How healthy is your relationship?
Most of my work is centered around helping women feel strong again in their bodies and in their lives. I refer to my work as confidence coaching because in essence that's what we're doing, giving your self-confidence a reboot. But the process is really about changing your relationship with your body. Which is why I ask, "how healthy is your relationship..with your body?" When you start on a road to wellness you have to start by mending the relationship you have with your body. It's not a relationship you can walk away from after all! Here are a few questions to help you determine your current body relationship:
- Do you have a loud inner-critic?
- When you wake up in the morning do you dread getting dressed?
- Do you deflect compliments?
- Have you attempted 2 or more diets in the past 12 months?
- Did your diet work and now you’re fearful of weight gain?
- Do you feel pressure to change your body perfectly or not at all?
- Do you find yourself exploring quick fix options?
How did you do on answering those questions? You know when the relationship you have with your body is no longer a positive one. I am here to show you alternative ways to mend that relationship that has nothing to do with dieting or additional workouts. The foods you eat and the amount if time you dedicate to exercise are important but only when approached from a place of self-care. I love this post here by Skylor Powell because she points out how easily we put ourselves down and convince ourselves that we have more to fix than is actually broken. Because you're not broken!
Why is the relationship you have with your body so important? Your body is your mode for life and it carries you from day to day. Imagine having a toxic relationship with someone that was tied to your hip and you couldn't escape them, even for a second. It wouldn't take long for you to feel totally run down and exhausted. In your body this exhaustion can manifest as pain and frustration like stomachaches, headaches, and feeling flustered.
Ready to mend your body relationship? First, your body is not the source of your poor relationship - your mind is. Your body is merely following what your mind instructs. To start you on rekindling the relationship you have with your body here are three journal prompts that can help you change the way you look at your body and treat your body. Grab your journal and allow yourself 5 minutes per journal prompt.
- I feel best in my body when...
- What feels impossible in my body right now? I can make it possible by...
- Ideally, the relationship I want with my body feels like...