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5 Reasons Your Should Fire Your Coach
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For the past two weeks, members of our free community have taken part in an "unreasonable requests" challenge. These are requests that feel unreasonable because the person we are making the request of has no reason to say yes. The challenge? 30 unreasonable requests in 30 days. If you want to join us, use this link.

I have been doing this for the past six weeks now. One of my bold asks was to take a client and someone I deeply admire to a fancy lunch. We ate yummy food, drank wine, and she gave me a challenge. An ask of myself — to write an article that stretched me. Well, challenge accepted.

It's no secret I have a pretty strong opinion about coaching, as I should. I've been a professional coach since 2010 and if I had a punch card with 10 punches, one for every coaching conversation, then I would have filled 500 punch cards by now.

There was certainly a time when you couldn't have paid me to write what I am about to share because I was more interested in pleasing than serving, being liked than being honest, and being passive than being clear.

But I was having lunch with this hip chick a couple of weeks ago — she isn't afraid to speak her truth, something I've admired about her from the day we met.

We got onto the topic of coaching which was equal parts ranting and raving when she said, "You know how everyone writes those articles about why you should hire a coach? What if you did the OPPOSITE?"

And because I love a challenge, here we are.

What qualifies me to tell you why you should fire your coach? The very work that I myself am paid to do? Nothing. No, really. No one can tell you what is best for you. Not even your coach!

However, I am very passionate about coaching. You might put me on the obsessive spectrum right over there was fanaticism except unlike the definition, I have not forgotten my aim.

Just for kicks the other day I did a quick search on the statistics of coaching. Even I was shocked. 

Did you know that the average return on investment for working with a coach is 500%? That means if you pay $500 your return is $2,500.

Did you also know that people who invest in coaching with a goal in mind are 86% MORE likely to accomplish it than those who don't use a coach?

So if it's so great, why do I want you to fire your coach? Well, as Rich Litvin says, "The coaching profession has a problem that is two-fold: there is a low bar for entry and a high bar for success."

And that high bar for success is too often passed on to the wrong person — you, the client.

Let me explain.

Coaching is simple in theory: help people achieve their dreams by way of goals, commitments, and accountability by also removing any and all blocks or upper limits that get in the way.

Here's where most coaches go wrong — they assume that if a client is motivated or excited enough they will just make shit happen.

They coach the part of you that set your goals. But, did you know that the part of you that sets a goal is not in charge of achieving it? This makes EFFECTIVE coaching NOT simple.


5 Reasons You Should Fire Your Coach:

1. Your coach is not trained.

This is a controversial topic but it shouldn't be. In NO profession is it acceptable to enter without skills or training, yet somehow the coaching industry seems to think it is exempt from this principle.

Not only this, it is the MOST accessible training to find. Most are done via distance learning, geared for adults who are already working full time and don't require more than a few months to complete. If you've long thought about a coach certification then we need to talk.

2. Your coach only prescribes you action steps and strategic plans.

I am all for action but not in lieu of deep work. If a new plan was all it took to change your behavior which changes your actions which changes your life then we would not be the most depressed or in debt adult cohort in US history. Plans are cheap because they bypass YOU.

Think of it this way: if you are NOT a coffee drinker and I asked you to drink 4 cups of coffee today it would cause mental strain and physical exhaustion for the simple fact that you would have to effort your way to doing something that goes against how you see yourself. Then again, if you are a coffee drinker and I asked you to do the same, you'd be very buzzed at the end, but it wouldn't have caused a lot of strain to do the action because it's how you see yourself.

In short, action plans cannot outperform your identity. And a coach who isn't trained in this I wouldn't get near.

3. Your coach doesn't offer an extensive pre-conversation before asking for an investment.

If your coach is unable to demonstrate in advance why you should hire them, don't. If a coach doesn't offer MORE than an hour to have a real experience of their work, I would be cautious.

A coach who only demonstrates their best AFTER you hire them is someone who keeps their cards close. Also, if you feel pressure or do not enjoy the enrollment process, run. Will it stretch you? Yes. But that stretch should feel invigorating, not threatening.

4. Your coach doesn't have a coach.

I am shocked at how many professional coaches have never worked with a coach. How can we properly represent the power in this work if we ourselves are not also experiencing it? You are allowed to ask your coach, "Who is your coach?"

5. Your coach isn't successful at the thing they coach.

If your coach is niched as a money coach but is in a ton of debt...if your coach is a relationship and marriage coach but single...if your coach is a health coach who is not healthy...if your coach is a business coach whose business is not successful...

This should be obvious but I have seen this far too often. Are we all works in progress? Yes. But we have to be honest about where we are. I would personally fire a coach who was not actively demonstrating in their own life or business the very results I hired them to achieve. 

I know these may be controversial. But the thing is, I am so proud of this industry and the good work we are doing that I can't sit back and watch the people I LOVE to serve be lost to a lack of integrity in the very people they've invested their time, energy, and money with.

I stand behind my coaching 1,000%. And I genuinely hope your coach does too. However, if you've never experienced the power in working with a coach — why don't you try it on? 

Will you gift me 90 minutes of your time to show you what you're capable of? Click the link below to choose your time & date.

Book a 90-Minute Problem Solving & Possibility Creating Coaching Experience with me.


Wait.

Before you click that link and book time with me, I want you to answer these questions for yourself:

  • Why seek a coach now? What was/is the tipping point that brought you to this place?

  • What do you need to come out of this conversation either knowing or remembering about yourself?

  • What is the cost of not doing this work now?

  • Who will be affected by you doing this work? Think of the ripple effect beyond what you can see.

  • What holds you back? What compels you to move forward?

OK. Now...

Book a 90-Minute Problem Solving & Possibility Creating Coaching Experience with me.

If after this session you don't wish to continue coaching that's OK! If you do, then we'll discuss what this looks like. These sessions are currently booked 1–2 months in advance.

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Do you dream about inspiring people?
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I love this quote from Henry Moore: "The secret to life is to have a task, something you devote your life to, something you bring everything to, every minute of the day for your whole life. And the most important thing is — it must be something you cannot possibly do.”  

The first time I read this quote I had to make sure I read the last line correctly. "Something you cannot possibly do" seems like an odd thing to dedicate your life to, but herein lies the beautiful irony of such a challenge. The seemingly impossible things of your dreams become the very things you fulfill through the intentionality that success is not required — but effort is.

Coaching is like this for me. I used to coach because I wanted to help people be less stuck. Then I did it because I wanted them to find their joy. Then I coached because I wanted to save the planet. And today I coach because witnessing others do "impossible" things is awe-inspiring.

When I started to teach coaches I was hesitant. Would I be able to truly convey the power and joy in this art? Would the process of becoming a coach be as wonderful for my students as it has been for me? Then I just decided that whatever my students got from their own pursuit would be just as incredible for me as it is when I coach my clients.

If you've ever dreamt of adding masterful life coaching to your repertoire, join me for my third cohort of Awaken Your Life in May.

Becoming a coach was not my first choice. I wanted to help people. Help them do what wasn't exactly clear in the beginning. The only clarity I had was that I was built to be in service of others.

I've always been that girl strangers share their life stories with.

It doesn't matter if I'm in line at the grocery store or on an airplane, I often find myself as the person others tell deep and meaningful things to. I must admit, I like this. Someone choosing to divulge or share something that has depth with me as a total stranger kind of blows me away. 

Somewhere in my formative years, I was the "fix it" girl. The one who, whether others asked or not, was always mending people. I felt hurt when others were unhappy.

While I would learn to not take so much responsibility for others' life choices, to this day it is hard to witness someone turn away from their life no matter what it's costing them.

This was why I chose to be a social worker and then a counselor. But I left because keeping people beholden to their past is a waste of a life. You aren't meant to stay in your ordeals. You are meant to be shaped by them, carved out of the rubble, and given that inner flame that only you know why it wholly motivates you.

In many ways, coaching picked me. I was at a rehearsal dinner for my cousin and was introduced to the founder of a coaching school I would later go on to graduate from.

It didn't feel like a big leap. To be honest it didn't even feel like it was a real job. I did not become a coach to make a ton of money because I literally didn't know I could! I didn't become a coach to change the world because who was I to make such bold requests of the world?

No, I became a coach because it was somewhere between people's past and their potential future that a coach gets to play and I remember thinking, "Now that is a pretty cool gig."

Almost 10 years and more than 5,000 coaching conversations later it is far more than "a pretty cool gig." Transformational coaches, the really good ones, can change someone so profoundly that if you really knew the long term result of that change, it would astound you.

The really good coaches are change-artists. We take what isn't apparent and make it known. We are also known as "Someone Who Transforms Things for the Better." 

Some coaches hang out in plans and strategies: they use goal measurement and accountability to effort their clients to the next step.

Some coaches hang out in encouragement and energy: they use their cheerful excitement and belief in someone to motivate them to the next step.

And then there are the rare ones. 

The coaches who hang out with your potential, who use tools of the mind and quantum field to re-wire how someone sees the world — and in doing so fundamentally changes who they are in the world. Their clients don't effort or get motivated to their next steps. They become the very dream they've imagined.

I will be so bold to put myself in this category. Not because I am special or unique but because I am fascinated and slightly obsessed with this work. And my students are no different. They could choose any school, and there are thousands of coach schools to choose from. (Which is good, because I can only train and work with 8 students per 200-hour cohort!)

I am in this category because I want to be. I want my work to be more than something that feels good. If you are a coach or on your way to being one, then please find your place and choose the mark you will leave. I believe this is up to you and you alone.

My love for this work is confirmed through my studies and education, but my true understanding of it is unearthed in my daily commitment to live an awakened life. No one is born awake. It is through the diligence of practice and dedication we get to come home, time and time again, to our True Self and do the truly great things we are built for.

I’ve used the practices of coaching, journal writing, meditation, habit change, visualization, mindfulness, yoga, breath, NLP, and more to create a whole new life, to change my health, to heal depression, to create financial prosperity, to draw opportunities to me, and more.

I will always and forever be my first client and student. I will not ask you to do anything inside this work I myself am unwilling to do or have yet to do. Your path will not look the same, but the principles we use to create our very desires are universal.

I am a lifetime seeker, as are my clients. And while along the journey I know you will find the things you want, you will also continuously come home to your true self. Want to join me?

Learn everything you need to know here > 
www.awakenyourlifecoach.com

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What's REALLY Possible?
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I used to think the word potential was too nebulous to have actual meaning in my life. The definition of potential is to "show capacity to become something in the future." By definition, you can never get there. And then, I read this book. I won't dilute this extraordinary read to a single sentence. The best I can do is urge you to read it. 

