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Favorite Books from 2015
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Those who know me, know I am a major book lover. I haven't always been so crazy about reading. However I was lucky enough to grow up in a house with books in almost every room. My favorite photo of me and my dad when I'm little is of us painting bookshelves he built when I was 3.

This year I put each book I read aside so I could see themes, ideas I gravitated to, and so I could refer to my favorite ones for clients. In total, I consumed over 45 books...I may slow down this year. But each book opened a new portal to something I couldn't get enough of! My initial goal was to read one per week. Some I read 2-3 times and some I really slowed down to enjoy.

I studied the Chakras, quantum physics, habits, money, beliefs, coaching, mindfulness, forgiveness, compassion, change, and more. I have a few favorites I'd like to recommend. There are a few I've added to my list to re-read in 2016.

Here are my Top 10 Books from 2015:

10.) Zero Limits by Joe Vitale This book covers an ancient Hawaiian practice called 'Ho'oponopono'. The idea is pretty out there and so powerful! The idea is that we are 100% responsible for the creation of everything that comes into our life. This practice helps us clear the static and heal what's not well in the world through our own experience.

9.) Anatomy of Spirit by Caroline Myss I remember my mom had a copy of this book on her shelf throughout my childhood. I can't believe it took until this year to pick it up! This is a wonderful venture through the Chakra system.

8.) Outrageous Openness by Tosha Silver A book I think everyone can use. It will make you laugh-out-loud and sigh at the same time. This is one woman's adventure in totally surrendering to life and her higher self and seeing what happens. This is one I will re-read in 2016.

7.) Spontaneous Healing of Belief by Gregg Braden If you want to take a mini-dive into the world of quantum physics this is where I would begin. Gregg Braden is a physicist turned spiritual teacher. He is on a mission to share the science of faith and belief. And it get's pretty weird in the best way!

6.) Taking the Leap by Pema Chodron My favorite part of this book is her description of the 'groundlessness' of life. That we all go searching for something more solid to stand on, only to find it doesn't exist! And that this is ok.

5.) Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach Radical self-compassion, is there anything as powerful? If you are having a difficult time loving yourself, read this.

4.) Eastern Body, Western Mind by Anodea Judith I. Love. This. Book. If you are ready to dive into the psychology and development of our energy centers called Chakras then I recommend this book. I reference this book is almost every coaching session.

3.) Prosperous Coach by Steven Chandler and Rich Litvin Calling all coaches and people working with people! This is one I read 3 times. It's a quick read but packed with so much about how to show up and serve powerfully as a change agent. I am so grateful this book was written!

2.) Soul of Money by Lynne Twist  I have read a lot (I mean, a lot) of books about money in my quest to change my relationship to receiving, having, and giving money. This book finally spoke to me in a way I was missing. Lynne's fundamental understanding of coming from a place of plenty is so simple and profoundly needed.

1.) Rising Strong by Brene Brown Are you surprised a Brene Brown book is #1? I counted down to the release of this book. In her third book on the power of vulnerability, she finally owns that she is, in fact, a wonderful writer and story teller. And it shows. Thank you Brene for helping us own our stories and show up bravely!

Narrowing down to 10 was so hard! What are some of your favorite reads from this year?

Much love and light for this joyous new year!

Andrea

April Book Club Chat: The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks
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big leapToday's book club chat is about this powerful read: The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. This book changed my life. His points are easy to follow and even easier to integrate.

"Life is at its best when love, money, and creativity are growing in harmony." - Gay Hendricks

I love this quote from the beginning of the book. The question then begs, "How?" And 'The Big Leap' is the answer. As he points out, the problem is we have a limited tolerance for feeling good. We know how to feel pain - we have an entire brain center dedicated to it!

Which is why his initial three questions sparked my interest -

"Are you willing to increase the amount of time every that you feel good inside?

Are you willing to increase the amount of time that your whole life goes well?

Are you willing to feel good and have your life go well all the time?"

I'm certain you said, 'yes!' Me too. Well, having read the book now, how did you do? Let's explore this further. Join in by leaving a comment below. Please note that comments are public.

1.) He writes, "In the face of so much evidence that life hurts and is fraught with adversity on all fronts, having a willingness to feel good and have life go well all the time is a genuinely radical act." What do you think of this?

I had to really stop and think about this - and I totally agree with him. It is a radical act. To actually love your life IS a radical act. To spend your day figuring out more ways to feel good instead of why you feel bad will change your life. What do you think?

2.) What do you think about his description of "upper limits"?

Think of an upper limit as that glass ceiling you've inadvertently placed on your life. This one is universal. We all have upper limits and they're all invisible to us. My upper limits used to do with success and money. Every time I would reach a peak of success "something would happen..." I put this in quotations because you know what I'm talking about. We aren't conscious or aware, I should say, of our upper limits. They aren't obvious and they're always masked as just unfortunate circumstances. Here's a BIG secret: there's no such thing as unfortunate circumstances. This can be an entire article so I won't dive in too much here. If you want to know WHY then tune into my free call on May 14th.

3.) Do you live in your Zone of Genius?

This was a major theme from the book and my favorite. His description of living and working from a place that also helped you let go of 'get-oriented' goals is very appealing. I applied this to my work right away and cut back on things that weren't fulfilling anymore. I cut out all the 'should's' from my work and as left with a business I absolutely love. How did you apply the Zone of Genius to your life?

Thanks for joining me for April's book club! I'll leave you with this quote from the book:

"Long ago you made a handshake deal with the universe that you wouldn't hold back. It's easy when you're comfortable to forget the deal you made with your soul to use yourself fully."

In light, love, and books,

Andrea

P.S.

There is not a book club selection in May while I focus on my Conscious Living for Mindful Entrepreneurs month! I'll be sure and make up for this with a really good read in June. Who doesn't love summer reading?

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March Book Club Chat: Taking the Leap by Pema Chodron
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Taking the Leap by Pema Chodron"We are constantly looking for ground beneath us, always looking for a permanent reference point, but it doesn't exist. Everything is impermanent. We're programmed for denial. Insecurity is the ego's reaction to the shifting nature of reality."

