did a mic drop last week. And I listened. 

The places I get to invite so many of you into are very meaningful to me. Places like this weekly practice space, our free community, my monthly classes, our weekend immersion, my coaching circle, and my coach training program. I do my best each day to bring my wholeness through my work and these are the expressions it currently wants to dance with.

And...

One was missing.

I was missing a sacred place in my work to see what the sum of my parts is capable of creating with someone. Isn't that we all want? When you really can step out of your way, stop dancing with fear, and start dancing with your potential what is available to you?

I was asking the wrong question. I've been asking of this work, "What is the least someone can do and still experience a powerful shift in their life?" Sometimes, less is more. And sometimes it's not nearly enough. It's a question that wasn't giving me the room to pour on the possibility. 

I changed the question and asked myself, "What is this work truly capable of and what is the REALITY of that?" This is a vulnerable question. Because the answer isn't convenient or for everyone. But when I meditated on the few people this would speak to it was exhilarating. It felt like the place I am finally ready to go.

I've created a year-long coaching experience and have begun inviting a few individuals to be part of it. I've put together a page about it but it comes with this request:

***This is not for everyone. I am currently interviewing those it is a good fit for and will take my time with a process that is sacred to me. You can check out the program here but you must input your name and email to view it.

Why? Discernment. 

If we are just getting acquainted...
If you are new to my world...
If you have never worked with a coach...
If you don't know what you're dedicated to wholly or working to fulfill...

Then I can tell you now this is not for you and I've created plenty of awesome places for you to get what you need. If you are in a place where a year of self-study, dedication, intentional creation, unfurling the past and questioning every belief getting in your way is for you then I invite you to learn more about this year together. 

I will be personally following up with everyone who opts in. I look forward to having a conversation! Get the details here: 
https://www.andrealeda.com/oneyear

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My word for the year
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I am not someone who runs at a new year with a massive quest for life changes. This has never been my thing. Mostly because, although we are returning to the light bit by bit each day, we are also steeped in winter; a time built into our life for solitude, introspection, quiet, and stillness.

New goals require the energy of fire which comes with the spring and summer seasons. By all means, create some new resolve for your year but also give yourself the necessary spaciousness for it to come in its own timing.

For the past few years, I've taken to choosing a word for my new year. Some have been spot on and quite helpful while others I had to abandon mid-year to make room for life happenings. I am not dogmatic about this word because it should help me move toward more life and I try to stay open to where that might come from.

When I conjure up this new word I take two things into account: everything the previous year brought and taught me and what I intend to stay anchored to in the next twelve months.

I take into consideration what I am interested in now, and if I dropped any need to prove myself in this new year, where would I give myself bountiful permission to go next?

I went in search of a word that balanced presence with growth, ease with effort, and that sweet spot I feel called to over and over that can look ahead but not mistake the future for potentially being better than this very moment I'm in. It would be easier to choose a sentence! But this is part of the challenge. 

It doesn't matter what the word is to anyone but me. The word could be cryptic or a metaphor so long as when I see it, think it, remember it, I know what it's reminding me of or inviting me to do. When I think back on the past two years it's safe to say a word that allows for the unexpected would be a wise choice.

For the past few months I've been a student in a 200-hour yoga teacher training; something I gifted myself to have my own container for self-reflection and quite honestly, healing. Not healing from something that can be fixed or mended, but healing parts of me that are still swimming around in transition and re-orienting my life without my parents. It felt only natural that my word would come from this space.

I sought out yoga because it's wise, symbolic, and a practice. Three of my favorite things. While movement is one practice of yoga there are several others I connect with even more. Practices of breath, clear seeing, presence, dharma, and not surpassing the human experience in search of something more "spiritual." It doesn't get more spiritual than accepting and embracing the human experience.

My word comes from a practice called Shambhala. As quoted from this book, 


"Shambhala teachings are not based on converting the world. The premise of the Shambhala vision is that in order to establish an enlightened society for others, we need to discover what inherently we have to offer the world...the essence of Shambhala or the essence of human bravery is refusing to give up on anything or anyone...We have the burden of helping this world but if we take this burden as a delight, we can actually liberate this world."

Chögyam Trungpa, Shambhala: The Sacred Path of the Warrior
 

My word is brave.


Brave in the Shambhala vision means not being afraid of who you are; yourself, your True Self, and that at your core you are goodness.

If I Google the definition for brave, I don't resonate with what pops up. And yet this word is all over my life. It is the thing I am called to be, demonstrate, create, and defend over and over but it isn't fearlessness, audacity, or gutsy. 

Brave is leaning in.

Brave is "Owning our story and loving ourselves through the process," as Brené Brown says.

Brave is not turning a blind eye or ear.

Brave is acceptance and compassion in action.

Brave is sitting in the muck.

Brave is choosing yourself.

Brave is knowing that, "What you love — what you long to do — is really, really important," as Tara Mohr reminds us.

Brave is saying goodbye before you're ready.

Brave is the burden and delight of liberating the world from unnecessary suffering.

And Brave is belonging wholeheartedly to yourself.

So yeah, my word is brave.

If this process inspires you then I hope you, too, will take some time to search for your word.

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10 Signs your calling is whispering to you
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I used to think callings were reserved for a special audience, and that certainly was not me. I was just a girl from a suburb of Seattle, why on earth would a calling decide to land in my lap? Until I felt like one came knocking on my door I also didn't give them much thought. I don't remember the word 'calling' being part of my common vocabulary or something I fretted over.

I share in depth about my own moment of awakening and the calling that slipped through the door here. We all have a calling. Sometimes it comes through loud and clear. Other times it's merely a faint whisper, and you feel crazy for even thinking something is speaking to you. (You're not alone!) In order to answer your calling, you have to let go. And risk the leap into the unknown. 

I answered my calling because I ached to return to my intuitive roots and use my gift to help people heal and radically love their life. But my work was just one calling and I can say that I've had hundreds of callings, maybe more and I bet you have too. Some felt like earth shakers - callings that asked me to change careers, move cities, marry the love of my life. Others were the smallest of nudges - to read a book, travel someplace, write a poem.

As Gregg Levoy says in his book, Callings -

“The purpose of calls is to summon adherents away from their daily grinds to a new level of awareness, into a sacred frame of mind, into communion with that which is bigger than themselves.”


What is the purpose of a calling? In short, I don't really know. If I sit with my own experience of them they feel like contractual nudges from the universe designed to crack me open so I may let even more life in. 

Before I began answering my callings, there was life with motion but it didn't move me. My callings have moved me to engage with life like an artist who is painting and being painted at the same time. A calling isn't someplace you arrive; it's the pathway to take you back to yourself, your whole self.