It reminded me of a life principle I've held true for many years now — that you don't interact with the world by how you see it; you create your world by how you see it. You draw to you the very experiences that uphold your beliefs, and therein lies the greatest opportunity of the human experience: you are not beholden to where you are today. But to live the life you feel destined for is going to take more than a desirous longing. 

It is going to take gumption.

My mom had gumption. During her life, she mothered, started businesses, became a writer, was an artist, drove across the country, fell in love with nature, and made a decision early in her life that her daughter would not know the tremendous pain she did as a child.

That her daughter would have the freedom, education, and opportunity to act on independent choices no matter what the world told her she was or was not. That daughter is me. 

I didn't fully appreciate growing up what my mother was doing. I didn't know any different. She was, in many ways, my first coach and mentor. But beyond that, she did more than cheer me on. She told me every day that I could do what I set my mind and heart to. 

But as an adult woman who spends her days riding the fine line with people between encouragement and unrolling the past, I bump into story after story riddled with reasons why someone must stay within the lines.

Why someone is bound to where they come from more than they are prepared to let it go.

This is the hard part of the work. Not untangling your stories or bumping into limiting beliefs or self-doubt. Put me in the ring with these parts of you any day. The hard part is watching someone who truly believes the fear and is choosing a life path that abides. A path that keeps the gremlins in play.

I'm not OK with this.

You see, I was also raised with one single rule. This was more important than our homework or weekend chores. This rule was paramount and respected. It came with no guidebook or instructions but it was pre-determined on behalf of me and my siblings that we would live by this rule.

The rule?

Follow your bliss.

Now, as a child, upon hearing this I remember thinking, "That sounds easy enough. I mean, it has the word 'bliss' in it. How hard can it be?" (This is where I insert an eye-roll emoji or several.)

Don't be fooled. While bliss is the thing that keeps you going, it is not a place you arrive fully. Thank goodness bliss dangles its light at the end of the tunnel or we'd never do the unfurling, untangling, or unhooking from our life in an attempt to reach it.

But to follow your bliss is an act of courage. 

Following your bliss is not about pursuing your passion. It is about going in search of the meaning of your life. I believe every human being has a bliss-point — a place within themselves through the pursuit of which they will discover the purpose of their life. 

You don't land in this meaning as a single revelation. As my dad told me once, "Andrea, don't go in search of the meaning of life. There is no ONE single meaning of life. You must CREATE the answer you seek."

In my own experience, this has meant walking through storms, sitting in dark nights of the soul, and crossing many plains of fear.

There are many moments where following my bliss feels lonely. Not because I am alone, but because along the way, I bump into so many people not following their bliss. People who choose their past as their default future and people who see bliss as the thing of fairy tales and child-like imagination. Certainly not a place to dedicate your life.

Well. I see things differently. I think the cost of us each of us individually and valiantly pursuing our bliss is precisely why we're suffering so immensely. Someone who is wholeheartedly dedicated to his or her life purpose and path isn't gleeful all the time or blindly happy. They are aware of something far more powerful.

They know their wholeness.  

And let me share a secret that you already know — when you know your wholeness you don't need to diminish the light of another. There's no competition, no battle, no lesser than.

From this place, abundance flows because you are literally enough, along with joy, contentment, trust, meaning, and the inevitable rise of the people you surround yourself with. 

The choosing of this, however, is where gumption comes in.

As far as I am concerned, I have only just scratched the surface of this work. I may be 9 years and 5,000 conversations in but it's just the start. However, in this time I can say one thing for certain — far MORE people will turn away from this than toward it. 

It isn't always for a lack of motivation or resource. Sometimes it is.
It isn't always for a lack of clarity. Sometimes it is.
It isn't always for a lack of desire or seeing what's possible. Sometimes it is.
It isn't always for a lack of gumption. Mostly, it is.

And if I want to see more people choose their PATH than not, I better also be prepared to go first. The thing about living your path is you get it wrong a lot. I get it wrong a lot. But it's my path, I have the right to fail at my own path! But I also have the right to get up, dust myself off, and keep going.

If I invited gumption to the table and asked her where it's time to dance what would she say? Well, per usual she did a mic drop last week. And I listened. 

The places I get to invite so many of you into are very meaningful to me. Places like this weekly practice space, our free community, my monthly classes, our weekend immersion, my coaching circle, and my coach training program. I do my best each day to bring my wholeness through my work and these are the expressions it currently wants to dance with.

And...

One was missing.

I was missing a sacred place in my work to see what the sum of my parts is capable of creating with someone. Isn't that we all want? When you really can step out of your way, stop dancing with fear, and start dancing with your potential what is available to you?

I was asking the wrong question. I've been asking of this work, "What is the least someone can do and still experience a powerful shift in their life?" Sometimes, less is more. And sometimes it's not nearly enough. It's a question that wasn't giving me the room to pour on the possibility. 

I changed the question and asked myself, "What is this work truly capable of and what is the REALITY of that?" This is a vulnerable question. Because the answer isn't convenient or for everyone. But when I meditated on the few people this would speak to it was exhilarating. It felt like the place I am finally ready to go.

I've created a year-long coaching experience and have begun inviting a few individuals to be part of it. I've put together a page about it but it comes with this request:

***This is not for everyone. I am currently interviewing those it is a good fit for and will take my time with a process that is sacred to me. You can check out the program here but you must input your name and email to view it.

Why? Discernment. 

If we are just getting acquainted...
If you are new to my world...
If you have never worked with a coach...
If you don't know what you're dedicated to wholly or working to fulfill...

Then I can tell you now this is not for you and I've created plenty of awesome places for you to get what you need. If you are in a place where a year of self-study, dedication, intentional creation, unfurling the past and questioning every belief getting in your way is for you then I invite you to learn more about this year together. 

I will be personally following up with everyone who opts in. I look forward to having a conversation! Get the details here: 
https://www.andrealeda.com/oneyear

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My word for the year
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I am not someone who runs at a new year with a massive quest for life changes. This has never been my thing. Mostly because, although we are returning to the light bit by bit each day, we are also steeped in winter; a time built into our life for solitude, introspection, quiet, and stillness.

New goals require the energy of fire which comes with the spring and summer seasons. By all means, create some new resolve for your year but also give yourself the necessary spaciousness for it to come in its own timing.

For the past few years, I've taken to choosing a word for my new year. Some have been spot on and quite helpful while others I had to abandon mid-year to make room for life happenings. I am not dogmatic about this word because it should help me move toward more life and I try to stay open to where that might come from.

When I conjure up this new word I take two things into account: everything the previous year brought and taught me and what I intend to stay anchored to in the next twelve months.

I take into consideration what I am interested in now, and if I dropped any need to prove myself in this new year, where would I give myself bountiful permission to go next?

I went in search of a word that balanced presence with growth, ease with effort, and that sweet spot I feel called to over and over that can look ahead but not mistake the future for potentially being better than this very moment I'm in. It would be easier to choose a sentence! But this is part of the challenge. 

It doesn't matter what the word is to anyone but me. The word could be cryptic or a metaphor so long as when I see it, think it, remember it, I know what it's reminding me of or inviting me to do. When I think back on the past two years it's safe to say a word that allows for the unexpected would be a wise choice.

For the past few months I've been a student in a 200-hour yoga teacher training; something I gifted myself to have my own container for self-reflection and quite honestly, healing. Not healing from something that can be fixed or mended, but healing parts of me that are still swimming around in transition and re-orienting my life without my parents. It felt only natural that my word would come from this space.

I sought out yoga because it's wise, symbolic, and a practice. Three of my favorite things. While movement is one practice of yoga there are several others I connect with even more. Practices of breath, clear seeing, presence, dharma, and not surpassing the human experience in search of something more "spiritual." It doesn't get more spiritual than accepting and embracing the human experience.

My word comes from a practice called Shambhala. As quoted from this book, 


"Shambhala teachings are not based on converting the world. The premise of the Shambhala vision is that in order to establish an enlightened society for others, we need to discover what inherently we have to offer the world...the essence of Shambhala or the essence of human bravery is refusing to give up on anything or anyone...We have the burden of helping this world but if we take this burden as a delight, we can actually liberate this world."

Chögyam Trungpa, Shambhala: The Sacred Path of the Warrior
 

My word is brave.


Brave in the Shambhala vision means not being afraid of who you are; yourself, your True Self, and that at your core you are goodness.

If I Google the definition for brave, I don't resonate with what pops up. And yet this word is all over my life. It is the thing I am called to be, demonstrate, create, and defend over and over but it isn't fearlessness, audacity, or gutsy. 

Brave is leaning in.

Brave is "Owning our story and loving ourselves through the process," as Brené Brown says.

Brave is not turning a blind eye or ear.

Brave is acceptance and compassion in action.

Brave is sitting in the muck.

Brave is choosing yourself.

Brave is knowing that, "What you love — what you long to do — is really, really important," as Tara Mohr reminds us.

Brave is saying goodbye before you're ready.

Brave is the burden and delight of liberating the world from unnecessary suffering.

And Brave is belonging wholeheartedly to yourself.

So yeah, my word is brave.

If this process inspires you then I hope you, too, will take some time to search for your word.

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10 Signs your calling is whispering to you
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I used to think callings were reserved for a special audience, and that certainly was not me. I was just a girl from a suburb of Seattle, why on earth would a calling decide to land in my lap? Until I felt like one came knocking on my door I also didn't give them much thought. I don't remember the word 'calling' being part of my common vocabulary or something I fretted over.

I share in depth about my own moment of awakening and the calling that slipped through the door here. We all have a calling. Sometimes it comes through loud and clear. Other times it's merely a faint whisper, and you feel crazy for even thinking something is speaking to you. (You're not alone!) In order to answer your calling, you have to let go. And risk the leap into the unknown. 

I answered my calling because I ached to return to my intuitive roots and use my gift to help people heal and radically love their life. But my work was just one calling and I can say that I've had hundreds of callings, maybe more and I bet you have too. Some felt like earth shakers - callings that asked me to change careers, move cities, marry the love of my life. Others were the smallest of nudges - to read a book, travel someplace, write a poem.

As Gregg Levoy says in his book, Callings -

“The purpose of calls is to summon adherents away from their daily grinds to a new level of awareness, into a sacred frame of mind, into communion with that which is bigger than themselves.”


What is the purpose of a calling? In short, I don't really know. If I sit with my own experience of them they feel like contractual nudges from the universe designed to crack me open so I may let even more life in. 