- Pema Chodron, Taking the Leap

Today's book club chat is about this lovely read: Taking the Leap by Pema Chodron. Taking the Leap is about just this - taking the leap in the face of uncertainty. As a Buddhist nun, Pema Chodron teaches from the Buddhist perspective of non-attachment, mindful awareness, and radical acceptance.

A few book discussion questions! Join in by leaving a comment below.

1. She says, "The natural rhythm of life is not static. Life energy is not static. The source of our unease is the unfulfillable longing for a lasting certainty and security. Something solid to hold on to." What do you think of this quote?

She is absolutely correct. We spend tons of energy keeping discomfort at bay. Numbing, avoidance, walking away, passivity, blaming, and flat out denial are all a means to avoid the lack of certainty or solidity in life. Life isn't certain. Period. Life is ever-changing, ever-evolving. Static energy is a surrender to movement, a surrender to life! I encourage you to get comfortable with not always being comfortable. This post here shares a few ideas to get you started.

2. Pema offers two components of fear - Shenpa and Mara. Mara being fear itself and Shenpa the attachment to fear. How do these show up in your life? 

It isn't the thing we fear that is the cause of such worry in our life, it's our attachment to the meaning we fear so much. Change the meaning and you melt the fear. As I wrote yesterday, fear is one of the three human illusions. It is a substitute for true acceptance or understanding of what you think you face. As Pema recommends, "Don't overcome Shenpa. It's an opportunity for transformation - an open doorway to awakening", she writes. The secret to fulfillment even among fear is acceptance.

3. She suggests to create a training ground for dancing with fear in our daily lives. This is what I call 'leaning into discomfort.' What are your thoughts on actively turning toward the things that cause you fear and worry?

You won't want to lean into discomfort when you're already uncomfortable. I suggest leaning in when you feel secure. It gives you the courage to be vulnerable when there's nothing to risk. It's your training ground. For example, take a cold shower when you don't need to and get uncomfortable being in a stream of cold water. Be mindful in traffic and choose to let go of the stress around you because you can't go anywhere. If you really want to practice lean into difficult conversations. When you want to turn away, turn in.

My favorite part of the book is when she encourages the reader to take an interest in their pain. To move closer, lean in, get curious. Do anything to melt the resistance. 

What did you think of this book? I would love to hear your thoughts! Please leave me a comment below (note that these are public comments) or send me a private message by clicking 'contact' above.

In light and love and good books,

Andrea

P.S.

Next month we'll study another aspect of fear, the upper limit, in this wonderful read, "The Big Leap" by Gay Hendricks.

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April Book Club: The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks
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big leapHere's how Book Club works - at the start of each month, or the week before, I'll post the book for the month. You have all month to read it! At the end of the month I'll post questions, share some of my notes about the book, and ask you to participate in the comments section. In this book club we will focus on books that make you feel good. You can always see the monthly book selection on the side bar. 

APRIL BOOK CLUB SELECTION:

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

I. LOVE. THIS. BOOK. The author's entire premise is that each of us has an upper limit that keeps us from truly achieving our dreams AND can destroy the dreams we've manifested. He outlines how to recognize your upper limit and how to transcend it. We could all use this awareness. It'll surprise you and free you at the same time.

Read it, I know you'll love it! Book club discussion will take place right here on Thursday, April 30th. I’ll post a few questions and give my input BUT I really want to hear from you! Enjoy this read.

In light, love, and good books,

Andrea

P.S.

As a Portland dweller I link all books to Powell's Books. Please not I am not an affiliate and do not receive any compensation for the link. Just some book love!

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March Book Club: Taking the Leap by Pema Chodron
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Taking the Leap by Pema ChodronHere's how Book Club works - at the start of each month, or the week before, I'll post the book for the month. You have all month to read it! At the end of the month I'll post questions, share some of my notes about the book, and ask you to participate in the comments section. In this book club we will focus on books that make you feel good. You can always see the monthly book selection on the side bar. 

MARCH BOOK CLUB SELECTION:

Taking the Leap by Pema Chodron

How is it March already?! Here in Portland Spring has welcomed itself. It feels very early but the Dogwoods and Cherry Blossoms are in full bloom and it is such a welcome sight. As you shed winter, spring is a natural time of renewal, growth, and flow.

This is why I've selected 'Taking the Leap' by Pema Chodron as our book club read this month. I think it's a nice welcome into this new season. In this short (100 pages, exactly) read Pema Chodron walks you through how to accept and detach from your fears. I find her approach unique in that she isn't asking you to shed them but welcome them in a very intentional way. Learn from them but let go of their story or what you think your fears say about you.

Read it, I know you'll love it! Book club discussion will take place right here on Tuesday, March 31st. I’ll post a few questions and give my input BUT I really want to hear from you! Enjoy this read. It's one of the best books I've ever read.

In light, love, and good books,

Andrea

P.S.

You can read all past book club selections here.

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February Book Club Chat: Radical Acceptance
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radical acceptance"Radical Acceptance dissolves the glue that binds us as a small self and frees us to live from the vibrant fullness of our being."- Tara Brach

Today's book club chat is about this lovely read: Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach. Radical Acceptance is Buddhist in nature - it is how you dance with fear. As she points out early in this book, "Fear is part of life, so resisting fear means resisting life." Pause and really let this in.

So much of our living today is focused on staying comfortable. On staying away from uneasiness. Tara offers a radically different approach - in order to fully embrace life you must fully embrace your fears in life.

This isn't to say you have to passively accept them but accept them with intention. This means change your relationship with the things that scare you so that they no longer direct your life. True fears are not the fear itself but our story about something and our acceptance of that story as truth.

For example a fear of not having enough money is a fear of not feeling like enough. The story becomes, "Am I worthy or even deserving of abundance?"

Don't make the goal to get rid of your fears for they are your greatest teachers. Instead make the goal to find the lesson in the fear and the growth you're meant to experience as a result of this fear. Seek that growth and the fear has completed its job and falls away. You do this with the two wings of Radical Acceptance - mindfulness and compassion.