10 Signs your calling is whispering to you

1. Simple Joy
Before the fear sets in, the sheer thinking or reflecting on this thing that's calling you brings you simple joy. 

2. It gets your nervous system fired up
Thinking about it makes your heart race, maybe your palms sweat, and your breath quickens. It feels like anxiety but beneath this response is also a subtle knowing that this is something altogether different.

3. You get a lot obsessed with it
You think about it, journal about it, talk about it to only those you deeply trust and find yourself fantasizing about this thing constantly.

4. You think, "But everyone is doing this!"
The idea of following this calling feels silly because you assume everyone has already answered the same calling. You wonder things like, "Why me?" and, "How could I also do this?"

5. It scares you
This calling is scary and unnerving. This is the reason most ignore what calls them fiercely in an effort to also avoid having to do the scary, unnerving thing.

6. It emboldens you
Oddly, while it scares you it also emboldens you. The thought of answering your calling and it working brings more courage to your life.

7. It pulls you forward
Instead of feeling pushed or forced, there is a power that draws you in and pulls you forward. 

8. You question everything
A calling will beg you to question whole aspects of yourself. You may question your beliefs, your faith, your experiences, even your way of seeing life.

9. There's more doubt than certainty
There is nothing certain about a calling. They are risk-filled and will you challenge you. By nature, this makes them uncertain and not a guaranteed good choice.

10. It can't be ignored, quieted, or silenced (and you've attempted all three) Believe it or not, ignoring your calling is more painful than letting it in. And once in, it's best to let go. It's like letting a dam crack open. The sheer force will run its course -- let it. Whatever it takes down was not very strong to begin with.

And as that water churns and washes over the landscape of your life you'll wake up. You'll fully wake up and there will come a day and you'll say, "Oh. I get it now." And you'll get back to creating your life. Your simple, meaningful, call-filled life.

If your calling is also your purpose and has led you to a service-business then I invite you to join Awaken Your Practice Online - 12 weeks to help you find your true north, take the right actions for you in business, and make the impact you feel called to make.

The LIVE classes begin January 9th! The whole program is just 6 payments of $99.
> https://www.awakenyourpractice.com/online

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The Weekly Practice
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I've fallen in love with two words through my work — awaken and practice. For me, they co-create in what feels like a mysterious but intuitive way, but perhaps it's all in how you personally employ them.

I don't feel like I went in search of these words so much as they found me both through experience and the longing to marry slowing down with a reminder so simple it came in the form of single words. Words that remind me daily that all of life is a constancy of ease, effort, and engagement, and when done with intention you get to see more, experience more, and understand more.

In short, awakening is a practice.

I used to think awakening or answering a call came in a burst of insight; some singular yet profound event that could magically land me in a whole new reality. And should this day come, I also wanted it to solve a bunch of problems for me such as worthiness, self-acceptance, trust, and how about making me more money while we're at it.

I thought if you were awake, then doesn't all of life get easier? Shouldn't that be the deal?

My favorite definition of awakening is "Coming into awareness." What awareness? It depends on what needs to be seen, noticed, or felt in that moment. What I love most about this practice of awakening is its never-endedness. It can't be accomplished. It is either present or not present.

But then the most profound thing of all happened in my life — loss. Significant, identity-altering loss. The kind of experience that did wake me up but subsequently required a daily practice or I would get lost down the grief rabbit-hole; a place it can feel all too easy to climb into.

In other words, awakening didn't solve my problems. Instead it seemed to create a whole host of new ones I was unprepared to manage. Emotions like sadness and longing, memories that just tap me on the shoulder when they desire to, and questioning more than I knew I was questionable.

However, these were not my only companions. I've been accompanied by gratitude, clarity, presence, faith, and even a splash of reverence. Some have asked me if my practices are now about mitigating pain but it couldn't be farther from the truth. Now, my practices embrace life more wholly. But here's why:

The whole of your life, the really good stuff that you will recount as having made up who you are, cannot be mentally chewed through. It requires space to converse with, to invoke you, and to guide you from a deep well already inside you. 


The space you create in your life for such a process is called contemplative practice. My favorite definition of this practice comes from Naropa University:


"Contemplative practice transcends the idea that knowledge arises in the thinking mind only. Instead, it invites students to embrace the immediacy of their interior lives as a way to fully integrate what they learn."


Over the past 18 months, I've come to long for this container that gives way to interior space. While my practices vary — yoga, writing, meditation, cooking, walking, art — their purpose has one constant:awakening. The purpose of a practice is a continuous exploration of the self which assumes there is always something to unearth.

A yoga teacher of mine recently shared this: "Don't break the body to meet the idealism of a pose. Build the pose to meet this moment of the body." Practice isn't about a life rehearsal in order to perfect or perform when the time comes. Practice means allowing the experiences of your life to give you a greater capacity for things like compassion, insight, grace, love, intuition, meaning, and purpose. 

In a world where accomplishment has become a harsh measurement for a successful life, the experience of loss has taught me a different rule book; one that beckons a different journey not as popular but, for me, far more fulfilling.

I made a choice when I lost my parents to only move toward my personal truth and continue to create a life I both take seriously and find immense joy within. This may not speak to you. You may be in search of more convenient answers that don't require stillness or sitting in open-endedness. If so, this may be where we part. 

However, if you're craving something similar, here's what you can expect from what I am calling the Weekly Practice:

  • Content to open you to your interior.

  • Personal stories to help you feel seen and not alone.

  • Resources I am currently reveling in such as podcasts, books, and writing prompts.

Thank you for being a reader and for committing to your own practices! Having this space has been a personal refuge and I am grateful to have readers such as you.

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Awaken Your Practice Online is here!
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When I first created Awaken Your Practice in 2016 I had the idea of helping my fellow heart-centered business owners learn that they did have a place in business. I've run this program four times and have plans to host the live workshop twice in 2019. But to take the program online was a dream I didn't know if I was ready for.

I didn't want to take an experience known for connection, in-depth conversation, and big aha moments and dilute it down to something I attempted to convey over recorded videos and emails. It just isn't me. So, I am doing this in a way that speaks to what I love about this work — the people I get to spend my days with and the things they trust me to witness and support in their businesses.

Yes, Awaken Your Practice Online requires a computer but I will be teaching the weekly classes LIVE.

People find this course for many reasons but of all the ones I hear, what every student tells me is how ready they are to finally trust themselves and be seen in their work. If you're anything like me then you often wonder:


"Can I be my most authentic self, actually help people, and make money?"