Before I began answering my callings, there was life with motion but it didn't move me. My callings have moved me to engage with life like an artist who is painting and being painted at the same time. A calling isn't someplace you arrive; it's the pathway to take you back to yourself, your whole self.

10 Signs your calling is whispering to you

1. Simple Joy
Before the fear sets in, the sheer thinking or reflecting on this thing that's calling you brings you simple joy. 

2. It gets your nervous system fired up
Thinking about it makes your heart race, maybe your palms sweat, and your breath quickens. It feels like anxiety but beneath this response is also a subtle knowing that this is something altogether different.

3. You get a lot obsessed with it
You think about it, journal about it, talk about it to only those you deeply trust and find yourself fantasizing about this thing constantly.

4. You think, "But everyone is doing this!"
The idea of following this calling feels silly because you assume everyone has already answered the same calling. You wonder things like, "Why me?" and, "How could I also do this?"

5. It scares you
This calling is scary and unnerving. This is the reason most ignore what calls them fiercely in an effort to also avoid having to do the scary, unnerving thing.

6. It emboldens you
Oddly, while it scares you it also emboldens you. The thought of answering your calling and it working brings more courage to your life.

7. It pulls you forward
Instead of feeling pushed or forced, there is a power that draws you in and pulls you forward. 

8. You question everything
A calling will beg you to question whole aspects of yourself. You may question your beliefs, your faith, your experiences, even your way of seeing life.

9. There's more doubt than certainty
There is nothing certain about a calling. They are risk-filled and will you challenge you. By nature, this makes them uncertain and not a guaranteed good choice.

10. It can't be ignored, quieted, or silenced (and you've attempted all three) Believe it or not, ignoring your calling is more painful than letting it in. And once in, it's best to let go. It's like letting a dam crack open. The sheer force will run its course -- let it. Whatever it takes down was not very strong to begin with.

And as that water churns and washes over the landscape of your life you'll wake up. You'll fully wake up and there will come a day and you'll say, "Oh. I get it now." And you'll get back to creating your life. Your simple, meaningful, call-filled life.

If your calling is also your purpose and has led you to a service-business then I invite you to join Awaken Your Practice Online - 12 weeks to help you find your true north, take the right actions for you in business, and make the impact you feel called to make.

The LIVE classes begin January 9th! The whole program is just 6 payments of $99.
> https://www.awakenyourpractice.com/online

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Awaken Your Practice Online is here!
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When I first created Awaken Your Practice in 2016 I had the idea of helping my fellow heart-centered business owners learn that they did have a place in business. I've run this program four times and have plans to host the live workshop twice in 2019. But to take the program online was a dream I didn't know if I was ready for.

I didn't want to take an experience known for connection, in-depth conversation, and big aha moments and dilute it down to something I attempted to convey over recorded videos and emails. It just isn't me. So, I am doing this in a way that speaks to what I love about this work — the people I get to spend my days with and the things they trust me to witness and support in their businesses.

Yes, Awaken Your Practice Online requires a computer but I will be teaching the weekly classes LIVE.

People find this course for many reasons but of all the ones I hear, what every student tells me is how ready they are to finally trust themselves and be seen in their work. If you're anything like me then you often wonder:


"Can I be my most authentic self, actually help people, and make money?"


The short answer? Yes. 
The more honest answer? Only to the extent you know and trust yourself.

I could create a business mentorship that teaches you my back-end systems, how I create my programs, how I find clients and a myriad of other things you think you need. I could also point you in the direction of business coaches doing this because it isn't really what I do.

If you're looking for another "done-for-you" business program then I am probably not your girl. If you're exhausted by this business thing and truly just want to change more lives by being yourself, then keep reading.

I don't do strategy. Period. Because finding the best strategy to grow your business is not the problem. Knowing which one is best for you — now we're getting warmer, but this is still not the full problem.

If you don't know who you are in business, then no matter what ideas you're handed, they get layered on top of a cracked foundation, and no matter how great the idea, it will invariably crumble. I support my business mentees in discovering what works for them after they come heart-to-heart with who that really is.

When you do this, you choose the right ways in business for you and get to cut out so much of the noise swimming around out there. As you've probably already seen, there is a lot!

While most conferences will teach you how to design programs, make more money, use social media, or become a marketing genius at Awaken Your Practice we begin with the most important part of your business — YOU.

At Awaken Your Practice, learn how to trust in your business by believing in and trusting yourself. By re-connecting with your original medicine you can help those who need you in the way only you are built to serve.


How you do business isn't like anybody else.


Your intuition and call to serve make you ripe for success, but most service-practitioners are keeping their biggest treasures hidden — generosity, compassion, positivity, and hope for what's possible on our planet.

If you don't fit into the typical success model, then this is for you. I want you to create a service-business that changes more lives and stays true to you at the same time.

I've opened 30 spots in the online course.

6 payments of $99
or save 20% when you pay in full - $497

>> Registration is open only until all 30 spots are filled. This will sell out! 

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Awaken Your Life Master Coach Training
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It's finally here! Awaken Your Life is now open for enrollment. Are you ready to join the 2018-19 cohort? For those who have been asking about my work and how to coach like me, this is your chance to learn.

Awaken Your Life is the only 200-hour Master Coach Training that is also designed to change your life. Whether your goal is to become a full-time coach, lead retreats, facilitate transformative experiences, incorporate coaching into an existing career, or transform your own life by dedicating 9 months to walking inward, Awaken Your Life is for you.

 

Practitioners, leaders, professionals, and destined healers - It's your time,

 

I believe wholeheartedly in this work. Ever since I was a little girl I have loved helping others. Although I never believed it would lead to my calling one day - I simply saw myself as someone who loved people and truly wanted the best for them.

It's comforting to know there are so many of us out there who are called to service. Although it takes many forms I do believe we all have one thing in common - hope.

Hope is a powerful thing because no matter what we experience or endure, or what we watch others endure, we don't lose faith that at our core we are good and will move toward goodness if given the chance to do so. This gets me out of bed every day. I also believe that wholeness is our birthright.

Over the past 13 years I've chosen to explore people. First as a social worker, then as a counselor, and for the past 8 years as a professional life coach. I don't just teach this stuff, I am a practitioner in my own life and in my coaching practice.

Through more than 5,000 one-to-one conversations I can say that what we most desire is to know our life matters and that we are seen and heard. It isn't complicated and yet this simple desire seems to elude most of us.

No matter your goal in doing this work and following your calling to serve, I believe our common ground and role is to remind people of their innate enoughness and that they do in fact matter.

Ready to apply? Learn everything you need to know about the program below and I look forward to guiding you through not only this work but awakening your best life from the inside out.

> www.awakenyourlifecoach.com

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A Big Ol' Dose of Permission
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My wife and I are big fans of the show "So You Think You Can Dance." There are so many reasons to tune into it, but for me it comes down to the positivity and encouragement of the show.

Their contestants are often young and yet through their performances they tackle things like acceptance, tolerance, human rights, injustice, and more. Last week there was a performance that had me in tears. You can watch it here.

There are many reasons to love this piece but what dug itself into my heart was the sheer courage to say, without words, so much about the power in being who we are, through and through, even when it's inconvenient for others.

After the piece was over, one of the judges commented, "It's incredible how difficult we've made it for people to simply be who they are, and trust that it's OK to be who they are . . ."

I found myself nodding emphatically.

No matter how many people I coach. No matter how many emails I send. No matter how many books I recommend or journal prompts I hand out...I can't solve this for anyone. I don't know if I can make the world a more tolerable place but I DO know I can help people trust their path wholeheartedly.

In just two months I will embark on another year of Awaken Your Life with a small group of students - students who are seeking more than just how to help people. They are also seeking how to be wholly themselves while helping people.

It sounds so simple . . . and yet what I find more often than not is that we are hungry for knowledge but starved for self-acceptance. 

We want to know "the" path but are quick to hide once we find it.

We want to help change the world but are quick to exempt ourselves from saving ourselves.

We are hungry to understand why things are as they are but we are also seeking simple solutions that may not exist.

As I said to a current Awaken Your Life student, "Mend what breaks your heart in the world by seeking wholeheartedness within yourself."

Is it that simple? No.
Is it remotely easy? Nope.
Is it a worthy quest? Absolutely.

When I first created Awaken Your Life, I followed a call to show my fellow wayfinders and life guides a more whole path to themselves and to serving others.

But even while I was writing the curriculum, planning beautiful retreats, and inviting people to apply . . . I hadn't yet given myself permission to really own this path. It was almost like I was watching myself do all of these things but wasn't embodying that I was allowed to do these things.

I mean, who I am to teach? Who am I to instruct? Who am I to facilitate? Perhaps your "Who am I to...?" questions are different but I know you have them. We all do.

I need to back up to this word - allowed. It wasn't that I needed allowance from others; I had been given that. It wasn't that I needed allowance from my students because they were showing up. No, I needed allowance from myself.

Allowance means how much something has been permitted. In other words, how much permission was I giving myself? How much permission have you given yourself?

These are powerful words because they open doors. 

Although I was hesitant to put this work out there, I did anyway. Because it ultimately wasn't about me. Sharing this work was and still is about showing others their own light. It's the ripple effect that keeps me moving through my own fears.

I will never forget at the end of the first in-residence retreat and more than 40 hours of teaching later I looked every single one of my students in the eyes and said, "Thank you. I get it now. I AM allowed."

And so are you. You are allowed. More than me telling you this, I hope you tell yourself this.

Ultimately, trusting what calls you has to come from within, and the permission to go after it when you hear your call also has to be your own. 

P.S.

> Want to see our new online home for Awaken Your Life? I am SO grateful to have launched this new space. Have a look around - And yes, applications for the 2018-19 cohort are open now!

www.awakenyourlifecoach.com

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Fall Coaching Circle Now Open
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"If not you, then who? If not now, then when? If not this, then what?" 


These words were gifted to me over a year ago and still ring in my ears. If not now, when? All we ever have is this very moment, and it's always the perfect one to do what we're all built for -
serve.

Coaching continues to be my fiercest gift to my fellow change agents, visionaries, and possibilitarians. 


Here's the thing - I believe wholeheartedly in the potential of humanity and was, for many years, apologetic for that hope.

Because at times, hope can feel naive and even ignorant. I am not unaware of the injustice in the world. But injustice isn't new. What we choose to do about it and how we choose to rise, is

Last year I wrote my most popular article to date about why I chose not to raise my prices in 2018, and why I actually decided to lower them. There's a trend in coaching to constantly be raising our rates, and I quickly fell into it.