"Compassion begins with the capacity to hold your own life with a loving heart." 

All of your life. This becomes the training ground for offering compassion and loving-kindness to the world. Not to end suffering but to have compassion for it. She then goes on to say, "As we open to the vulnerability of others, the veil of separation falls away, and our natural response is to reach out a helping hand."

And as we connect with what is right in front of us, we realize the true immensity of who we are. It's in the face of the world around you that you learn about yourself. This is Radical Acceptance.

I leave you with this final quote that I can't stop using. It's so beautiful!

"Radical Acceptance opens the door of our cage and invites us to move freely in our world...when we live in awareness we live in love."

- Tara Brach

What did you think of this book? I would love to hear your thoughts! Please leave me a comment below (note that these are public comments) or send me a private message by clicking 'contact' above.

In light and love and good books,

Andrea

P.S.

Next month we'll continue this study of how to embrace and live with our fears with Pema Chodron's book, "Taking the Leap."

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January Book Club Chat: Steering by Starlight
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Steering by Starlight"The caterpillar that goes into the cocoon never survives. It can't in order to emerge as a butterfly."  - Martha Beck

This is the first thing I wrote down upon picking up this book. I love this quote and I think it sums up this read nicely. She's saying that to be who you're meant to become you literally have to dissolve who you are. 'You don't feel or think your way to re-alignment with your path. You dissolve the thoughts and feelings that blind to what you know.'

The basic premise is that your soul's story is already written for you. Your role here on earth is to dismantle the shackles built by you fear brain and dissolve the ego's story of limitation so that you can live out that which is already perfectly designed for you.

Let's dive into some questions! Please leave your thoughts in the comments section below. *Please note: All comments are public. If you wish to send your thoughts privately I would still love to hear them. Please click contact above to do so.

1. How do you feel about the author's statement that we defend our fears?

At first I felt like, "No way! I don't defend them." But in really reflecting here, I do, we all do. We protect the very things that keep us small and held back. Not because we are on our fear's side but because our fears are just as much part of our identity as our non-fears. They too have created the frame through which we see and respond to the world. When we feel safe. When we don't. What we're capable of and what we're not. To take our fears away is to shake up our identity. That's the real fear...

2. Have you ever felt 'called' to your journey?

Yes! It wasn't a profound moment at the time but it changed how I defined my reality and it defined the laws of how I believe everything works. I wrote about that experience here. Just as Martha Beck points out, when we start to walk our path we start to let go of attachments to anything that makes that path hazy. This could be toxic relationships, thoughts, even certain foods.

3. How did it make you feel when she writes that we're trapped not by people but concepts?

This is hard to hear because if it's not 'out there' then it's within me! If I have the power to change it, will I? This is the desire but few of us actually harness the vast power we have everyday to direct our life. As she writes, "We have to kill the dungeons that keep us totally trapped." We have to tell ourselves a more accurate story and believe it. We are not flawed, we are not imperfect, and we are not un-worthy. But we spend way too much time creating elaborate stories as to why these things are true. What would happen if we let them go? Could you handle the depth of your gifts and abilities?

4. What's your biggest takeaway from this book?

Life doesn't have to be a battle between the ego/survival brain and your soul's path. We are both/and. We can't vanquish our ego or our fears but we can certainly shift our relationship to them and how they effect our life.

Now I want to hear from you! What did you think of this book? Did you like it, not like it? Please leave your thoughts in the comments section below. *Please note: All comments are public. If you wish to send your thoughts privately I would still love to hear them. Please click contact above to do so.

In light and love,

Andrea

P.S.

February's Book Club Selection is Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach. You're going to want to read this book!

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February Book Club: Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach
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radical acceptanceHere's how Book Club works - at the start of each month, or the week before, I'll post the book for the month. You have all month to read it! At the end of the month I'll post questions, share some of my notes about the book, and ask you to participate in the comments section. In this book club we will focus on books that make you feel good. You can always see the monthly book selection on the side bar. 

FEBRUARY BOOK CLUB SELECTION:

Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach

I have to make my next book selection Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach. I wrote a two-part post about Radical Acceptance here and here. However this is one of those books worth reading in its entirety. Tara Brach is a lifelong mediation student and teacher and a psychologist. I personally think this is a brilliant combination. I love the fundamentals in this book as well as the gifted mediations at the end of each chapter.

Book club discussion will take place right here on Friday, February 27th. I’ll post a few questions and give my input BUT I really want to hear from you! Enjoy this read. It's one of the best books I've ever read. Happy reading!

Please note: As a Portland dweller, I am a big fan of Powell’s Books. I link to their online store for all book club picks but am not an affiliate. 

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15 Books to read in 2015
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Happy New Year!! My word for 2015 is FAITH. This is a word I was 100% totally and completely uncomfortable with before this year.  It's not a word you would have found in my everyday vocabulary. So what happened? This experience required I have faith in uncertainty and trust in my new path in life. It was either this or a total depressive episode which I knew just wasn't me anymore. So I chose faith for the first time in my life...

...and it changed my life.

I've borrowed my definition from Sue Monk Kidd. She says faith is, "paying attention to where we belong." 

I believe that in order to change your life you need a certain amount of faith to create some certainty about the change you want. Wait...faith creates certainty?? Yes. And more on this in another post.

As a big supporter of books what better way to start the New Year than with a list of 15 books to read in 2015.

My book recommendations change every year because more and more great books are being published. This list is a compilation of old favorites plus a few new ones I think you need to know about.

This list of books will help you cultivate a loving relationship with faith.

If you need a little more certainty or understanding in your life then these books will help create it.

four agreements andrea leda1. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

Often it’s the simplest of things in life that have the biggest impact. This book is just that – simple. The four agreements are: Be impeccable with our word, don’t take anything personally, always do your best, and don’t make assumptions. He teaches you the real power behind taking personal responsibility for yourself and your actions and detaching from the actions of others. We all see the world through our own unique lens and when you do the best you can within that, happiness is inevitable.