The short answer? Yes. 
The more honest answer? Only to the extent you know and trust yourself.

I could create a business mentorship that teaches you my back-end systems, how I create my programs, how I find clients and a myriad of other things you think you need. I could also point you in the direction of business coaches doing this because it isn't really what I do.

If you're looking for another "done-for-you" business program then I am probably not your girl. If you're exhausted by this business thing and truly just want to change more lives by being yourself, then keep reading.

I don't do strategy. Period. Because finding the best strategy to grow your business is not the problem. Knowing which one is best for you — now we're getting warmer, but this is still not the full problem.

If you don't know who you are in business, then no matter what ideas you're handed, they get layered on top of a cracked foundation, and no matter how great the idea, it will invariably crumble. I support my business mentees in discovering what works for them after they come heart-to-heart with who that really is.

When you do this, you choose the right ways in business for you and get to cut out so much of the noise swimming around out there. As you've probably already seen, there is a lot!

While most conferences will teach you how to design programs, make more money, use social media, or become a marketing genius at Awaken Your Practice we begin with the most important part of your business — YOU.

At Awaken Your Practice, learn how to trust in your business by believing in and trusting yourself. By re-connecting with your original medicine you can help those who need you in the way only you are built to serve.


How you do business isn't like anybody else.


Your intuition and call to serve make you ripe for success, but most service-practitioners are keeping their biggest treasures hidden — generosity, compassion, positivity, and hope for what's possible on our planet.

If you don't fit into the typical success model, then this is for you. I want you to create a service-business that changes more lives and stays true to you at the same time.

I've opened 30 spots in the online course.

6 payments of $99
or save 20% when you pay in full - $497

>> Registration is open only until all 30 spots are filled. This will sell out! 

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The question I asked 50 women...
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Any time I am invited to give a talk, teach something, or impart some wisdom I am always struck with two inner dialogues. The first is always excitement and says, "I can't wait!" But inevitably the second one that can't help but chime in is dismay, "Who am I to impart wisdom? I am not famous, popular, important..."

So I found the irony quite fitting that the very thing I would teach at the Superwoman Summit is also the very thing I continually need reminding of. That before we can change people's lives we have to be totally ourselves. 

Is it that simple? Well, sort of.
Is it that easy? I wish.

Don't get me wrong, we can't just sit on our yoga mat or write our morning pages and hope that our deep desire for positive changes in the world will magically happen. However, which part of you is moved to help progress those changes? Which part of you wakes up every day and decides where to spend energy, time, and effort? Are you embittered by what you see in the world or emboldened by it?

The tagline on my website reads, "Change more lives by being yourself." I do believe that before we can see a different world we have to SEE a different world. In other words, did you know that when you change the way you look at yourself, the way you look at others also changes? Changing the world is not just an inside job, but it is the starting gate.


"True belonging is the spiritual practice of believing in and belonging to yourself so deeply that you can share your most authentic self with the world and find sacredness in both being a part of something and standing alone in the wilderness. True belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are.” 

― Brené Brown, Braving the Wilderness


Read this quote again and then again. Read it until it really soaks in. We cannot change the world if we are not totally in contact with the part of us that desires change. We can not affect the world if we are unwilling to affect ourselves.

Here's the question I asked that room of women just a week ago. A question I ask you too. No matter who you are, this is a human question: 

What kind of world do you want to belong in?


Now, an equally important question - how do you fully embody that world yourself? This is where I urge you to begin.

The difference between interest in change and commitment to change is taking 100% responsibility for your life. And the decision to do so happens in an instant. Yes, even the things that happen to you that you don’t choose. Can you be a victim? Yes, of course. But when you hold on to your experience you are self-victimizing.

The more willing you are to go into the darkness, the more light you let in. Suffering is human. You will never not suffer. Suffering isn't the problem. Unintegrated and rejected suffering is the problem. And as Tony Robbins says, "Your problem is you think you shouldn't have problems."

No matter your goal in doing this work and following your calling to serve, I believe our common ground and role is to remind people of their innate enoughness and that they do in fact matter. Are you waiting for someone to see you come fully alive before you do? Are you waiting for someone to grant you permission to be totally who you are meant to be?

Whichever path you choose inward, what matters is that you head in that direction. That process is called many things but I often refer to it simply as, "the work." (Not to be confused with Byron Katie's process, "The Work.") 

The work is something all human beings come wired to do but it will challenge you, stretch you, and deepen you. You are wired for struggle but you are also wired for growth born from resiliency. It may not feel so big at first, but there will come a day, a totally ordinary day, when you look out into the world and realize you don’t see the same world – because you aren’t the same person.

This is the power of self-transformation: it has the ability to change our entire outlook, and in doing so, we actually change the things we’re looking at. 

In just one week I embark with a new cohort through Awaken Your Life. While this is a Master Life Coach certification program and we trek through 200 hours of content, there is something much bigger at play.

My students choose this program because they're ready to come home to themselves, but they don't have to search for their authentic selves - it's always there. Instead, they remember that they are allowed to change more lives by being wholly themselves.

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This is for mama
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Yesterday was one year since my mama passed. One whole year of holidays, birthdays, late night phone calls, silly jokes, letters, coffee dates, and missed mama advice. It wasn't a whole year of just missing her; while that is always top of my mind, it was also a year of remembering everything she taught me and prepared me for.

This is me and my mama on my wedding day in 2016. I actually didn't know this photo existed until I went to write today's newsletter and sifted through some forgotten photos - like a little nudge from beyond this image appeared. This photo probably means the most to just me but it's worth sharing. 

We subscribe to someone's list or email in hopes of getting something - new ideas, fresh insight, a solution we're in search of. Most of the time I am happy to give these things. I am simply grateful to have readers who show up with me each week. 

But some days, like today, I want to park all the need for "more" and invite you someplace else. Because even I don't hang out in the outcome-side of my industry all day. 

I feel this need today to remind you of our shared humanity. That whatever it is you get from reading these weekly notes or from following my work, I hope you remember that life is a complex and messy cosmic dance. Even we guides and teachers don't have a lick of it figured out. 

These past 12 months were a year-long practice in moving from looking for someone to graduate me into my life to me deciding that to wait any longer was simply too painful. But it wasn't a leap of faith I leaned into; it was more of a very quiet practice in trusting myself more and more.

Losing my mama was a big moment and radical experience. It shook me loose of looking for proof that I could fully be me before I was. This year became a practice in choosing the things I was called to, and not looking for approval from those around me.