By 2017 I was charging upwards of $2,500/month to be my client. I thought this meant I'd “made it”. Instead, I am sorry to say I lost something very dear to me. I lost my focus on the greater whole.

Coaching has quickly become an exclusive industry. As our prices rise, our exclusivity rises. As our exclusivity rises, we are no longer building unity and with it are fueling the very thing most coaches and healers claim to not stand for.

I sat down last year and had a heart-to-heart with myself. I remembered something a mentor told me. She said, "If a therapeutic process is inaccessible to any one person it is ineffective to all people."

This hit me hard then and still does today. If my work is not accessible then I am not congruent with my value of bringing more harmony to our world.

Enter, The Coaching Circle. A 1:1 private coaching experience that starts at $199/month. Yes, really. I wish I could work with all of you.

> What do you feel responsible for?
> What are you doing about it?
 

My new coaching circle is an invitation for 20 people and 20 change agents to come to life.

I am inviting 20 people to be personally coached and mentored by me emotionally, mentally, and spiritually for 6 months. If you're someone who feels called to something bigger in their life than this is for you. It is my greatest gift to help you change even more lives by trusting what calls you and believing in yourself.
 

There are a few things you need to know about working with me. 

My coaching is not...


...strategy and planning. Your ideas are not something you can think your way through. Your stories are not calculated but are instead created from your need for love and safety. When they stop serving you and you decide to face them or untangle them, it’s time to come out of your head and into your heart. We go in with radical acceptance and self-discovery. You will take action, but first, you have to meet yourself where you are.

...just life coaching. Coaching is a powerful tool and one that I love. It’s a way of showing up with someone and using powerful, open-ended questions to inspire new action in them. I use a coaching container, but I fully understand that I can’t help you move forward and get you where you want to go without giving space to where you come from, first.

...guru-ism. You are your own guru and your own change agent, first. We can be guides for others, but all we can do is facilitate an environment where change is possible. I can't change you for you. Just as you can't change others. But you can walk your path with integrity and congruency. And that is the most effective path to change we can embark on.


Together, you will...

1. Say Yes


Before you can do anything in the direction of what calls you, you have to say yes to it. You have to trust your path AND fully commit to it. Tucked inside of you is a message and a purpose that is tugging at you big time, am I right? 


2. Be Yourself


Whatever you piled on over the years - old identities, other people's idea of success, limiting beliefs about yourself - shed these. We don't have to go in search of your authentic self, we only have to strip away what isn't authentic to you. 


3. Change more lives by being yourself


You're a giver; you keep hope alive in those lives you change, and you do so by being your most authentic self. I don't need to remind you that there is something big at stake. Maybe you're headed in a direction you never predicted but the world is waiting for you. This I know...


The Coaching Circle

20 Transformative People, 6 Months, Innumerable Possibilities
Each of these 20 spots is an invitation to an experience of waking up your conviction and your compassion through deep coaching and it starts at just $199/month.

 

How to Be Part of The Coaching Circle:

1. Read ALL the details here

2. Choose your level and complete your application no later than Wednesday, August 22nd

3. If accepted you'll be sent a personal link to schedule your first coaching session & to pay your $199 deposit to hold your spot. Your first payment won't be charged until September 10th.

4. There are only 20 spots. No waitlist. This is the only way to coach 1:1 with me this year.

*The next Coaching Circle opens March 2019.

All of life is an extension of how you see yourself and how you show up in the world. Imagine what is possible...

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What I wish I knew in the beginning
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When I first started coaching, it was a return to myself. Do you ever find that your life just keeps looping on itself? Mine does. I knew when I was 5 years old I was meant to help others, but I would reject this idea for more than 20 years. 

I think we're most in tune with who we are at a very young age and will spend most of our adult life getting back to that time of innocence and freedom to be ourselves. Just ask your inner child what she or he would do and bask in their answer. It just might surprise you.

At the beginning of my practice I was super self-conscious. Am I any good? Do people actually want to pay me? Can I really do this? These questions plagued me for the first 5 years. I don't know if that is short or long but that was my experience. No matter how many clients or friends would tell me, "You're really great at this!" I simply didn't believe them.

Until October 2015. That fall I rented a beach house I'd had my eye on for a year and invited 10 others to join me for my first retreat. I charged them $0. This wasn't about a business offering, yet. It was about seeing if I could stretch myself and do something I'd never done before. It was about deciding to take a chance on myself.

This event was lovingly named #retreat. And while I would go on to run it twice more, that first one has a special place in my heart. It's where I finally let it sink in that I am good at this work. That I have a right to be in my industry. And that I do, in fact, belong here.

Why am I sharing this story? Because we all will have that moment when for whatever reason, we come face to face with our goodness and our ability and allow ourselves to be the thing we were meant to be all along.

I call this moment the pivot.

No one can prepare you for the pivot; the particular event itself could be mundane like standing in line at the grocery store, or something more enlivening like having your first child. 

The moment isn't predictable but it's on your path somewhere. I like to believe it's already built in like a light bulb and when it's time, it just turns on.

Your job? Recognize it.

I was the same person in pretty much every way before and after this experience except for one major shift - how I saw myself was different. This changed everything.

Of all the things I've seen in my work and in close to 5,000 conversations, the thing I wish I knew early on is this:


It isn't what you do that matters.

It's who you are when you do anything that matters.


In other words, success isn't just in the action. Success is in who is doing the action. 

And there are many different "who's" inside of you at all times. For example -

Confident Who
Fearful Who
Inspired Who
Nervous Who
Doubtful Who
On Purpose Who

You get the picture. If I asked you to pause here and make a list of all the different versions of yourself that come through daily it would be quite long. We are complex and our emotions don't stagnate. They are fluid and move through us every day, telling us what to feel, how to interpret everything, and what to take action on. 

Before that fateful retreat I was operating my work primarily from my Small Who. The part of me that didn't think she had the right to be great as a life coach and so she kept herself purposefully small. Never taking compliments, never accepting accolades, and flat-out not believing people who were telling me I was good. 

I had to experience it for myself. From a place within. I had to come into contact with a new part of myself - my confident and proud self.

I don't know why or how, but she showed up for those 4 days at the beach and changed the game for me. She showed me I CAN do the work I long for. She showed me what I AM capable of. She let herself be great and it felt incredible.

The people who hire me know what to do. Most of them even know how they want to do it. But most of them aren't. They aren't stepping fulling into a new "who." They assume that the lens they have for their contributions in the world is permanent and unchanging. 

I will fill you in on a big life secret: you can always change how you see yourself. This isn't the real magic. The real magic is that when you change how you see yourself, the self you see also changes.

From this space you can't help but make different choices. You can't help but show up more boldly. You can't help but make bigger asks of yourself and others. You can't help but take a stand for something bigger than you. And you can't help but take a seat at the table. 

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Awaken Your Practice is back
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This isn't your typical business program and it's not a “done for you” strategy weekend. In my experience, you don’t need more ideas or ways to implement things. You crave clarity, peace of mind, creativity, to play full out, to be seen, and most importantly you crave to share your soul’s calling with the world and be of service.

While most conferences will teach you how to design programs, make more money, use social media, or become a marketing genius, at Awaken Your Practice we begin with the most important part of your business - YOU.


Your intuition and call to serve make you ripe for success, but most empaths are keeping their biggest treasures hidden:

Generosity, compassion, positivity, and hope for what's possible on our planet.


I realized that I could succeed at business but it would require going my own way. It required sharing my voice, using my story to connect, giving, and radical transparency with my clients. The more I showed my empathic gifts IN business the more my business succeeded. 

I built Awaken Your Practice for those who are just like me. It's for empath entrepreneurs and business owners who want to work from their heart center and who are ready to uplevel their business, make more money, do work that is fully aligned with their vision, and create balance in their whole life. Oh, and who are ready to invite a little magic in :) 

But this isn't my first rodeo. 

This is my fourth AYP and I've learned a lot along the way, mostly because of the incredible students who have shown up. In no particular order, here are a few of the radical lessons I've acquired in my time with this program...

1) No idea is "too small"
It doesn't matter if your idea has already been created, will impact a single person, or feels "too small" to you. I assure you, there is no such thing as a small idea. There is also no such thing as a big idea. An idea is an idea is an idea and its power is in letting it move through your life. Let it shape you because while you believe you are shaping it...well, it is the one that is really doing the carving.

2) Value cannot be handed to you
The value you create won't be seen. You can't quantify it or box it up. It isn't the price you charge or subsequently the money you earn. It won't be found in your number of followers or "likes" on any social media platform. So, then, where might you discover your value? Within. It already exists in its full form as YOU. Now, what do you want to create with that value? Well, see number one again.

3) Sensitivity is not the problem
Being an empath is not standing in the way; it IS the way, but it will require that you let go of so much of that noise in the business advice world. You might be more sensitive to how you market, to sales conversations, to how you create and share your creations, and to how you work with and maintain clients. There. Is. Nothing. Wrong. With. You. Place your sensitive nature in the driver's seat and see what magic it leads you toward. For me, this has been the place for heart-driven conversations, really getting to see people, helping people see how much they matter, and more. 

4) There's no such thing as the "lone wolf success story"
No one does it alone. Nope. Sorry. It's a big ol' lie. Whether you work with mentors or coaches, join a mastermind, continue with your education, or form a group, I have yet to meet a single person who is doing well in their business who got there without some combination of these examples. And it's the one thing missing from business owners' lives who have been treading water in their work for years on end. I was lucky (and by lucky I mean I had the courage to invest in myself) to work with good mentors in the first 3 years of my business. They got all of my panicked emails and phone calls because I feared I didn't know what I was doing. They also taught me the business basics and held my hand through it all.

5) Comparison is what keeps you small
It isn't competition that will keep your work from being noticed, it's the compulsion to compare that will. It's so easy when we enter any industry to get into an "industry bubble" and suddenly it feels like everybody is doing what we do. I remember when I became a coach and I didn't know many other coaches. Then I started networking with them more, attending coach-only events, going to coach trainings and "suddenly" it felt like the only job anyone had these days was as a coach! Untrue. I had just stepped into the coaching arena and put my coach-blinders on. This is dangerous no matter your industry. Nothing will keep you small as much as comparison to your fellow service-providers. 

There are many more where these came from but for today these are top of mind. These are the lessons that I couldn't have anticipated because they unfolded over two years. But they are also the things my students come to AYP to move through and let go of.