 

 

gift-from-the-sea2. Gift from the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh

This book is enchanting. The author’s use of metaphor here is so brilliant and yet still so true. Anne Lindbergh wrote Gift from the Sea in 1955…1955! Here is a book with themes about womanhood, inner-peace, life transition, social roles, solitude, connectedness, love, and faith written over 59 years ago and it feels like it could of been written this year.

This book will stand the test of time. Why? Because I believe these themes are in our blood. Although she mostly focuses on the role of a woman in society today I think all can benefit from reading her words.

gifts of imperfection andrea leda3. The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

This is easily my most recommended book. Brene Brown easily shows her readers how letting go of ‘supposed-to’ and ‘should’ is liberating and needed to live a more happy, fulfilled life. In a 10-year research project she did on the topic of shame, what Dr. Brown discovered were a group of very happy people living what she calls a wholehearted life. What is this exactly? Living life with courage of an open heart, vulnerability, and embracing failure. In her second book here, she shows you how to do the same and reap the benefits of a wholehearted life.

 

 

mutant message down under4. Mutant Message Down Under by Marlo Morgan

This book was published over 20 years ago and I had never heard of it until last month! It was a gift from my brother and sister-in-law. I loved this book. I sat down to read the intro one day and read the whole book. I couldn't put it down! This "fiction" story follows Marlo on a destiny journey through the Australian outback with a small tribe of Aboriginals. Without any notice she is invited on a walkabout across Australia, a 3-month journey by foot. The messages and lessons she learns are imperative to our health, happiness, and ability to thrive as a global society. Please read this book. 

 

 

Proof of Heaven5. Proof of Heaven by Eben Alexander, M.D.

I picked this up maybe a year ago and finally read it...in one sitting. It's one of those books. Easy to read and easy to understand intellectually but you might fight what he has to say. Dr. Alexander is a neuro-surgeon. He operates on the brain. And has had many patients who come out of surgery with NDE (near death experience) stories. Which he never believed  until it happened to him. What's so beautifully perfect about his experience is that it is an unprecedented one. The part of his brain that can account for story and imagination didn't exist because it was being eaten by bacteria. And yet he not only survived to share his story but has quite the vivid memory of what happened. Coincidence that he's a neuro-surgeon? I'll let you decide for yourself...

spontaneous fulfillment of desire6. Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire by Deepak Chopra

What I love about Deepak Chopra is he can take very dense concepts and help them feel light so you can easily understand what's he's teaching you. In this book he discusses the idea of non-local reality. A sort of web of neither space or time but of total connectivity. It is the underpinning of the Law of Attraction. If you're interested in how miracles work, read this.

 

 

 

 

the-seven-spiritual-laws-of-success andrea leda7. Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra

Perhaps this should actually come before #6 - I loved this book. He wrote this in one sitting on a plane from L.A. to Melbourne, Australia. And in it are 7 irrefutable laws of the universe. Laws like karma, pure potential, and giving. For only being 111 pages it contains everything you need to know about the sheer power and potential at your fingertips every single day.

 

 

 

untethered soul andrea leda8. The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer

This book caught me by surprise and I'm grateful for that. Be prepared for this read to challenge you and to think from your higher self. That place that can't rationalize, but can only feel and experience like you already know. Michael Singer outlines in his first book how to release your Self from your ego and reconnect with a place of infinite energy and our collective soul. LIke I said, be prepared to be challenged. But if you can embrace his concepts you will find yourself also embracing the most truthful form of happiness - total presence of body, mind, and spirit.

 

 

awaken the spirit within9. Awaken the Spirit Within by Rebecca Rosen

Rebecca is a medium. She delivers messages from people who've passed on back to people who are still here living on Earth. I didn't know what to expect when I picked this up but I quickly fell in love with one simple thing - she shares messages from spirits that parallel some of the greatest teacher's lessons throughout history. Themes like The Hero's Journey and reincarnation. It may challenge you or it may sooth you. Either way I recommend this book to anyone who is feeling a bit lost in the shuffle of the world.

 

 

money master the game10. Money - Master the Game by Anthony Robbins

Read. This. Book. Go out and buy this right now. I'll wait...Got it? Good. Ok, I realize it's 642 pages and it took me even a month to read. But this is single handedly the most resourced and useful book available today. Anthony Robbins hasn't published anything in over 20 years (maybe even longer) but he made his point with this book. He spent years interviewing some of the most successful investors from the past 50 years and took all their knowledge and crammed it into this book. Why am I recommending a book about money here? Because. One of the #1 causes of constant stress & anxiety is money. It comes down to TWO things: self-worth and education. Money is not something to fear unless you don't understand it. This book is easy to read and full of easy strategies.

return to love11. Return to Love by Marianne Williamson

Marianne Williamson has made a career of spreading the messages from A Course in Miracles. 'Return to Love' is her synopsis of her work. In a nutshell - love is all there is. And if love is all there is then compassion is all there is to do. If you're feeling uncertain, unfulfilled, or lost then read this book.

 

 

 

 

Daring Greatly andrea leda12. Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

Sometimes I get on a Brene Brown kick, I can't help it. I love her. In her third book, Daring Greatly, Dr. Brown talks about what it means to have the courage to live in the arena. What might you ask is the arena? It's that place in our lives where we are authentic, vulnerable, and open but it also means you should expect some criticism. And that's ok. Because you're in the arena, declaring your worth and that's hard work. Vulnerability, once thought of as weakness, turns out to be this awesome thing that can change your life! There can not be authentic happiness without authentic vulnerability.

 

 

survival instinct13. Your Survival Instinct is Killing You by Dr. Marc Schoen

This book pretty much sums up the work I do. Dr. Schoen has spent years studying the adverse effects of an overly sensitive survival instinct, aka your limbic system. I wrote extensively about it here and here. However I recommend you read the data for yourself. If you find yourself agitated, always reaching for something to do or eat, or on edge constantly this book will provide answers and solutions.