The thing I least expected? That such a loss could bring me closer to life. I thought it would separate me, divide me, prove to me the unfairness of life or give me more reason to lose my most cherished resource: hope. Instead, I have come more alive in the last year than I can ever remember doing in my whole existence. But "coming fully alive" was also redefined.

To come fully alive to me is a practice in allowance and faith that you are more ready than you think you are to be living (or believing) the life you crave.

As a human being myself I can relate to that "stuckness" you feel when you just know in your bones you are not totally honoring your truth or speaking up for your life. It's almost too difficult for words because it's a visceral feeling, a sticky fear where you can see what's possible but not...quite...touch it. 

What if you did?
Where might you begin?
What risk are you avoiding that you might consider taking?

I can't help but share this quote by Norman Cousins:


"The tragedy of life is not death, it is what we allow to die within us while we live."


When I work with any client or student, this becomes the work: not just defining what would bring you to life, but also what would help you see yourself in a new and more accurate light that says, "That life I see is already available to me."

We move from waiting to live, to living. There's no right time. Space will not magically grant itself to you. Space appears when you show up and CHOOSE your life. As far as I am concerned, this is the only decision: to decide to choose more joy, or less. 

That joy may ride on taking a risk like leaving a career or standing up for something you believe in. But when the thing you're leaning into brings you congruency with yourself and with your soul, then you land in joy. Joy may ride in on fear at first – fear of what others will think and fear of having to explain yourself. But this can also lead to freedom. And what is more joyful than complete freedom?

When my mom passed it wasn't a thrust into living more boldly. I wasn't looking to move mountains, jump out of airplanes, or add more risk to my plate. This didn't feel like more life; these things felt like a poor substitution to jump start feeling like you're alive.

Instead, it was very subtle but enlivening in the deepest way. With potent clarity I realized that the life I wanted to live was already inside of me, but it would take my choosing to recognize this to embolden it. This is why I named my certification course Awaken Your Life. I can think of no three words that better define what this work is intended for. 

So, what makes you come fully alive? I invite you to make your life a dedication to not only answering this question but to living this question. It's not something you choose once, but many times. Daily, really.  

So quit your job. Build your business. Write your book. Go back to school. Move to the farm. Sell everything you own. Practice kindness. Travel to India. Sit still. Trust yourself.

Whatever calls to you is already a part of you. And only you can hear that call. I promise whatever you have to lose, you're meant to lose and experience that loss. Because it gets to be filled up with LIFE.

Beautiful, messy, uncertain, playful, full, unpredictable, and miraculous life. 

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The Best Practice
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I will never forget when I left my graduate program in counseling. Correction: when I left two graduate programs in counseling. I guess dropping out just once wasn't sufficient for me. ;) But in all seriousness, I did leave because the whole helping people mend what's broken didn't land for me. 

Do we need to help from time to time? Yes.
Do we need to remember that we are ok and capable? Of course.
Are there people who are in need of mental health support and recovery? Absolutely.

The thing is, it isn't that this kind of work isn't important it just isn't what I am here to deliver. And I can say with such honesty that for the first 7 years of my career I felt bad about this.

When I first got into coaching I didn't really know what I was getting myself into. Did I want to support people's goals? Help them heal? Show them how to live by their values? Or did I simply want a career I thought would be useful to others?

Perhaps all of the above.

Technically I am trained in these things but over the last 8 years as a professional coach, something I didn't expect to come through the work has emerged. I will get to that in a moment.

But instead of really heeding that call I assumed I was in the wrong. More so, I wondered what was wrong with me?

Why couldn't I just do what other coaches did?
Why couldn't I just follow the rules and guidelines that had so perfectly been crafted for me?
Do I simply like to make things more difficult or was it really not enough to satisfy me?

And then two major life events solidified that I didn't need to answer these questions. These questions had already been answered and I knew what kind of work I really did but I was the only one who could own it wholly. No one could give me permission. I had to grant it myself.

Before my dad passed away we had a conversation that will stick with me forever. We were standing in the kitchen and I told him that I had finally admitted to myself that I was deeply DIS-interested in helping people mend their lives. This may seem like a subtle realization but I had been banging my head against the wall (not literally) for years wishing this work fulfilled me.

I have no desire to help people "get better". I have no desire to help people slog through old memories and replay the things that have left their mark. Please don't get me wrong, I have been this client in need of this work. But that I myself don't want to be a dumping ground for the things we wish didn't happen.

I also have no desire to help people set big goals and inch their way toward what they believe is more happiness driven by some external need to see themselves in a place other there where they are right now. This is what most coaching is predicated on and while it's useful it is a micro sliver of the whole picture.

So, then, what DO I want?

I want to sit with you as you have the most life-giving conversation about your life and witness you coming home to your True Nature.

I want to hold space for you to go within and realize you are actually an active co-creator of reality and you have everything you need.

I want to ask those questions that not only get to the heart of the matter but open new worlds internally and allow you to fully own your soul path.

And I want to challenge the narrow viewpoint that you are separate, taking on the world when really we are a collective consciousness spinning through the cosmos expanding with every thought. 

Is this spirituality? I don't know.
Is it mental health? Maybe.
Is it emotional resilience? Perhaps.

Am I tired of trying to define it? YES.

So this is me, standing in a ground that I totally love but can't simply define and I am ok with that. I am ok with it because of what I see in the people I am lucky enough to talk to. And because of the students I am lucky enough to guide and teach.


I call this Life Practice.


Not practice as in a repeated exercise in life but practice as in the ongoing application of your personal dance with life.

I will leave you with this quote from Donna Farhi:


"The best practice can only be defined as the one that works. What matters is that whatever we do we hold to the intention and spirit of the practice, which is to bring together rather than to pull apart."


Scroll down for two powerful questions and journal prompts I hope bring these ideas home for you.

And if this kind of work calls you - the not mending and the not goal setting but rather the work of guiding others toward a life practice that brings them HOME to themselves, I invite you to consider Awaken Your Life.

Journal Prompts:

Who am I becoming through my life practice?
Am I becoming the world in which I wish to live?

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Awaken Your Life Master Coach Training
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It's finally here! Awaken Your Life is now open for enrollment. Are you ready to join the 2018-19 cohort? For those who have been asking about my work and how to coach like me, this is your chance to learn.

Awaken Your Life is the only 200-hour Master Coach Training that is also designed to change your life. Whether your goal is to become a full-time coach, lead retreats, facilitate transformative experiences, incorporate coaching into an existing career, or transform your own life by dedicating 9 months to walking inward, Awaken Your Life is for you.