In my experience the barriers between you and succeeding in your business are much smaller than you anticipate. But my students are also looking for success in all the wrong places. Online, passive income, funnels, social media fame, followers, bank statements, flashy websites...

Do me a quick favor. Pause reading this and go look in the mirror.

> Who do you see?
> Who is that person?
> Why do they care about their work so much?
> What scares them?
> What inspires them?
> What compels them to not give up?
> What encourages them to keep going, to figure this out?


THERE! There, in that mirror staring back at you, is where your success resides. 

Everything else is, well, just the details.

And while they matter a little (yes, you need to know what you sell and who it's for) the trends will evolve faster than you want and all that time you spent figuring out Facebook and click funnels becomes...irrelevant.

But what of your idea? Did it withstand the trends? Did it do its job? Did it honor your value? Did it respect your calling?

These and more are the questions we ask at Awaken Your Practice. We look at the principles of success so that no matter what you layer over it - programs, blog posts, books, e-courses, retreats - is formed on the basis of you at your most self-aware. 

You at your most loving.
You at your most trusting.
And you at your most accepting of your gifts and how to share them with the world.

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"The Good Coach"
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Last month, a client posted this article titled, "What the good teachers teach." I have to say, it totally captured me. She gave me a mini dose of permission I didn't even know I was seeking about how I perceive and choose to play out my work.

Her article outlines five tips for choosing the right teacher or coach for yourself. She talks about things like not choosing someone with "all the answers" and knowing if that person is vetted to do the work they're doing.

It seems like simple stuff, but as I look at the current state of the coaching industry I am sorry to say these simple things aren't that obvious or easy to spot. Why?

During an Awaken Your Life class last week, a few of my students brought up that they don't know how to describe the work they're doing. Are they coaches? Transformation leaders? Guides? Practitioners? All of the above? 

I joked that I still don't know what I do. (Yes, even I still struggle with knowing what my "thing" is.) But that I also feel this pull to bring great coaching and the power of this work back into rightful perspective.

Is this my job or even my responsibility? Not really; no one elected me to but through all of my iterations of this work I come back to ONE constant over and over - I love being a coach. I love it fiercely. 

But what does it mean to be a "great coach"? Can we really define this?

Yes.

And we should.

I do my best to be lighthearted in this work and I am passionate about it. I am passionate about people and bringing as much unconditional compassion to the table as I possibly can. I am passionate about being a conscious coach, someone who knows her limitations and her strengths and has the courage to be transparent about both.

The word "unconditional" is important to me. It means that I am in constant contact with myself and if I'm ever overly invested in my clients' version of success.

It means not assuming that I know "the way" let alone the right way for a client to go. And it means letting go, big time. Despite our strong belief in healing, there is nothing wrong with the people I work with. Nada, nothing, zilch. 

It is common in our culture to assume someone outside of ourselves can solve our problem or fix us. Just look at the western medical system: it is founded on the idea that there are the ill and there are the saviors of the ill. 

This is prevalent in many areas of our life - finances, health, love, our job, happiness, and basically anything we want. It is so easy to assume getting it is an "outside job" or that someone has the answers to our woes. 

There are many (many!) coaches who fall into this category and who coach from the perspective that they themselves are the solution to their client's ailments. When a coach chooses this mindset they do one of two things:

1) They play God and present a perfectly scripted path for a client to walk down to be "magically" cured. 

2) Think they have to BE the solution and get attached to their clients having a specific outcome that is predetermined. And if the client doesn't get there, the coach assumes either they failed or the client just didn't want it bad enough.

As a coach I am a master of a process that a client can climb inside of to do the work, take personal responsibility, and be their own healing. And if a client comes to me who is working on something I am also in the midst of, I have to remember these two simple points:

No matter how similar it looks, it is not the same. 

This is an opportunity to convey empathy and compassion.


If we know what good coaching is not, then what is it? How do we spot it? When I posed this question about what makes a coach great to some followers on Instagram I got comments that said...

...shows up and meets you where you're at.
...listens.
...asks the uncomfortable questions, those questions designed to stretch you.
...creates safety.
...allows for someone's deepest and truest self to be revealed.
...really sees me and hears me.
...does their own work and is in touch with their own life.

I truly believe it is this simple.
 

Coaching is predicated on exploration. Exploration that is unpredictable, creative, and personal to the client.
 

This is why I fell in love with the process of coaching all those years ago and why although I've created other programs like Awaken Your Practice and the 52 Week Journal, I come back to the art of great coaching time and time again. 

To bring such simple tools to something like a conversation, and witness over time as that person sees more and more of their true self, believes in themselves maybe for the first time, and begins to love themselves -- it captures something for me.

It captures the raw truth tucked inside the human heart: that we all just want to be valued and seen. 

This is what a great coach leaves space for. So while I don't always know how to describe what I do and sometimes worry what someone conjures up if I say, "I'm a life coach," I also don't care. Because it isn't about my title or some definition that makes it easier for someone to "get me."

It is about the gift of unconditional and compassionate space at the moment someone decides they are ready to go within and awaken something that has been dormant. It never gets old. Almost 5,000 conversations later...it never gets old.

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You (Yes, You) Are Enough
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I learned the hard way that self-doubt, fear, and not feeling like I was worthy of what I wanted were as alive as my desire to serve others. I've compiled a list of myths, five to be exact, that I hope can help you.

Encouraging women to simply "play big" or to "stop getting in your own way" isn't helpful. Advice like this means well, but we can't effort our way out of not feeling good enough. No amount of reaching will help us to feel inherently worthy. 

If you're like me and you have something big to share with the world and the call to give in some way, then feeling solid in your value is key. Let's be honest... putting your ideas out there in any way is scary! It's vulnerable, raw, and uncertain. It's hard enough as it is without questioning your value on top of it.

What if it's a sign that what you're about to embark on is important and comes from a part of you that is meant to give unconditionally? What if it's an indication that you're on the right path? 

Let's consider the following myths around worthiness.

Myth #1: If I grow thicker skin, I will feel good enough to do my big work in the world.

How many times have you been told to just stop being so sensitive and grow some thicker skin? I don't even know what this means, and it implies that there is something wrong with who I am. (Which is a super sensitive person! And to be honest, it's one of my favorite things about myself.)

In business, leadership, entrepreneurship, or simply in sharing your desire to do good in the world, it can appear as though you have to "cover up" and "protect" yourself if you want to feel worthy of your ideas finding their way out there. As if in order to succeed we have to tuck our heart away.

The truth is:
In addition to not feeling good enough, most of the women who come my way are also empathic and highly sensitive people. They feel their world and often tell me that they hold generosity, giving, and humility in their values. The last thing I want for you is to "toughen" up and in doing so shield yourself from giving from a place of radical empathy. The truth is, the traditional business world isn't built for people like me and you. AND it could sure use a dose of us, don't you think?

Myth #2: If I had a "normal" childhood I would feel like I am enough. 

I hear plenty of "enoughness" stories prefaced with how someone grew up. And while it would be easier to categorize not feeling good enough as a byproduct of a crappy childhood, it isn't a prerequisite to not feeling good enough.

The truth is:
It doesn't matter where you come from or how you grew up. I've coached women whose stories are filled with trauma and abandonment, and I've coached women whose childhood was made of fairytales—and still, no matter where someone fell on this spectrum, they didn't feel good enough. It doesn't matter how many women I coach who are starting a new incredibly personal and meaningful venture; the first thing 100% of them tell me is how plagued with doubt they feel. I went through it too.

Myth #3: If I make more money or learn more I will feel like I am enough.

Quite simply, "If I take that next course, read those books, finally make enough money, THEN I will feel like I am enough." Sound familiar? How many times have you not only thought this but acted on it? I remember just two years into coaching I was about to spend $50,000 and travel out of state monthly so I could complete another master's degree and finally deem myself "worthy" of the work I was already doing. 

The truth is:
The more I learn, the more I realize how much I don't know. It's humbling to accept this truth—but then where and how does self-improvement fit in? I think growth is imperative to our personal success, but it shouldn't be the thing we use to prove how good we are. It should drive your desire to know more and constantly be in awe of what more there is to understand about life. Knowledge is a gift, but the truth is, it can't make you worthy.

Myth #4: When I'm successful I will finally feel worthy.

I thought that when I accomplished my goals, I would feel like I had "arrived" and all my self-doubt could finally melt away. For three years I had been climbing my own success ladder, and in some ways, the ladder others left for me without my questioning it. Early in 2017 I chose to stop climbing, to look up and down and see that there was no top in sight. And no matter how fast or swiftly I climbed it I could still see the bottom.

The truth is:
I realized that there is no end to the success ladder. Not only this, no matter how "successful" you become, you will always feel like you aren't worthy of where you're headed, because your goals will always be in front of you somewhere. There's distance between where you are and where you want to be; this never fades. What if we stopped thinking that in the "getting someplace else" we'll find more of us? What if growth didn't create us, but simply gave us more to love? More to explore? More to enjoy? What then?

Myth #5: Successful people naturally feel worthy and like they're enough.

It's easy to look at people who have "made it" and assume that they either got there because they felt worthy of what they are doing all along, or that success took that doubt away from them. But we don't actually know this. Oprah Winfrey interviewed guests for over 25 years and conducted more than 4,500 interviews by the time her show wrapped in 2011. She said once that no matter the guest or how famous they were, they asked the same question when filming would wrap. The question? "How did I do?" 

The truth is:
You become successful because you act in spite of your fear. Putting yourself out there, risking messing up, looking dumb, or getting it wrong is all a practice. You have to find why you're doing this and know that it is so much bigger than you.

What called you to this work? Why do you feel compelled to move forward in spite of the fear or doubt? If you never feel good enough, will you allow that to keep you from giving your gifts to the people who are waiting for them? Only you can decide this. I've come to believe that worthiness is a personal choice.
 

Do you know how brilliant you are?
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This is the wall in my office. You can only see a snippet here but on the right is a bulletin board where I hang all the notes, cards, and letters I receive throughout the year. I turn them inside out so I can see the writing and who sent it. At the end of the year, I spend a couple hours going through and re-reading each before tucking them away in a box. 

These cards mean so much to me. Not just because you thought to send them or because you took the time to think of me, slow down, and write with pen and paper opposed to an email. They matter to me because they are my mirror. 

We don't always see who we are clearly. We see ourselves through our lens which often comes muddied with stories and shame. There is good stuff in there too. Great stuff! But we like to zero in on what isn't working, where we don't feel expanded, how we don't feel like "enough". 

