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December Book Club Chat: Gift from the Sea

DECEMBER BOOK CLUB GIFT FROM THE SEA I. Love. This. Book. I loved it so much I immediately ordered copies for my all my clients and mailed them out as end of year gifts. I love books and found this caught me off guard a little which makes it a new favorite read. It's right up there with The Gifts of Imperfection & The Four Agreements.

This book is enchanting. The author's use of metaphor here is so brilliant and yet still so true. Anne Lindbergh wrote Gift from the Sea in 1955...1955! Here is a book with themes about womanhood, inner-peace, life transition, social roles, solitude, connectedness, love, and faith written over 59 years ago and it feels like it could of been written this year.

This book will stand the test of time. Why? Because I believe these themes are in our blood. Although she mostly focuses on the role of a woman in society today I think all can benefit from reading her words. Here are a few questions and my thoughts BUT I want to hear from you!

Please leave your thoughts in the comments section below. *Please note: All comments are public. If you wish to send your thoughts privately I would still love to hear them. Please click contact above to do so.

1. What did you think of her use of shells as metaphors for the stages of life?

As someone who just transitioned into a very new stage in her life I found this very soothing. No one can escape the stages of human life mostly marked by age and experience. I think we have 3 dominate stages to life - your youth, middle age, and retirement. One marked by risk and adventure, the next by security, family, and career, the third by returning to a strong sense of self and re-entering some independence with a life of knowledge to go with.

What I particularly loved about this was by using equal but different shells there is not judgment for the stages. I think the middle years are the toughest. They come with loads of expectation and desire. A longing for the past and an anticipation for the future. But with a lot of patience and respect to these year they will also be the most full. As is marked by the Oyster Bed so rigid and uneven but full of life and movement.

2. What did you think about the analysis of our continual mis-step in trying to find our center?

This quote grabbed me: "We do more to drain our creative springs than to refill them. We attempt to water a field, not a garden! Not knowing how to feed the spirit, we try to muffle its demands and distractions. Instead of stilling the center, our axis, we add more force by way of activities to our lives. This is our true off-balance." My work is focused around helping people, not find their center but return to knowing their center is always there to ground them in life.

She speaks to a lifelong quest here - how do we find eternal joy? All motivation in life is to either find pleasure or avoid pain which is also another way to find pleasure. As Anne points out, there is no external activity that can match the inner joy and peace that already exists. 

We're simply adverse to standing still. As she says so eloquently "I live "in grace" as much of the time as possible.... By grace I mean an inner harmony, essentially spiritual, which can be translated into outward harmony."

3. Does Anne's message have personal meaning for you? What have you taken away from her book that might apply to your own life?

As I've said this book still carries a lot of truth today as it did when she wrote it. Although I suspect when she wrote this she was speaking to the changing of the times - women going to work outside the home for example. Something we more readily accept today but still struggle with the balance of things and desires. For me personally, I take from this book a sense that I am not alone in my questions and curiosities about life.

I crave the very things Anne brings to light - a creative and connected life with much interdependence from my partner and a marriage of trusting growth and parallel experiences. Perhaps some day I will collect shells to remember life is a journey worth traveling. It's not that we have much to learn but I think we much to accept which creates the ultimate understanding.

What do you think? Thank you for joining me for December's book! What an awesome way to end the year. I hope you celebrate tomorrow and find inspiration in the renewing sense of a fresh year. It's a gift, it really is.

In light & love,



Please leave your thoughts in the comments section below. *Please note: All comments are public. If you wish to send your thoughts privately I would still love to hear them. Please click contact above to do so.

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