 

Practitioners, leaders, professionals, and destined healers - It's your time,

 

I believe wholeheartedly in this work. Ever since I was a little girl I have loved helping others. Although I never believed it would lead to my calling one day - I simply saw myself as someone who loved people and truly wanted the best for them.

It's comforting to know there are so many of us out there who are called to service. Although it takes many forms I do believe we all have one thing in common - hope.

Hope is a powerful thing because no matter what we experience or endure, or what we watch others endure, we don't lose faith that at our core we are good and will move toward goodness if given the chance to do so. This gets me out of bed every day. I also believe that wholeness is our birthright.

Over the past 13 years I've chosen to explore people. First as a social worker, then as a counselor, and for the past 8 years as a professional life coach. I don't just teach this stuff, I am a practitioner in my own life and in my coaching practice.

Through more than 5,000 one-to-one conversations I can say that what we most desire is to know our life matters and that we are seen and heard. It isn't complicated and yet this simple desire seems to elude most of us.

No matter your goal in doing this work and following your calling to serve, I believe our common ground and role is to remind people of their innate enoughness and that they do in fact matter.

Ready to apply? Learn everything you need to know about the program below and I look forward to guiding you through not only this work but awakening your best life from the inside out.

> www.awakenyourlifecoach.com

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A Big Ol' Dose of Permission
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My wife and I are big fans of the show "So You Think You Can Dance." There are so many reasons to tune into it, but for me it comes down to the positivity and encouragement of the show.

Their contestants are often young and yet through their performances they tackle things like acceptance, tolerance, human rights, injustice, and more. Last week there was a performance that had me in tears. You can watch it here.

There are many reasons to love this piece but what dug itself into my heart was the sheer courage to say, without words, so much about the power in being who we are, through and through, even when it's inconvenient for others.

After the piece was over, one of the judges commented, "It's incredible how difficult we've made it for people to simply be who they are, and trust that it's OK to be who they are . . ."

I found myself nodding emphatically.

No matter how many people I coach. No matter how many emails I send. No matter how many books I recommend or journal prompts I hand out...I can't solve this for anyone. I don't know if I can make the world a more tolerable place but I DO know I can help people trust their path wholeheartedly.

In just two months I will embark on another year of Awaken Your Life with a small group of students - students who are seeking more than just how to help people. They are also seeking how to be wholly themselves while helping people.

It sounds so simple . . . and yet what I find more often than not is that we are hungry for knowledge but starved for self-acceptance. 

We want to know "the" path but are quick to hide once we find it.

We want to help change the world but are quick to exempt ourselves from saving ourselves.

We are hungry to understand why things are as they are but we are also seeking simple solutions that may not exist.

As I said to a current Awaken Your Life student, "Mend what breaks your heart in the world by seeking wholeheartedness within yourself."

Is it that simple? No.
Is it remotely easy? Nope.
Is it a worthy quest? Absolutely.

When I first created Awaken Your Life, I followed a call to show my fellow wayfinders and life guides a more whole path to themselves and to serving others.

But even while I was writing the curriculum, planning beautiful retreats, and inviting people to apply . . . I hadn't yet given myself permission to really own this path. It was almost like I was watching myself do all of these things but wasn't embodying that I was allowed to do these things.

I mean, who I am to teach? Who am I to instruct? Who am I to facilitate? Perhaps your "Who am I to...?" questions are different but I know you have them. We all do.

I need to back up to this word - allowed. It wasn't that I needed allowance from others; I had been given that. It wasn't that I needed allowance from my students because they were showing up. No, I needed allowance from myself.

Allowance means how much something has been permitted. In other words, how much permission was I giving myself? How much permission have you given yourself?

These are powerful words because they open doors. 

Although I was hesitant to put this work out there, I did anyway. Because it ultimately wasn't about me. Sharing this work was and still is about showing others their own light. It's the ripple effect that keeps me moving through my own fears.

I will never forget at the end of the first in-residence retreat and more than 40 hours of teaching later I looked every single one of my students in the eyes and said, "Thank you. I get it now. I AM allowed."

And so are you. You are allowed. More than me telling you this, I hope you tell yourself this.

Ultimately, trusting what calls you has to come from within, and the permission to go after it when you hear your call also has to be your own. 

P.S.

> Want to see our new online home for Awaken Your Life? I am SO grateful to have launched this new space. Have a look around - And yes, applications for the 2018-19 cohort are open now!

www.awakenyourlifecoach.com

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Fall Coaching Circle Now Open
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"If not you, then who? If not now, then when? If not this, then what?" 


These words were gifted to me over a year ago and still ring in my ears. If not now, when? All we ever have is this very moment, and it's always the perfect one to do what we're all built for -
serve.

Coaching continues to be my fiercest gift to my fellow change agents, visionaries, and possibilitarians. 


Here's the thing - I believe wholeheartedly in the potential of humanity and was, for many years, apologetic for that hope.

Because at times, hope can feel naive and even ignorant. I am not unaware of the injustice in the world. But injustice isn't new. What we choose to do about it and how we choose to rise, is

Last year I wrote my most popular article to date about why I chose not to raise my prices in 2018, and why I actually decided to lower them. There's a trend in coaching to constantly be raising our rates, and I quickly fell into it.

By 2017 I was charging upwards of $2,500/month to be my client. I thought this meant I'd “made it”. Instead, I am sorry to say I lost something very dear to me. I lost my focus on the greater whole.

Coaching has quickly become an exclusive industry. As our prices rise, our exclusivity rises. As our exclusivity rises, we are no longer building unity and with it are fueling the very thing most coaches and healers claim to not stand for.

I sat down last year and had a heart-to-heart with myself. I remembered something a mentor told me. She said, "If a therapeutic process is inaccessible to any one person it is ineffective to all people."

This hit me hard then and still does today. If my work is not accessible then I am not congruent with my value of bringing more harmony to our world.

Enter, The Coaching Circle. A 1:1 private coaching experience that starts at $199/month. Yes, really. I wish I could work with all of you.

> What do you feel responsible for?
> What are you doing about it?
 

My new coaching circle is an invitation for 20 people and 20 change agents to come to life.

I am inviting 20 people to be personally coached and mentored by me emotionally, mentally, and spiritually for 6 months. If you're someone who feels called to something bigger in their life than this is for you. It is my greatest gift to help you change even more lives by trusting what calls you and believing in yourself.
 

There are a few things you need to know about working with me. 

My coaching is not...


...strategy and planning. Your ideas are not something you can think your way through. Your stories are not calculated but are instead created from your need for love and safety. When they stop serving you and you decide to face them or untangle them, it’s time to come out of your head and into your heart. We go in with radical acceptance and self-discovery. You will take action, but first, you have to meet yourself where you are.