Then, like clockwork, when I need it the most one of these little gems arrives in my mailbox. It's a ritual in keeping an honest scope of myself and my work. And every year, it fills.

No matter how many notes I receive I still grapple with doubt. Don't get me wrong, I would prefer to ease through my job without going through the inevitable doubt cycle that creeps up when I create something new, have a radical new idea, want to share something deeply personal, and the list goes on.

Last year I created The People First Project. I ran it twice (it's coming back in March!) and had the opportunity to coach 60 people. In these 60 conversations I found ONE common thread or maybe it's a common truth? It came wrapped up in plenty of different phrases such as -

"I just want to feel confident in my direction."
"I want to trust myself."
"I want to know what I am doing and trust it!"
"I don't want to feel bad for my ideas and dreams."
"Will people actually want what I have to offer?"
"Who am I to do this amazing thing?"

And the list goes on.

From the project, I collected over 60 questionnaires and 3,600 minutes of coaching recorded that all captured one truth -

Am I allowed?

Am I allowed to succeed?
Am I allowed to be bold and courageous?
Am I allowed to charge for this?
Am I allowed to speak up?
Am I allowed...to be myself, be seen, be heard, and still belong?

The short answer? Yes. So why then doesn't this answer ever suffice? And even more, why are we asking this and feeling this way?

Every time a card arrives in the mail the first thing I think after opening it is, "I am allowed..." Every. Single. Time. So you see, I am not exempt but I am deeply curious about this.

How many of us feel this way? What do we have in common? Why are we compelled to continue looking for validation that we belong in the spaces we're drawn to? And so the questions pile up.

I am super biased in this but I think I work with the most amazing people on the planet. They are heart-driven, service-oriented, creative, resourceful, kind, and compassionate. They choose business or leadership because it can mean more reach and more freedom.

Yet, so many of us are getting tangled up in things we aren't prepared for. Things like self-doubt excessive criticism, and fear. Before we know it, not only are we not having more reach and more freedom we're also steeped in believing we aren't allowed to. 

I want to wrap every single one of you up who feels this way and remind you that you're not alone. That at every turn that stretches you or cracks you that much more open you will also discover a litany of uncertainty. When I looked up another word for 'fear' I found this word...chickenheartedness.

Are we chicken for getting scared? For doubting our selves? For needing constant validation?

- OR -

Are we trying to do something that hasn't been done before? 

What if it's a sign that what you're about to embark on is important and comes from a part of you that is meant to give unconditionally? What if it's an indication that you're on the right path? What if it's a sign you're heart is leading and this isn't chickenheartedness but wholeheartedness?

And if this is the case then maybe we aren't supposed to spend all of our energy trying to outrun, release, or let go of our tangle of doubts but hold onto it and let it guide the way. We automatically assume feeling bad is bad. It isn't.

It's illuminating the fact that you care a f*&k ton about what you're doing. Trust me, if it were easy or without struggle we wouldn't care as much when we DO succeed. We wouldn't be grateful or humble. We would just be successful. But the age of success for success sake is coming to a close.

I invite you to consider this quote -


"The awakened heroine becomes the best she can be to contribute what only she can to realizing human potential."

Guess how you wake up? Painfully. There is no awakening without grit. You won't find it and if you do I wouldn't trust it. Your best work is a demonstration of what we are capable of. We have to choose differently. We have to absorb not feeling like enough and be humbled by it AND get up every day and continue to put it all on the line.

Before you go asking for proof that you can do this, be this, say this...stop. Instead, remind yourself what is actually on the line if you don't. If it's your reach, your bank account, your fame I guarantee you aren't thinking wholehearted enough. Bolstering your success is easy. Defending another's is the real risk. 

Isn't this why it's so scary? And why we don't feel like we're allowed? Because who are we to believe we can solve, serve, help this planet of ours? Let alone how big a responsibility this is!

And it's sometimes the bigness that makes us ask the inevitable question, "Am I allowed?" You know how I know? Those who aren't called to serve don't even know this is a question that follows us around...

Be proud of this question. It will always point you in the right direction. A messy, gritty, wholehearted direction.

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Confessions of a Recovering Life Coach
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I love people. I always have, and I’ve always wanted to help. For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been an advocate for the underdog and have compassion for those less fortunate. The older I get, the more I’ve come to realize we’re all underdogs, and we will all have moments of misfortune in our lives.
 
When I found life coaching I was grateful – giddy, even. See, I was already a two-time counseling school dropout. I will never forget when, just a semester in, our teachers handed us the DSM-IV; a diagnostic manual to “help us” in assessing our clients’ ailments and mental disorders. I quit what felt like the very next day.
 
This was the first time I admitted to myself that I didn’t want to help people by first assuming they’re sick. When did the spectrum of human emotion and experience quantify people for the therapy couch?
 
Now, don’t get me wrong. There are absolutely people who need support in this way who are dealing with more than loss, trauma, or transition. I am not dismissing the therapy world, but I did feel like being a therapist wasn’t my path through which to serve others.


Enter life coaching - an industry I couldn’t believe was really an industry at first. I could serve others by helping them to see their strengths, their goodness, and how to actualize their dreams. I could work from anywhere in the world and charge more than the average therapist. It felt like a dream come true. My first day of life coach training I knew I was in the right place; I could feel that this was the path for me to finally help others.
 
I was enchanted by how fast the industry was growing and wanted to be at the top, within the top 1% of coaches. This meant I needed to make more than $100,000 per year, because as I quickly discovered, the one measurement most coaches use for quantifiable success is their bank account. And I was no different.
 
Over the next 7 years I quickly climbed the ladder, working with fewer and fewer clients, charging more and more money. I was making six figures, had a waiting list of clients, and was being sought out for speaking gigs and teaching. This is what so many coaches work so hard for, and I was no exception. I felt like I was at the top of my game. 
 
The coaching industry grossed over $1 billion worldwide in 2016 and is now the “fastest growing industry next to tech” according to the ICF’s global coaching study.  I had drunk the Kool-Aid. I wanted my piece of this billion-dollar pie.
 
But at what cost?
 
Life coaching, despite its popularity and mega growth, is an unregulated industry. This means there’s no federal- or state-appointed board to keep an eye on things. There are organizations, such as the International Coach Federation, that attempt to implement standards through accredited coach programs and required continued education, but there is nothing “official.”
 
Quite frankly, there is not even a slap on the wrist for hanging your coaching shingle and charging the big bucks, and many coaches have done just this. What I found from the inside is that many of the highest paid coaches in the world are not certified, some of the most enrolled coaching programs are not accredited, and the overall standard for “good coaching” is quite low.
 
The faster the industry grows, the more it seems to leave plenty of room for low accountability, unethical practice, and lack of professionalism. Great coaches are being looked over for coaches with bold tag lines, and even bolder sales tactics.


Guess what? People are starting to notice. We are getting a bit of a reputation, and I'm not surprised. Coaching has become a one-stop shop for pyramid schemes, sales funnels, upselling, and “over-promise/under-deliver” outcomes. 
 
What was one little coach to do? Well, leave, obviously.
 
I thought it was my time to move on, but really what I wanted was to no longer be associated with coaching - which made me sad, because I love coaching. I love what I know is possible and what I think being a coach still stands for.
 
But here's why I am so irked: we seem to be suffering more. And with all the brilliant solutions available, as pointed out in perfectly poised sales letters and funnels, we should all be buying our way to happiness with ease. So then, what gives?
 
Well, transformation cannot be sold on a website, or alluded to in a clever and colorful sales page.
 
Transformation is gritty and doesn't come dressed up in flowery photos of people frolicking through fields with beautifully scripted quotes that say something like, "Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain." 
 
We're totally missing the point. 
 
This work is gritty. I am all for dressing it up just a tad so you feel slightly better about cracking some of your most vulnerable stories wide open, but don't be fooled - once they are cracked open, anything goes. No cute quote or meme can ease the reality (good and bad) of seeking your truth from the inside out.
 
As we move from the "Age of Information" to the "Age of Authenticity," we need to update our approach to this thing called self-development. As Rich Roll so brilliantly shared on his podcast when he interviewed Danielle LaPorte:
 
"Efforts to divine truth from bullshit render imperfect results. Anxiety ensues. To cope, we double down on improving upon our self-improvement until we wake up one day and realize what began as a laudable quest for growth has suddenly become an obsessive malignancy — a sort of spiritual eating disorder gnawing away on our very soul."
 
Thank you, Rich, for capturing what I am trying to say.
 
An obsessive malignancy...yuck. And yet, he's right. Transformation is the new organic. But instead of overdoing the kale smoothies, paleo-anything, and pretending like raw cacao tastes like your favorite chocolate bar, we're macro-dosing on all things self-improvement. 
 
It's no longer about going to see the "head doctor." Now it's about every variety of coaching, energy healing, astrology, back-up astrology, oracle cards, past-life regression, retreats from retreats, burning sage, stuffing stones in your pocket, and, if you're like me, consuming books like they will be taken away.
 
To be fair, I have done everything I've listed above. I applaud the intention here to improve, to grow, and be more, and I support it. We've shifted from trying to function to wanting to thrive. But are we?


Self-development being trendy is great for business, but is it great for humanity? And what is the balance? I am afraid that we've sucked all the purpose out of these practices and we're drowning in shallow waters. There's nothing shallow about deep work, but how do you know you're diving in and not skimming the surface? 
 
I know the direction of this article sounds like I will land on some awesome singular truth and give you a few "steps" for truly doing the work. But that would be no different. Because there are no steps. 
 
I think we've defaulted to step-making, program creation, and yes, the perfectly scripted coaching sales page, because the truth is: if we didn't bedazzle the hard stuff, would any of us consume it?
 
Would we really take the raw action required to practice things like compassion, self-love, forgiveness, and joy? Would we willingly trek through our roots and untangle habits, generational wounds, stories, and strategies that are actually harming us? I don't know if we would.
 

Once you get on your path to radical self-discovery, that pretty meme and flowery quote on your Pinterest page no longer holds any function or meaning. You will see how diluted it is and how it disregards the ache of healing. It means well. All of my fellow change-leaders mean well. We want you to do the work and we want to invite you in with ease, because know it won't all be easeful. 
 
But would it be okay to use the truth as the invitation? To say, "Your shadow has much to teach you, and when you're in the thick of it, it won't feel that way. It will feel like you're failing and it's winning, like you're broken and can't beat this shadow. And then with a little grace, you'll invite in some light. Although the light can't take away the pain, it can reveal to you its purpose. In that moment, you will find compassion for yourself and for all humanity."
 