 

 

 

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14. E Squared by Pam Grout

I read this one weekend at the beach and found myself in a sort of magicians game with the universe. She outlines 9 energy-based experiments you can do to bring more of what you desire into you life. Think manifestation, affirmation, and synchronicity all in one. Powerful stuff that all starts with your mind and awareness. It's a fun read and there are several laugh-out-loud moments.

 

 

 

 

wishes fulfilled wayne dyer15. Wishes Fulfilled by Dr. Wayne Dyer

If you like E Squared then read this as the follow-up. This is the book where I learned the sheer power behind the statement, "I am..." and how it's basically a universal wish granter. Now I am watering this down because there's more to it than this. But  I love his concepts. Makes you think twice about what you actually have power over in your life.

 

 

 

 

There are many more I want to recommend but need to read first! In light and love, Andrea

P.S.

You can read my previous books lists here: 10 Favorite Books for Fall & 8 Super Awesome Books for Happiness.

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December Book Club Chat: Gift from the Sea
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DECEMBER BOOK CLUB GIFT FROM THE SEA I. Love. This. Book. I loved it so much I immediately ordered copies for my all my clients and mailed them out as end of year gifts. I love books and found this caught me off guard a little which makes it a new favorite read. It's right up there with The Gifts of Imperfection & The Four Agreements.

This book is enchanting. The author's use of metaphor here is so brilliant and yet still so true. Anne Lindbergh wrote Gift from the Sea in 1955...1955! Here is a book with themes about womanhood, inner-peace, life transition, social roles, solitude, connectedness, love, and faith written over 59 years ago and it feels like it could of been written this year.

This book will stand the test of time. Why? Because I believe these themes are in our blood. Although she mostly focuses on the role of a woman in society today I think all can benefit from reading her words. Here are a few questions and my thoughts BUT I want to hear from you!

Please leave your thoughts in the comments section below. *Please note: All comments are public. If you wish to send your thoughts privately I would still love to hear them. Please click contact above to do so.

1. What did you think of her use of shells as metaphors for the stages of life?

As someone who just transitioned into a very new stage in her life I found this very soothing. No one can escape the stages of human life mostly marked by age and experience. I think we have 3 dominate stages to life - your youth, middle age, and retirement. One marked by risk and adventure, the next by security, family, and career, the third by returning to a strong sense of self and re-entering some independence with a life of knowledge to go with.

What I particularly loved about this was by using equal but different shells there is not judgment for the stages. I think the middle years are the toughest. They come with loads of expectation and desire. A longing for the past and an anticipation for the future. But with a lot of patience and respect to these year they will also be the most full. As is marked by the Oyster Bed so rigid and uneven but full of life and movement.

2. What did you think about the analysis of our continual mis-step in trying to find our center?

This quote grabbed me: "We do more to drain our creative springs than to refill them. We attempt to water a field, not a garden! Not knowing how to feed the spirit, we try to muffle its demands and distractions. Instead of stilling the center, our axis, we add more force by way of activities to our lives. This is our true off-balance." My work is focused around helping people, not find their center but return to knowing their center is always there to ground them in life.

She speaks to a lifelong quest here - how do we find eternal joy? All motivation in life is to either find pleasure or avoid pain which is also another way to find pleasure. As Anne points out, there is no external activity that can match the inner joy and peace that already exists. 

We're simply adverse to standing still. As she says so eloquently "I want...to live "in grace" as much of the time as possible.... By grace I mean an inner harmony, essentially spiritual, which can be translated into outward harmony."

3. Does Anne's message have personal meaning for you? What have you taken away from her book that might apply to your own life?

As I've said this book still carries a lot of truth today as it did when she wrote it. Although I suspect when she wrote this she was speaking to the changing of the times - women going to work outside the home for example. Something we more readily accept today but still struggle with the balance of things and desires. For me personally, I take from this book a sense that I am not alone in my questions and curiosities about life.

I crave the very things Anne brings to light - a creative and connected life with much interdependence from my partner and a marriage of trusting growth and parallel experiences. Perhaps some day I will collect shells to remember life is a journey worth traveling. It's not that we have much to learn but I think we much to accept which creates the ultimate understanding.

What do you think? Thank you for joining me for December's book! What an awesome way to end the year. I hope you celebrate tomorrow and find inspiration in the renewing sense of a fresh year. It's a gift, it really is.

In light & love,

Andrea

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Please leave your thoughts in the comments section below. *Please note: All comments are public. If you wish to send your thoughts privately I would still love to hear them. Please click contact above to do so.

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January Book Club: Steering by Starlight by Martha Beck
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Steering by StarlightHere's how book club works - at the start of each month, or the week before, I'll post the book for the month. You have all month to read it! At the end of the month I'll post questions, share some of my notes about the book, and ask you to participate in the comments section. In this book club we will focus on books that make you feel good. You can always see the monthly book selection on the side bar. 

January Book Club Selection:

Steering by Starlight by Martha Beck

Martha Beck is a phenomenal life coach. She starting coaching long before it was even considered a career track. This is a great read to start your 2015 with. She uses her knowledge as a coach and as a spiritual woman to help you find your right path and align with it in life. I didn't want this book to end which is always a good sign of a worthy read. I think you'll enjoy it!

Book club discussion will take place right here on Friday, January 30th. I'll post a few questions and give my input BUT I really want to hear from you! Enjoy this read, I think it's going to be a good one. Happy reading!

Please note: As a Portland dweller, I am a big fan of Powell's Books. I link to their online store for all book club picks but am not an affiliate. 

P.S.

See all book club selections and discussions here.

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November Book Club Chat: Discovering your Soul Signature
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discovering your soul signature panache desaiWelcome to November's Book Club Chat: Discovering your Soul Signature by Panache Desai. Well, what did you think? I must admit, although I loved the idea of reading small snippets three times per day it became a bit daunting after a while. Yet each day offered so much to ponder it made the book well worth the effort. Panache covers some pretty intense topics and doesn't give much pause to the heaviness. I like this. We need to talk about these very things because they are common experiences but not often discussed. Things like shame, self-judgment, the Ego, and being human. Here are a few discussion questions. Please chime in by leaving me a comment below. *Please note comments are public, if you wish to send me a private message click Contact above.