...just life coaching. Coaching is a powerful tool and one that I love. It’s a way of showing up with someone and using powerful, open-ended questions to inspire new action in them. I use a coaching container, but I fully understand that I can’t help you move forward and get you where you want to go without giving space to where you come from, first.

...guru-ism. You are your own guru and your own change agent, first. We can be guides for others, but all we can do is facilitate an environment where change is possible. I can't change you for you. Just as you can't change others. But you can walk your path with integrity and congruency. And that is the most effective path to change we can embark on.


Together, you will...

1. Say Yes


Before you can do anything in the direction of what calls you, you have to say yes to it. You have to trust your path AND fully commit to it. Tucked inside of you is a message and a purpose that is tugging at you big time, am I right? 


2. Be Yourself


Whatever you piled on over the years - old identities, other people's idea of success, limiting beliefs about yourself - shed these. We don't have to go in search of your authentic self, we only have to strip away what isn't authentic to you. 


3. Change more lives by being yourself


You're a giver; you keep hope alive in those lives you change, and you do so by being your most authentic self. I don't need to remind you that there is something big at stake. Maybe you're headed in a direction you never predicted but the world is waiting for you. This I know...


The Coaching Circle

20 Transformative People, 6 Months, Innumerable Possibilities
Each of these 20 spots is an invitation to an experience of waking up your conviction and your compassion through deep coaching and it starts at just $199/month.

 

How to Be Part of The Coaching Circle:

1. Read ALL the details here

2. Choose your level and complete your application no later than Wednesday, August 22nd

3. If accepted you'll be sent a personal link to schedule your first coaching session & to pay your $199 deposit to hold your spot. Your first payment won't be charged until September 10th.

4. There are only 20 spots. No waitlist. This is the only way to coach 1:1 with me this year.

*The next Coaching Circle opens March 2019.

All of life is an extension of how you see yourself and how you show up in the world. Imagine what is possible...

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What I wish I knew in the beginning
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When I first started coaching, it was a return to myself. Do you ever find that your life just keeps looping on itself? Mine does. I knew when I was 5 years old I was meant to help others, but I would reject this idea for more than 20 years. 

I think we're most in tune with who we are at a very young age and will spend most of our adult life getting back to that time of innocence and freedom to be ourselves. Just ask your inner child what she or he would do and bask in their answer. It just might surprise you.

At the beginning of my practice I was super self-conscious. Am I any good? Do people actually want to pay me? Can I really do this? These questions plagued me for the first 5 years. I don't know if that is short or long but that was my experience. No matter how many clients or friends would tell me, "You're really great at this!" I simply didn't believe them.

Until October 2015. That fall I rented a beach house I'd had my eye on for a year and invited 10 others to join me for my first retreat. I charged them $0. This wasn't about a business offering, yet. It was about seeing if I could stretch myself and do something I'd never done before. It was about deciding to take a chance on myself.

This event was lovingly named #retreat. And while I would go on to run it twice more, that first one has a special place in my heart. It's where I finally let it sink in that I am good at this work. That I have a right to be in my industry. And that I do, in fact, belong here.

Why am I sharing this story? Because we all will have that moment when for whatever reason, we come face to face with our goodness and our ability and allow ourselves to be the thing we were meant to be all along.

I call this moment the pivot.

No one can prepare you for the pivot; the particular event itself could be mundane like standing in line at the grocery store, or something more enlivening like having your first child. 

The moment isn't predictable but it's on your path somewhere. I like to believe it's already built in like a light bulb and when it's time, it just turns on.

Your job? Recognize it.

I was the same person in pretty much every way before and after this experience except for one major shift - how I saw myself was different. This changed everything.

Of all the things I've seen in my work and in close to 5,000 conversations, the thing I wish I knew early on is this:


It isn't what you do that matters.

It's who you are when you do anything that matters.


In other words, success isn't just in the action. Success is in who is doing the action. 

And there are many different "who's" inside of you at all times. For example -

Confident Who
Fearful Who
Inspired Who
Nervous Who
Doubtful Who
On Purpose Who

You get the picture. If I asked you to pause here and make a list of all the different versions of yourself that come through daily it would be quite long. We are complex and our emotions don't stagnate. They are fluid and move through us every day, telling us what to feel, how to interpret everything, and what to take action on. 

Before that fateful retreat I was operating my work primarily from my Small Who. The part of me that didn't think she had the right to be great as a life coach and so she kept herself purposefully small. Never taking compliments, never accepting accolades, and flat-out not believing people who were telling me I was good. 

I had to experience it for myself. From a place within. I had to come into contact with a new part of myself - my confident and proud self.

I don't know why or how, but she showed up for those 4 days at the beach and changed the game for me. She showed me I CAN do the work I long for. She showed me what I AM capable of. She let herself be great and it felt incredible.

The people who hire me know what to do. Most of them even know how they want to do it. But most of them aren't. They aren't stepping fulling into a new "who." They assume that the lens they have for their contributions in the world is permanent and unchanging. 

I will fill you in on a big life secret: you can always change how you see yourself. This isn't the real magic. The real magic is that when you change how you see yourself, the self you see also changes.

From this space you can't help but make different choices. You can't help but show up more boldly. You can't help but make bigger asks of yourself and others. You can't help but take a stand for something bigger than you. And you can't help but take a seat at the table. 

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I am going back to school
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I can't say that I ever stop learning or seeking but there are times in my life where my dedication to seeking involves a single book and times when it involves a year-long course of study.

The desire now is two-fold - I want to know myself in the deepest way possible and I want those who come to me who are called to also know themselves have access to tools to make this possible. 

However, there was a time in my life when I used education to prove something. That I am smart enough, worthy enough, or valuable enough to do the work I am called toward.

I took an unconventional approach to my learning. After I finished my B.A. I couldn't find a "traditional" track that encompassed all of the nuances I was fascinated by. 

Over the past 13 years, I have piecemealed my education together. I've picked up fragments and remnants as I go, each adding another layer of depth to something we call "transformational processes."

Which is really a fancy way of saying I want to understand and be skilled in helping people intentionally change. 

I haven't been in a classroom since 2015 when I completed my Master Practitioner of NLP training. That training kicked my butt. It was taught in 126 hours over 14 days. At the time, this level of intensive learning matched where I was and I welcomed it. But now, I crave something different.

The important thing for me is that I am not my tools. I watch so many individuals use their education to become their tool - a coach, a therapist, a yoga teacher, a healer, a trainer, a fill-in-the-blank. This misses something for me. While I can utilize my tools I want to always keep this question in mind:

For what purpose?

