Guidepost #7: Cultivate Play & Rest - Part Two
Last Spring I wrote a 10-part series based on one of my very favorite books, "The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brene Brown. Each week for 10 weeks I shared one guidepost from the book, a few thoughts, plus a journal prompt. For an overview of each guidepost visit here.
Guidepost #7: Cultivate Play & Rest - Let go of Exhaustion as a Status Symbol and Productivity as Self-Worth
On Monday I wrote this article about the Self-Worth Hustle. When did exhaustion become synonymous with self-worth? Worthiness is not something you can earn - you are worthy because you just are.
Many of you will fight me on this even if you really want to accept this truth. You'll say things like, "But I have to prove I deserve...I have to show I'm ready for....I have to continue to grow because..."
How often do you stop and acknowledge yourself for the effort and work you've put into your life? How often do you celebrate? This is one reason to cultivate play and rest - it's a stopping point for recognition!
On Monday I pointed out a few areas where hustling for your self-worth can show up:
- You constantly feel like you need more and more education because you don't feel you know enough.
- You're exhausted at the end of your work week and are ready to go home, but stay an extra few hours to make sure you've completed everything because you want to show you're doing enough.
- You're racking up more and more debt and it doesn't seem to be slowing down because you don't have enough.
- You've pondered changing careers for a long time but stop yourself because you aren't ready enough.
- You are healthy but won't slow down your workouts or diet attempts because you don't feel good enough.
If self-worth is synonymous with doing more than exhaustion is inevitable. But productivity as a status-symbol is a myth. Productivity doesn't make you more worthy, it makes you more tired!
I know you believe if you slow down you'll get lost in the shuffle, you won't measure up, or you'll fall short. I used to! I still slip into this thinking from time to time. If things in my life feel too slow or my plans aren't panning out as hoped I start revving up. The irony is that when I stop, slow down, rest, and rejuvenate the very things I was hustling for happen.
Give yourself permission to cultivate play and rest. I promise you won't miss out. In fact you'll gain so much more than you can possibly imagine.
To help you cultivate guidepost #7 I have a journal prompt for you:
I feel most alive and rejuvenated when I...
Join me next Friday as we explore Guidepost #8: Cultivate Calm and Stillness – Let go of anxiety as a lifestyle.
In the meantime bring this guidepost into practice by trying the journal prompt this week.
In light and love,