1. Which day resonated most for you?

Day one - Fear resonates with me most. It's the root of all things holding me back. This is true for a lot of people and I know I'm not alone in this. Fear is sneaky because it creeps into your mind like a weed. When you need courage the most fear has a way of holding you back just enough to not make a go at your life. He even talks about your fear weeds. Mine are - worthiness, scarcity, fulfillment, intelligence, and deserving. But fear is nothing more than a story we attach significant meaning to. When you prove the story wrong you take power away from how it makes you feel.

2. How did you come away from reading this book?

Overall I loved this book. Most books I devour in a couple days. Having to intentionally take my time was tough but what a wonderful lesson Panache built in don't you think? We are so hungry for instant gratification even when it comes to happiness and joy we miss the meaning in taking our time. I will gladly re-read this and take the same 33 days to do so again.

3. Is there a topic you feel is missing?

We will all answer this differently. I believe we are spiritual beings having a human experience. I wanted him to speak to this. I wanted a day on consciousness and how it is the root of pure potential. Consciousness creates energy and energy creates action. Pure consciousness as a human is just a thought but where does the thought come from? You can't pinpoint it or recall where thoughts originate from. This is fascinating to me and I think holds the key to end much human suffering.

I also wish he had written about love first and last. Although fear keeps us stuck, love sets us free. More on this another day.

Thank you for joining me for November's book club! Join me in December as we read Gift from the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh. Book club discussion will take place here on Wednesday, December 31st. See you then! In light and love, Andrea

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Read all past book club selections here.

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December Book Club: Gift from the Sea

DECEMBER BOOK CLUB GIFT FROM THE SEABook Club is back! Here's how it works - at the start of each month, or the week before, I'll post the book for the month. You have all month to read it! At the end of the month I'll post questions, share some of my notes about the book, and ask you to participate in the comments section. In this book club we will focus on books that make you feel good. You can always see the monthly book selection on the side bar. 

December Book Club Selection:

The Gift from the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh

I actually have not read this! My mom gifted me a copy for my 21st birthday and I recently just found it. It seems like the perfect book for December, don't you agree? This quick read is going to be a good one!

Book club discussion will take place right here on Wednesday, December 31st. I'll post a few questions and give my input BUT I really want to hear from you! Enjoy this read, I think it's going to be a good one. Happy reading!

Please note: As a Portland dweller, I am a big fan of Powell's Books. I link to their online store for all book club picks but am not an affiliate. 

P.S.

See all book club selections and discussions here.

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November Book Club: Discovering your Soul Signature by Panache Desai
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discovering your soul signature panache desaiBook Club is back! Here's how it will work - at the start of each month, or the week before, I'll post the book for the month. You have all month to read it! At the end of the month I'll post questions, share some of my notes about the book, and ask you to participate in the comments section.In this book club we will focus on books that make you feel good. You can always see the monthly book selection on the side bar. 

November Book Club Selection:

Discovering your Soul Signature by Panache Desai

Do you ever feel like a book picks you? I have a few books in my collection that kept finding their way into my life until I finally read them. And they've all been my favorite reads like The Gifts of Imperfection and #GIRLBOSS. November's Book Club selection belongs in this category. It's Discovering your Soul Signature by Panache Desai. I watched Panache on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday back in the Spring of this year. He is one of the most compassionate beings I've ever heard speak and this was long before he had a book out.

During my wakeup call experience this summer I would wander Powell's Books aimlessly waiting for something to jump off the shelf and make sense of what was happening in my life. This book did just that. Well, it didn't literally jump but I didn't hesitate to pick it up and take it home.

This book requires dedication, let me say that first. It's not something you sit down and read cover to cover. It's a 33-day read with paragraphs for morning, noon, and evening. Although you only read a few pages each day it does mean practicing a little devotion to the book for longer than a few days. But it's well worth it if you are in need of more purpose, passion, and joy in your life. And aren't we all?!

If you're up for it, read this! I just might have something in store for you in the New Year to accompany it. 

Book club discussion will take place right here on Wednesday, December 3rd. I'll post a few questions and give my input BUT I really want to hear from you! Enjoy this read, I think it's going to be a good one. Happy reading!

Please note: As a Portland dweller, I am a big fan of Powell's Books. I link to their online store for all book club picks but am not an affiliate. 

P.S.

See all book club selections and discussions here.

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October Book Club Chat: Daring Greatly
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Daring Greatly book review

“Vulnerability is not weakness, and the uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure we face every day are not optional. Our only choice is a question of engagement. Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose; the level to which we protect ourselves from being vulnerable is a measure of our fear and disconnection.” This is how the book opens.

This is itself is a great synopsis of what Daring Greatly is all about. Practicing vulnerability is not weakness and emotional exposure will happen no matter what. Moments of shame do happen. Our choices are to A) Hide B) Numb C) Be mad D) Practice vulnerability.

When we choose option D, however, we also choose authenticity and allow ourselves to be seen. You know what happens when we don’t choose D? We live in fear of not being enough, scarcity, comparison, and inner gremlins that never seem to shut up. Worse of all, we think we’re alone.

Let’s debunk some Vulnerability Myths -

  • ‘Vulnerability is weakness’ - It actually takes brave acts of courage to be vulnerable because it requires being seen when you really don’t want to be. On page 36 Brene lists what her research uncovered as vulnerability and these things are far from weakness. Things like asking for forgiveness, having faith, the first day after divorce, falling in love, admitting you’re afraid, and many more. When do you feel most vulnerable? What does this say about your strength?
  • ‘I just don’t do vulnerability’ - Whether you think you do vulnerability or not, it does you. Pretending you don’t engage with vulnerability means you engage activities or habits to avoid vulnerability. This is how numbing happens. Those things that take the edge off like a glass of wine every night, the bakery run on the way home from work, a full Sunday of The Housewives marathon. Practice vulnerability or practice trying to avoid pain. What do you do to push feeling vulnerability away? How can you better embrace vulnerable moments?
  • Vulnerability is letting it all hang out’ - Practicing vulnerability does not require ‘over sharing’, in fact it is quite the opposite. When you practice vulnerability do so with someone you totally trust to sit with you in your worst moments and celebrate your best.
  • I can go it alone’ - If you plan to go it alone you may also want to plan for being lonely. As a society we tend to glorify independence as bravery but really going it alone is lonely. Vulnerability requires support and visibility. Both things we can’t do alone.