My clients don't purchase tools. That would be like a client looking for their dream home and I sell them a hammer. It's going to get lost in translation.

I am always asking myself, "What is it I am in pursuit of and what will I need to do the pursuing?" Notice, I don't ask what will get me where I want to go. Because whatever outcome I desire isn't the tool's responsibility, it's mine. It's in the quality of my questions, my intention, and what is driving me toward that outcome in the first place.

In the past year I've shifted my thinking from being a practitioner to building a body of work. A body of work which is neverending, full of complexity, and is teaching me so much. From this place I went in search of what I wanted to immerse myself in next.

As a practitioner I overly relied on my tools. As a builder of a body of work I have to set the tools down as what drives me and let a different kind of guidance lead the way. Then I get to pick a tool up as I go, as it's needed. 

From this place I looked into a full spectrum of opportunities - Equus Coaching with Koelle Simpson, Ph.D. in Depth Psychology and Integrated Healing Practices from Pacifica (although I'll admit I mostly wanted to be called Dr. Andrea), several schools on Yoga, and even Past Life Regression Therapy with Dr. Brian Weiss.

Here's where I landed - A few weeks back I was sitting in my 2-day coaching mentorship with my current cohort of clients witnessing them have breakthroughs, deep insights, and play with horses.

One of my clients asked why I wasn't participating in one of the activities? I told her that I can't participate and hold space simultaneously...and that I am often envious of my clients because I build experiences I would thoroughly enjoy.

*lightbulb*

I knew at that moment that more than a classroom what I need and want now is a slow process, embodiment, a small community, long-term engagement, and something that will encourage me to tuck inside for a while giving me new access and new language for where I am. 

I enrolled in the Yoga Conservatory with Kate Holly. While there are many reasons why among the many yoga teacher trainings I chose this one, the word 'conservatory' captured me. Right on the website is this definition:

"An immersive school for the arts, where students are able to master their craft in the safe container of support and nurturance built by their teachers.  Its a school that holds space for both rigorous dedication to practice, and encouragement to experiment, step outside the comfort zone and potentially fail."

"A rigorous dedication to practice..." Yes! Done. Sign me up.

A school that is actually encouraging its students to not merely learn asana but to immerse yourself in the study of life through the lens of yoga.

Am I shifting careers? No.
Am I going to move from coaching to teaching yoga? Not exactly.

As I've done with every school of thought I've dove into I hope to layer this new practice into my work. I hope to weave the history, tradition, energy, and practice of this science into what I am already doing - transformational processes.

This is similar to why my students enroll in Awaken Your Life because they are craving something more. They want to let their life experiences, their big questions, and their calling drive their contribution in the world.

I am no different. 

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A Return to Living
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Last week my love and I took off for Bend, nestled in Central Oregon. Resting at the basin of more than 7 peaks including these three photographed above, this mountain town always clears my mind and resets my heart.

I didn't go out there in search of answers - I truly went to be in silence and be near family. But just hours into our visit and my journal began to fill with so much....ideas, clarity, quotes, direction, and so much discernment.

I also fell hard into this book. It is as though the author was reading my mind when even I couldn't find the right words. Thomas Moore offered me this quote:

"You do not choose a dark night for yourself. It is given to you. Your job is to get close to it and sift for its gold...it may appear, paradoxically, as a return to living. It pares life down to its essentials and helps you get a new start."

It may appear, paradoxically, as a return to livingYes. These were the words I couldn't find. This is the thing most self-development misses for me. With the hyper-focus on improving and progress, we conveniently forget that most growth is rooted in deeply challenging moments. 

I don't believe joy, happiness, trust, or worthiness can be sought independently of a challenge, pain, hardship, or transition. But we seem to forego the latter, or do we really? I have never met a soul who hadn't endured (fill in the blank). 

As a coach, my clients primarily come to me for new possibilities; to stretch their current reality and make more space for more of the things they want. In some ways, coaching is the wild west of self-development. It promises brighter futures with fresh starts and the potential to not look back.

I used to love this. I mean, who doesn't like the idea of a clean slate?

It sounds good, right? But expansion without depth is going to be washed away when the flood of life catches up. Why? Because new horizons aren't usually where we seek them.

We think they're in our strategy sessions, our shelves of books, our outlines of plans, and our promise to do better tomorrow. What if we were wrong? What if your next horizon is tucked inside your current conundrum? 

Conundrums used to be pathologized, diagnosed, and medicated. For some, they still are. If all you seek is progress, then you know how inconvenient struggle in the midst of it is. It appears like a roadblock with no way through, and the default solution? To get busy moving the darn struggle out of the way. 

But what if it IS the way?

And thus I am back at the quote above - a paradoxical return to living. Could it be that the very things we want to wish away and have quickly removed from our vault of experiences are the very things that can rebirth our lives?

Sometimes in my work I feel a bit alone, because while my clients come to me to help them carve new horizons, I am far more interested in excavating what brought you here in the first place. And this simply isn't everyone's cup of tea.  

But for those who don't mind sitting with this for a moment, I can (almost)guarantee you'll find purpose, reverence, meaning, that you matter, clarity, peace of mind, direction, and ease. Yes, really.

Funny, that all sounds a lot like progress ;)

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"The places we stop"
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This phrase was recently offered to me and I knew instantly I would want to reference it. I immediately grabbed my journal and wrote it down. We all have those edges in our life where we go right to the very brink but then...we stop. Maybe we stall or do that arm-flail thing keeping ourselves upright, metaphorically speaking.

When we want to lean in, so badly, we know it. We can feel the pit in our stomach light up, maybe our palms sweat, we know we are about to act in a new way and likely an uncomfortable way. And without any prompting, we pull back instead.

An uncomfortable conversation.
A situation you'd rather not be part of.
Something in the news. The "too close for comfort" kind of news.
Making a request of someone.
Facing your internal longing for something.
Saying "yes!" when you usually say "no."

The list goes on...

Last month my father's health took a poor turn. Which is really just to say it went in a direction I'd rather it didn't. A decline, a chronic "not coming back from this" kind of a turn. At first I rummaged through all the "poor me" statements. Why now? We just lost Mom, can't you wait? I can't do this...

You know the kind of statements I'm talking about. I basically threw a pity party in my head. Not because it was particularly helpful but because I was frustrated. And unbelievably sad. We canceled our vacation to Hawaii (then I added to my pity party) and I packed a very heavy suitcase and headed home where my dad had been admitted to hospice.