So here I was, on the brink of leaving it all behind, and my gut was screaming at me to take a second look at this. To not be so hasty and to slow down. To return to my roots - and if in the stillness of my heart coaching didn't ring true, then I could move on. But if in that stillness I remembered my fondness for this art, then I was not only to stay, but to stay with purpose.
 
See, here's the thing.  I am a really good coach. Not just because I've read a few books or lived through some experiences, but because I've dedicated myself to my craft.
 
I've graduated from two coaching schools, one accredited by the ICF. For almost 10 years I've coached more than 250 clients and over 1,800 coaching hours. I've spent more than 300 hours in the classroom learning how to do what I do. I know a thing or two about great coaching because I've been the worst coach...and I've worked diligently to be a master coach. Why aren’t more of us at the table? The coaching industry feels like a speeding train, and I feel powerless to stop it. The truth is, I don’t really have the answer. Except I can do one thing: I can choose to show up - and for my fellow coaches, you can choose to do the same.
 
Choose to dedicate yourself to your craft, not just the business of your craft.

Choose to spend time with mentors and in the classroom, and choose to represent what I believe is still good and right about our industry. Maybe we can’t change our industry, but we can give our clients real insight into what good coaching actually looks and feels like. Because the world doesn't need more coaches, it needs great ones.

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For the hopeful, idyllic, even naive visionaries in us all.
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Recently, my biz coach asked me what my fellow change agents had in common. It took only seconds before I started listing the things I see in my clients and students as well as the things I've experienced firsthand. The fear, doubt, excitement, ease, and then more fear...

In my experience, we all go through some variation of the following:

  • Disbelief that what we think is possible will actually happen
  • Hope that can sometimes feel naive or like we're missing something
  • An overwhelming sense of "imposter syndrome" 
  • If we fully go after our dream or vision we'll lose something meaningful in the process
  • No one will ever pay us to do what we love
  • If we reveal our fear people will walk away or not hire us
  • Everyone has it more "figured out" than me
  • Questions like: Am I making this too hard? Am I missing something? Has this been done before? Who is going to come along for this ride? And my personal favorite, what the f*$k am I doing?

I say favorite because it rings in my head almost every day - "What the f*$k am I doing?" What if my vision doesn't work? What if my belief that I have so much faith and conviction for steers me wayyyy off course? What if I'm actually not the one for this job? What if the other shoe drops and it all just dries up?

This is the part where I am supposed to switch gears and tell you that of course, it will work out! But I can't. Because your dream working out is not up to me. It's up to you.

Only you can decide if what you're aimed at, fighting for, and believe in is worth all of the above. And the sooner you decide this, the sooner you can roll your sleeves up and get to work.

Somewhere in the spring, I turned my back on my purpose. OK, that sounds a bit dramatic, but looking back it's how I feel about it. I feel like I got ahead of myself and tried to steer the ship. But what happened was the ocean dried up. Metaphorically speaking :)

I took space because I needed it and truthfully because I wanted it. But I didn't account for the world going on without me. And it will. The world will keep turning and evolving because that's what it does. If you aren't heeding your call, someone else will. It isn't because you don't deserve it or because you aren't "the one"; it's because we are our calling's stewards. And if you stop listening it moves on to the next steward.

Your calling has insight, creativity and a soul all its own. Sometimes I think my calling is simply using me because it is! Well, I took space and also turned off my call button. I stopped being the work.

And what happened next honestly surprised me: I got bored. Like, really bored.

I could feel myself on the outside looking in and it didn't feel so good. My momentum stopped because I stopped stoking the fire. I stopped showing up in the way I know I can. But in the moment it just felt like a funk, and I thought maybe I was just reacting to something. It never occurred to me that the universe really is following my lead...

It's following yours, too.

When I was finally ready to admit that I was done sitting on the sidelines I ate whole humble pies, washed them down, and called my coaches. Yes, plural.

One reminded me that we all need a pause even in the midst of the big game of our life to get reconnected to our mission and restore the energy to make it happen. The second reminded me that I was too good to sit on the sidelines but that I also can't confuse conviction with importance. Thanks, coaches.

And then I cried. A lot. And kept crying for weeks. And it felt so freakin' good. I cried about losing my purpose, about getting too full of myself, about being bored, I even cried about thinking I had it all figured out. What I did was release. Release. Release. And I remembered this potent truth that gets me out of bed every single morning:


I believe in people. I wholeheartedly believe in their ability to do good, love, and heal. I have a deep belief in the spiritual potential of humanity and I won't quit until every single human being inherently understands their true value and worth. 
 

Something tells me you feel the same way. In your own words, what gets you out of bed in the morning? What keeps you going when you have the question of, "What the f*$k am I doing?" buzzing around in your head?

If you need to pull over once in awhile and take a little rest, do. Maybe everything won't stop like it did for me, or maybe you'll reconnect to the deeper truth of why you risk yourself spiritually to fight for your vision. It isn't even about the world needing you. It's about YOU needing you and it's about YOU coming fully alive. I believe that for everyone this is the real mission. The rest are merely details.

But when you do connect with your vision, stoke your conviction, worship your belief in what's possible, and keep going...well I guess we'll find out, won't we? 

Life Purpose, Soulpreneurs, SpiritualityAndrea WilbornAndrea Leda, Andrea Leda Wilborn, Certified life coach, professional life coach, Brene Brown, daring greatly book, gifts of imperfection book, self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence, how to improve my self-confidence, worthiness, what is worthiness, effects of low self-worth, emotional body, what causes chronic pain, flight or fight, reptilian brain, emotional pain, can stress cause pain, stress induced pain, symptoms of burn out, effects of burn out, effects of anxiety, effects of stress, Mindfulness, how to be mindful, mindfulness practice, mindfulness exercises, meditation, mindful living, mindful eating, how to be balanced, balanced living, improve balance, create more balance, how to create more balance, intuition, how to listen to your intuition, how to use intuition, intuitive healing, intuitive coach, intuitive life coach, best intuitive life coach, how do I know my intuition is right, conscious living, conscious living coach, women’s success coach, women entrepreneur coach, coaching for healers, how to be a conscious leader, spiritual leader, spiritual coach, soul coaching, healer, spiritual director, spiritual abundance, authentic power, is money spiritual, life purpose, how to answer your calling, spiritual coach for entrepreneurs, coach for healers, coach for intuitive’s, wealthy healer, note from your higher self, note from the universe, the best leadership coach, spiritual business coach, soulpreneur, solopreneursComment
You have two choices

I need to repeat this: it isn't actually up to us how things turn out, and our obsession with what we have, what we don't have, what we're missing, and what we're striving for is a big old distraction. You already are everything you could possibly be at this very moment and so to be awesomer...you simply be.

My clients are visionaries; they have these mega ideas not about how the world does work but about how it could work. To the outside world, they look like dreamers who live in fantasyland - people who are attempting the impossible with no real account for what “real life” requires. You know, work-hard kind of stuff.

To the outside world, my dreamers are banking on some concoction of faith, belief, and blind luck. But here’s what the outsiders don’t know about what my dreamers know. These visionaries know that they’re playing a game. That we all are. And the game is not meant for you to succeed or fail. It’s simply meant to be played.

So they are playing.

They are using their inner guidance and gut to follow their path of least resistance. To serve, seek, and find their joy in their dreams. And the successful dreamers know that we all have two options in life, and that one will yield significantly better results than the other. Can you guess which one?

Option A) They can use higher guidance to fulfill their goals.

Option B) They can allow themselves to be guided to fulfill their role in the unfolding of their life.

Dreamers succeed because they are following an inner dream, not an outer dream. They are on their path of least resistance and they know that there is no failure, because success is inevitable. This is what we call a calling.

It's an inner call that beckons you toward some great unknown that you can’t see but you can feel. And you can feel when you’re on the path toward your calling and when you’re on a path that’s taking you away from your calling. My purpose seekers understand this quote...

“No matter how hard a surfer works, the ocean is doing most of the heavy lifting. Because, the operant power behind any force of nature, is nature itself.”

Inside Out Revolution

I want to introduce you to a client. Her name is Jessica and she is a force to be reckoned with. The fist time I met Jessica, we met for an innocent happy hour. I knew right away that this was a woman with a purpose and a powerful path to fulfill. But the woman who sat across from me didn’t quite get this. She was playing small.

Now, I don’t mean she was doubtful of herself or that she wasn’t amassing a big following. I mean that she wasn’t living to the fullest extent of her path or allowing it to unfold from within.

The day she hired me I looked at her and said, “You are meant for big things. And I believe in a bigger vision for you, and I think you can feel that.” She looked at me and said, “I’ve felt this but no one has ever seen it in me also.”

Jessica is the founder of the Superwoman Project and has launched the first annual Superwoman Summit. All of this unfolded from within when she surrendered to her intuition and trusted that her vision wasn’t some crazy idyllic ideology or pipedream, but something she felt deeply called to fulfill. It had been there all along.

She chose Option B.

Before, when she was trying to make her work happen and "effort" her way there, she was attempting to convince herself that this calling was, in fact, tapping her directly on the shoulder. She tried with all her might to do anything but this expression of her work. Because it felt BIG, but in truth, it was also the path of least resistance.

In other words, she let the waves work their magic. And all she had to do was put her surfboard in the water and surf. All she had to do was let her intuition in the driver's seat and play.

It doesn't make sense to fight so hard, work so hard, or push so hard for what you already have. Quiet the mind for a moment and listen. Park your doubts for what you hear. Suspend your judgments of yourself for thinking you're incapable of this feat. Don't try to be the ocean and the surfboard. It isn't your job.

Your job is to fulfill your dreams, not from "out here" but in here. Your crazy, visionary, idyllic dream. Because - and this I can guarantee - if you can feel it, then the world needs it.

Soulpreneurs, Life Purpose, Happiness + Joy, ConsciousnessAndrea WilbornAndrea Leda, Andrea Leda Wilborn, Certified life coach, professional life coach, Brene Brown, daring greatly book, gifts of imperfection book, self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence, how to improve my self-confidence, worthiness, what is worthiness, effects of low self-worth, emotional body, what causes chronic pain, flight or fight, reptilian brain, emotional pain, can stress cause pain, stress induced pain, symptoms of burn out, effects of burn out, effects of anxiety, effects of stress, Mindfulness, how to be mindful, mindfulness practice, mindfulness exercises, meditation, mindful living, mindful eating, how to be balanced, balanced living, improve balance, create more balance, how to create more balance, intuition, how to listen to your intuition, how to use intuition, intuitive healing, intuitive coach, intuitive life coach, best intuitive life coach, how do I know my intuition is right, conscious living, conscious living coach, women’s success coach, women entrepreneur coach, coaching for healers, how to be a conscious leader, spiritual leader, spiritual coach, soul coaching, healer, spiritual director, spiritual abundance, authentic power, is money spiritual, life purpose, how to answer your calling, spiritual coach for entrepreneurs, coach for healers, coach for intuitive’s, wealthy healer, note from your higher self, note from the universe, the best leadership coach, spiritual business coach, soulpreneur, solopreneursComment
The Three Waves...