So why all this hype about vulnerability? Because practicing it is a direct combative of shame and guilt. Shame can not survive being talked about or shared. It feeds on secrecy and being hidden inside. Shame is feeling bad about who you are, guilt is feeling bad about something you did. Shame creeps in and sticks to everything.

Sometimes we define ourselves by our shame stories like not feeling thin enough, smart enough, rich enough, good enough, etc. And when things happen that feed this, like eating more cake than we wanted to, not getting our dream job, or putting more purchases on credit cards the guilt adds to our shame story. In these moments the best and scariest thing to do is have awareness, reach out to your support, and say, “I am in a shame spiral…” <— that is being vulnerable.

In a nutshell this is a wonderful read that will resonate with you. Based on over a decade of research, the concepts are founded in experience and will give you great insight into why you feel the way you do sometimes and how to move through it. I also recommend her book, “The Gifts Imperfection – 10 Guideposts to Wholehearted Living".

What did you think of this book? Did you view of vulnerability change? Leave me a comment below and share your thoughts! -Andrea

P.S. Don't miss November's book, "Not That Kind of Girl" by Lena Dunham.

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10 Favorite Books for Fall
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10 FAVORITE BOOKS FOR FALLBeing a pacific northwest girl, fall means rain. But I don't mind, it's kind of cozy and the perfect backdrop for journal writing and reading. Today I want to share my 10 favorite books for fall. You can see my 8 awesome books for happiness here. In short, I love books. Seeing as most books can be purchased for under $20, new or used, and come with so much inspiration, ideas, dreams, plans, education, lessons, and laughs I think as the reader you get the better end of the deal. It's a dream of mine to author a book one day. Until then I will read as many as my brain can handle.

10 Favorite Books for Fall

girlboss1. #Girlboss by Sophia Amoruso

This is the ultimate rags to riches story but with a lot of guts. Sophia Amoruso is the founder and CEO of Nasty Gal, an online retailer. She started with an ebay shop for vintage and 8 years later has an empire of sorts. This book fills in the big gap in between those years. All the how's and what's of rising to the top of her industry. Business love aside, I enjoy her attitude. She is not afraid to tell it like it is. If you're craving some creative change and want to make a go at something new in your life then this is a great read.

e22. E Squared by Pam Grout

I read this one weekend at the beach and found myself in a sort of magicians game with the universe. She outlines 9 energy-based experiments you can do to bring more of what you desire into you life. Think manifestation, affirmation, and synchronicity all in one. Powerful stuff that all starts with your mind and awareness. It's a fun read and there are several laugh-out-loud moments.

 

 

wishes3. Wishes Fulfilled by Dr. Wayne Dyer

If you like E Squared then read this as the follow-up. This is the book where I learned the sheer power behind the statement, "I am..." and how it's basically a universal wish granter. Now I am watering this down because there's more to it than this. But  I love his concepts. Makes you think twice about what you actually have power over in your life.

 

 

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4. Writing Down the Bones by Natalie Goldberg

Calling all creative beings, this book is for you. You can replace any creative outlet with 'writing' in the title and it would speak right to you. In fact, she even suggests this in the opening chapter. I love this book. It made me thing hard about what energy and space I give to the things that feed my soul like writing, art, community, and more. If you're ready to give your all to something, read this book first. This is the perfect season for just this.

 

monk5. The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari by Robin Sharma

Robin Sharma's classic book is actually a business book but works well for daily life. It's a series of lessons as told by a burnt-out lawyer turned monk. Through the main character's voice, the author shares his insights into mindful living and how to keep what's really important in your life present. It's a must read, and one that will make you feel really good.

 

 

bodyofwork6. Body of Work by Pamela Slim

It feels like in this day in age there is a lot of pressure to find what you're really good at at make it your end-all. But life is not linear like that and is made up of so many experiences. Every experience counts for something which is what Body of Work is about. It's a nice reminder that we have a common thread that ties all our work together, paid and not paid. We have themes and the author helps you find yours.

 

conversations7. Conversations With God by Neale Donald Walsch

This book may be a bit controversial but I loved it. It's an extended dialogue between the author, Neale Donald Walsch, and God. Really. It's a written conversation as the title says and it's rather good. There are three books in this particular series but the first book is still my favorite. I couldn't put it down.

 

 

happiness8. The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor

Student turned intern, turned teacher at Harvard, Shawn Achor found himself teaching one of the most popular classes on campus - a class about happiness. After spending an exceptionally long time at Harvard he watched some fascinating student habits and patterns emerge. Some that would determine a student's attitude and achievements while attending Harvard. He took his theories and went on to teach them to companies and leaders around the world. His wit and charm alone are worth reading this book for.

diempty9. Die Empty by Todd Henry

I loved this book despite it's obvious title. It's about the age-old saying, "Don't die with your music still inside of you." Essentially, empty yourself of all that you have to offer this world. Leave it a better place. Stand for something. Find your through line and follow it to the end.

 

 

quiet10. Quiet by Susan Caid

Ok, I have to admit that I actually have not read this yet. But it seems like the perfect read for rainy fall days. If your partner, best friend, or co-worker is an introvert read it for them. If you consider yourself an introvert then pick this up and quietly read all about your strengths and how to use them to your advantage. Maybe this would make for a good book club selection? What do you think...leave me a comment below if you think so!

 

P.S.

It's not too late to join October's book club: Daring Greatly by Brene Brown. AND just so you know, each book links to Powell's Books where you can get a copy. I am not an affiliate, I just love this bookstore.