Pause.

This is where I wanted to stop. I didn't want to turn toward it. I didn't want to acknowledge this new reality and I certainly didn't want to be thrust into being his caretaker. This was a place I badly wanted to stop. Stall. Halt. Flail about. Anything but lean in. Because leaning in was going to be very (very) inconvenient.

Working from coffee shops and hospice waiting rooms. Navgating care, meds, and keeping a watchful eye on his health as it declined by the day. And the most glaring inconvenience of them all... knowing we had months left if we were lucky. 

Why do I describe this as "inconvenient"? Not because it interrupted my life or required a new level of flexibility, but because we often stop at the places that will make us really pause and look within ourselves.

I used to hold onto the notion that in times of distress the rest of my life could just go on as normal. But this wasn't the case. The part of me that was grieving this news was the same part of me showing up to coach clients and teach my classes.

It's the part of me that is on a retreat right now facilitating the power of letting your life be a model of transformation which requires you let all of your life in

This same teacher who offered me the phrase "the places we stop" also gave me this:

"When we're on the path, when we deal with what gets in the way, we refine our gifts."

In other words, it's the places we choose NOT to stop which offer us the most reshaping, the most accurate mirror, and opens us to more honesty about who we really are. 

Needless to say, this past year has changed me and my work more than any other to date. I used to want to go find all the answers and bottle them up ahead of time then get to work on helping others. I no longer feel this way. In fact, it would be to miss what matters entirely.

I work with so many people, people who love to serve like I do, who also attempt to perfect their life, their message, their meaning before offering it back to the world. My advice is this: don't.

Doing so is just another place you stop. You can't get it right first and apply it second. It's far messier than that. You get it right by applying the present moment to the present moment. 

By not letting the places you stop define you. But instead, letting the places you choose to lean INTO refine you.

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Awaken Your Practice is back
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This isn't your typical business program and it's not a “done for you” strategy weekend. In my experience, you don’t need more ideas or ways to implement things. You crave clarity, peace of mind, creativity, to play full out, to be seen, and most importantly you crave to share your soul’s calling with the world and be of service.

While most conferences will teach you how to design programs, make more money, use social media, or become a marketing genius, at Awaken Your Practice we begin with the most important part of your business - YOU.


Your intuition and call to serve make you ripe for success, but most empaths are keeping their biggest treasures hidden:

Generosity, compassion, positivity, and hope for what's possible on our planet.


I realized that I could succeed at business but it would require going my own way. It required sharing my voice, using my story to connect, giving, and radical transparency with my clients. The more I showed my empathic gifts IN business the more my business succeeded. 

I built Awaken Your Practice for those who are just like me. It's for empath entrepreneurs and business owners who want to work from their heart center and who are ready to uplevel their business, make more money, do work that is fully aligned with their vision, and create balance in their whole life. Oh, and who are ready to invite a little magic in :) 

But this isn't my first rodeo. 

This is my fourth AYP and I've learned a lot along the way, mostly because of the incredible students who have shown up. In no particular order, here are a few of the radical lessons I've acquired in my time with this program...

1) No idea is "too small"
It doesn't matter if your idea has already been created, will impact a single person, or feels "too small" to you. I assure you, there is no such thing as a small idea. There is also no such thing as a big idea. An idea is an idea is an idea and its power is in letting it move through your life. Let it shape you because while you believe you are shaping it...well, it is the one that is really doing the carving.

2) Value cannot be handed to you
The value you create won't be seen. You can't quantify it or box it up. It isn't the price you charge or subsequently the money you earn. It won't be found in your number of followers or "likes" on any social media platform. So, then, where might you discover your value? Within. It already exists in its full form as YOU. Now, what do you want to create with that value? Well, see number one again.

3) Sensitivity is not the problem
Being an empath is not standing in the way; it IS the way, but it will require that you let go of so much of that noise in the business advice world. You might be more sensitive to how you market, to sales conversations, to how you create and share your creations, and to how you work with and maintain clients. There. Is. Nothing. Wrong. With. You. Place your sensitive nature in the driver's seat and see what magic it leads you toward. For me, this has been the place for heart-driven conversations, really getting to see people, helping people see how much they matter, and more. 

4) There's no such thing as the "lone wolf success story"
No one does it alone. Nope. Sorry. It's a big ol' lie. Whether you work with mentors or coaches, join a mastermind, continue with your education, or form a group, I have yet to meet a single person who is doing well in their business who got there without some combination of these examples. And it's the one thing missing from business owners' lives who have been treading water in their work for years on end. I was lucky (and by lucky I mean I had the courage to invest in myself) to work with good mentors in the first 3 years of my business. They got all of my panicked emails and phone calls because I feared I didn't know what I was doing. They also taught me the business basics and held my hand through it all.

5) Comparison is what keeps you small
It isn't competition that will keep your work from being noticed, it's the compulsion to compare that will. It's so easy when we enter any industry to get into an "industry bubble" and suddenly it feels like everybody is doing what we do. I remember when I became a coach and I didn't know many other coaches. Then I started networking with them more, attending coach-only events, going to coach trainings and "suddenly" it felt like the only job anyone had these days was as a coach! Untrue. I had just stepped into the coaching arena and put my coach-blinders on. This is dangerous no matter your industry. Nothing will keep you small as much as comparison to your fellow service-providers. 

There are many more where these came from but for today these are top of mind. These are the lessons that I couldn't have anticipated because they unfolded over two years. But they are also the things my students come to AYP to move through and let go of.

In my experience the barriers between you and succeeding in your business are much smaller than you anticipate. But my students are also looking for success in all the wrong places. Online, passive income, funnels, social media fame, followers, bank statements, flashy websites...

Do me a quick favor. Pause reading this and go look in the mirror.

> Who do you see?
> Who is that person?
> Why do they care about their work so much?
> What scares them?
> What inspires them?
> What compels them to not give up?
> What encourages them to keep going, to figure this out?


THERE! There, in that mirror staring back at you, is where your success resides. 

Everything else is, well, just the details.

And while they matter a little (yes, you need to know what you sell and who it's for) the trends will evolve faster than you want and all that time you spent figuring out Facebook and click funnels becomes...irrelevant.

But what of your idea? Did it withstand the trends? Did it do its job? Did it honor your value? Did it respect your calling?

These and more are the questions we ask at Awaken Your Practice. We look at the principles of success so that no matter what you layer over it - programs, blog posts, books, e-courses, retreats - is formed on the basis of you at your most self-aware. 

You at your most loving.
You at your most trusting.
And you at your most accepting of your gifts and how to share them with the world.

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