Over the weekend I got to visit my coach who has four legs. His name is Kett and he’s a horse. The sun was out, a near impossible feat for a Portland spring day, so we worked in the outdoor ring. The ring was lined with grass and it seemed all Kett wanted to do was eat.

My intention for this particular session was to tap into a gnawing I can’t escape and for once, I don’t want to. This gnawing that my work is about to pivot, again, but this time toward a more central truth I’ve been blatantly ignoring for more than four years.

That I (gulp) work with entrepreneurs. 

Now for some of you, this is obvious and right now you are confused why I seem to be the only one who wasn't aware of this. But, alas, I wasn’t.

Yes, I am aware that I have an entire weekend immersion twice per year dedicated to this group.

Yes, I am aware that I have launched a year-long training to teach transformation to this group. And still, I’ve been doing the avoidance dance since I opened my private practice in 2010.

My primary reason for this is not that interesting and reveals something deeper about my personality – because everyone seems to work with entrepreneurs, I wanted nothing to do with it...

So here I am, working with my four-legged coach who just wants to eat grass and I can’t grab his attention. I am in the middle of this round pen and I say to my coach, “This is kind of perfect. He’s on the perimeter and I don’t know how to get his attention. Much like these visionary entrepreneur's, I am finally ready to acknowledge I love working with. They are distracted...”

The perimeter represents all the things we do to not do our real work. We measure things, we base our results on income, we stretch ourselves by trying to be everywhere but in our own hearts and minds. In short, we hang out on the perimeter and eat grass. Because it’s good at the moment and because we’ve been told it’s how to succeed in our work.

But what if there were an alternative?

Back to this book, The Three Waves of Volunteers and the New Earth. This book is about three waves of lightworkers sent here by the source to help our work heal from within. Sounds like sci-fi, right? It’s non-fiction.

The first wave included figures like Mahatma Gandhi and Martin Luther King, Jr. They were focused on sending light into oppression and cultivating non-violence.

The second wave included the dawn of the metaphysical world, figures like Dr. Wayne Dyer, Marianne Williamson, and Deepak Chopra. They were focused on making the soul visible and have paved the way for the third wave.

Now, this is where things get interesting. The third wave was a tipping point of lightworkers. They are no longer contained to movements of non-violence and the woo-woo conferences. Now they are on Twitter and in your local bookshop writing and speaking about healing and the great awakening as though it were as easy to play a role in as using the #optout.

It's a trend that is trendy because it’s a paradigm shifter.

The third wave isn't comprised of your grandmother’s healers holing up in the vortexes of Sedona. Nope. They are also (gulp) entrepreneurs. 

The third wave of healers that will shift how we think, work, love, act, and activate are the very people trending on Instagram and are using conscious commerce to spread something more than consumerism – they are spreading harmony.

Not all entrepreneurs. But for those of you who want to activate more harmony, peace, possibility, fulfillment, and purpose in your fellow human beings through your work then I have a request for you.

Get off the perimeter and stop eating grass. 

Come play in the center of the ring where you can look up and see the sky. Where you can play and move and act with ease and magic. But a shift like this requires that you see the possibility of activating a kind of depth in your work you’ve only glimpsed in states of flow.

What if this were the norm? What if your day was a constant state of flow interrupted mildly by email and social media? What if instead of playing with the numbers, conversions, and results you played with the source of your soulful success? (YOU.)

What if your day were only about:

Intuiting your path

Playing with possibility

Deep stretches of time for thinking, reflecting, and attracting

Aligning and being energetically congruent

Working deeply

Focus on the few things that literally matter

To pursue and seek purpose and fulfillment

Being in nature.

And yes, getting off the perimeter.

When I got clear about this I decided that no matter what Kett wanted to do, I wanted to play and dance in the area. So I did. And then, this is the magical part: Kett followed and wanted to play, too.

So, do you want to play?

Write Your Own Rules

This photo was taken after a pretty epic but impromptu dance party at Awaken Your Practice just a couple weeks ago. My coach and fellow Awaken teacher decided to play a little game with us which evolved into a ridiculous dance fest which turned into epic laughter and of course, joy. 

After we all cooled off and got the giggles out, he sat us down for a teaching on Divine Play and reminded us that business (and I would add LIFE) doesn't need to be so serious. And he's right. Instead, he invited us to write our own rules. This was just one of many incredible moments during the weekend.

This immersion continues to surprise me and blow me away. I will share some testimonials shortly but for now, I am soaking it all up. Because Awaken Your Practice was just me writing my own rules and inviting people along for the ride. 

I shared at the Awaken weekend how I had been getting a massage, just lying there on the table getting some yummy self-care when the idea literally appeared in my mind. Out of nowhere. Or I should say, "nowhere." I could feel it brewing for awhile and on that particular day, I was ready to hear it.  

I remember spending the next morning pouring ideas into my journal about bringing coaches and entrepreneurs together and doing something radically different - not teaching tools but teaching truth. Not giving them more information but more intuition. It seemed like the most obvious thing to do and yet it would require that I wrote my own rules.

Rules like:

I have the right to write a book. 
I have the right to teach others.
I am worth sharing my ideas with the world. 
I have my own permission to teach about energy, intention, vision, and the purpose of business in this new economy.
I can bring the right people together at the right time.
I can be valuable to my own special brand of magic.

And so on they went. Before I knew it I was talking about this immersion with no "sales page" and nothing to show for it but some conviction that wouldn't seem to leave me alone.

Then I was enrolling people for the first immersion last fall before the book was fully formed. I rented a space. I invited teachers to join me. And bam...6 months after that massage I found myself in my first Awaken Your Practice weekend. 

Two weeks ago was the second time I taught this and it blew me away. This thing that I had intuited was fully formed and ready to go, it just needed me to write the rules for myself so I could show up and play full out on its behalf. And next month I begin enrolling for the third one. THIRD.

What rules do you need to write for yourself so that you can bring your ideas to life? Even more important - what rules are you currently following that are keeping you from bringing your ideas to life? No matter if I am coaching a visionary entrepreneur, a c-suite leader, or a mixed group of people I see the following 5 rules show up the most...

  1. The world defines my value for me.
  2. I am too small to make a big difference.
  3. I am waiting to be given permission.
  4. It has to be hard to be worth it.
  5. Others' needs come first.

No matter your title, you are human, first. And as a human, you are subject to your beliefs. Your beliefs are those bold absolute statements you have created to make sense of your life and the world. We are meaning-making machines -- this means we need to make sense of things. All things. I think this quote sums it up beautifully: 
 

"BELIEFS ARE AN ASSUMPTION ABOUT THE NATURE OF REALITY."
 

One year ago I stopped looking outside of myself for answers and I stopped listening to "marketing experts," "Facebook gurus," and "high-end coaches" and got very still. I listened to my heart by opening up a dialogue through my journal. Call it a portal, call it a channel, call it woo-woo, I don't care.

It didn't bring life to my business -- it brought my business TO life. I wrote my own rules for success. And I did so unapologetically.

I invite you to write new rules and erase some old ones. Beliefs are subjective and they're yours. So you may as well make them your bitch. Or something like that :)

Calling all beacons...

My business coach recently shared this short video with me. The film recounts a Superbowl halftime show when Prince was the main act. And it was raining. Like, pouring buckets. Panicked about the rain and all of the show components -- you know, like electricity -- they called down to Prince's dressing room to check in about going on or not. And his response was this:

Can you make it rain harder?

And he nailed this performance. You can see it in the link above.

Can you make it rain harder? This, dear beacon, is now our calling. Why else does a beacon exist but to guide in the dark? We are built for darkness, did you know this? And the darker it is the more you shine. So, make it rain harder.

Sure, it would be a heck of a lot more convenient if we weren't needed so much, because that would mean we lived in a time when we weren't afraid, when things were a bit more predictable, when you could turn on the news and not see death, war, fear, economic crashes, aliens, etc. (I am just guessing because I don't actually watch the news. I don't need to eye the dark to know it's there -- I can feel it. Can't you?)

A few signs you are a beacon:

You are sensitive. Like super sensitive. Not just emotionally but even physically. You probably struggle, or have struggled before, with ailments like chronic pain, stomach issues, headaches, etc. And when you are in large crowds you secretly want to crawl into a hole. And maybe binge watch Gilmore Girls. (Just an example.)

You feel called to something, even if you can't quite put your finger on it. You feel called to go within, to ask big questions, to ponder words like fulfillment, purpose, and worth. You don't just want to answer this call, but you want to help people because of this call.

You have an adverse relationship to money. You want to feel free of the burden to have money and you simultaneously understand the ease money can bring -- but this also causes conflict because you feel like money is short-sighted. You feel like it muddies the water. You fear if you mixed money with your gifts that the sky would fall. (Or something equally as absurd)

You feel slightly crazy. You see signs everywhere and although you keep most of them to yourself, they make you feel so normal and also slightly crazy. Synchronicities happen more frequently, which also make you feel normal and also slightly crazy. 

You, despite the times, feel a deep sense of hope and possibility. The sky could be falling and you'd still say, "What a beautiful time to start anew!" This can leave you feeling a bit naive, like you are missing something. But you also feel a connection to hope, as though hope is not only available, it's the perfect time to employ the magic hope can create. 

You woke up on November 9th, 2016 and felt equal parts sad and determined. Change is inevitable and not all change makes sense in the moment. But despite this looming change, you woke up on November 9th more determined than ever. Like you not only matter, but you can't keep yourself small any longer. 

If you checked off any of these boxes, then congratulations, you're a beacon! Sorry, there's no medal or award for this. It is actually a bit of a burden even in the blessing of being a beacon. The burden? A looming sense that you have to do something with this newfound power, and fast. The blessing?

You are a light. And the lights just went out, my friend.

Next week is #bethebeacon week! To join just sign up for my Inner Circle above and you're in. Then simply open the emails and I hope you'll join your fellow beacons on the free "Be the Beacon" call on December 9th. 

Light and love,

Andrea