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September Book Discussion: The Four Agreements
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Four Agreements Book Discussion

What did you think of September's Book Club pick? I love this book and it's one I try and read every year. The four agreements are SO simple and yet they seem to encompass so much. If we all followed the four agreements...well, let's just say the world would be a very different place. I've included some discussion questions below which I answer but I want to hear from you. Leave me a comment on one or all the discussion questions. For a quick synopsis, the Four Agreements are:

  1. Be impeccable with your word
  2. Don't take anything personally
  3. Don't make assumptions
  4. Always do your best

1. Which of the four agreements most resonates with you?

I personally resonate with #2 - don't take anything personally. This is something I've been sensitive to since I was a little girl. I am unsure why but personal criticism is a tough one for me. What I love about his perspective on this agreement is that people can only project their personal reality and it has nothing to do with me. A compliment or a negative review is about the state of mind of that person in that moment and how they see the world. Do they see the world as fair or unfair? Just or unjust? This alters how people act and react to what other people do. It's quite liberating to think about it this way.

2. Why do you think the four agreements, albeit simple, are hard to follow?

I really don't know! They are the simplest guidelines out there and could solve so many problems. Even when I know this and want to practice them I get caught in the very things that are harmful, like taking things personally. I also think we are creatures of attachment. We attach to our ideas, opinions, and perspectives pretty tightly. These guidelines are in a way about letting go. To not attach to someone's actions and to only focus on the self and your personal intentions. It's easier to look out there for things like happiness, success, joy, gratitude as well as unfairness or blame instead of looking within. I think some people spend their lives trying to find such simple happiness and really it's within your hands right now.

3. What do you think personal freedom means?

I think personal freedom is what so many search for. Some seek through meditation and prayer, some through song and dance. Personal freedom is a spiritual freedom from the human ego. It's place where you live in alignment with your highest self which has no purpose for things like judgment, fear, or jealousy. Your highest self is quite harmonious and lives in a constant state of liberation from suffering. Instead, in a state of personal freedom you live with unconditional love, compassion, and gratitude. This is what some call awakening, nirvana, or enlightenment. Few have achieved this and I mean literally a few people.

4. How will you practice the four agreements?

By doing just that - practice. There is no time limit to the four agreements. They require nothing but intention and patience. The next time I feel criticized I will try and remember it's not personal and that the person criticizing is coming from a place of hurt. This goes hand in hand with the first agreement, be impeccable with your word. Just as I don't want to take anything personally I also want to come from a good-intentioned place with my words and my writing.

Thanks for joining me for September's book, The Four Agreements. Leave me a comment with your thoughts on the above questions! 

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October Book Club: Daring Greatly
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DARING GREATLY 720Book Club is back! Here's how it will work - at the start of each month, or the week before, I'll post the book for the month. You have all month to read it! At the end of the month I'll post questions, share some of my notes about the book, and ask you to participate in the comments section.In this book club we will focus on books that make you feel good. You can always see the monthly book selection on the side bar. 

October Book Club Selection:

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

I love this book! And it's a perfect read for the Fall. It's all about living a courageous life. But in this book courage means to come from your heart and to live with the practice of vulnerability. As we hunker down for cooler weather this is a book sure to make you feel warm inside. It will remind you how to live your life from a place of authenticity and that always feels good.

Book club discussion will take place right here on Monday, October 27th. I'll post a few questions and give my input BUT I really want to hear from you! Enjoy this read, it's a good one as we enter a new season. Happy reading!

Please note: As a Portland dweller, I am a big fan of Powell's Books. I link to their online store for all book club picks but am not an affiliate. 

P.S.

It's not too late to read September's book selection, The Four Agreements. Join me here on Monday for the discussion!

September Book Club: The Four Agreements
Four Agreements Book Club
Four Agreements Book Club

Book Club is back! Last year I hosted a book club in my coaching space for 12 months. We read some amazing books. Some we will revisit this year too. I like all kinds of books - fiction, biography, DIY, memoir, and self-help. In this book club we will focus on books that make you feel good. Like our September book - The Four Agreements. Books that teach and guide. Books that open your eyes to big ideas. Books that stretch what you know about yourself. And books that help you live a more whole life.

Yes, these will mostly all be found in the self-help section. It's ok. You'd be amazed what they've done with self-help books in the past 20 years. They are amazing! I'm going to guide you the entire way. I loved meeting every month, and maybe some time I will bring it back. But I was also very excited by my favorite bloggers and their blog-based book club. Thanks ladies for the inspiration! If you like fun fiction, join their club!

Here's how it will work - at the start of each month, or the week before, I'll post the book for the month. You have all month to read it! At the end of the month I'll post questions, share some of my notes about the book, and ask you to participate in the comments section. You can always see our monthly book selection on the side bar. And I'm always open to book recommendations. Ready? Let's do it!

September Book Club Selection:

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

This is a book I like to read every year, if not twice a year. It's that good. And yet it's barely over 100 pages. Read it, I know you'll love it. Book club discussion will take place right here on Monday, September 29th. I'll post a few questions and give my input BUT I really want to hear from you! Enjoy this read, it's a good one as we enter a new season. Happy reading!

Please note: As a Portland dweller, I am a big fan of Powell's Books. I link to their online store for all book club picks but am not an affiliate. 

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8 Super Awesome Books for Happiness
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Here's why I love books as much as I do - they are inexpensive, full of insight and knowledge, and easy to come by. A value of mine is to always keep learning and books make this very easy. Here are 8 super awesome books for happiness. Now, only one of my recommendations is directly about happiness. This is because I think happiness is a bit understood and I want to introduce you to a new way of looking at this emotion. Each book teaches some version of this truth - happiness is in acceptance, letting go, and gratitude. It may not be a constant, every day state but is an energy that you embody. Happiness has peaks and valleys but it's also something you can think of and say, "Yup, I am happy and feel happy even when life happens."

Everyone wants more happiness, but what I hope you find in your reading is that it's already within you! You just have to stop looking out there for more joy and turn inward. Happy reading!

gifts of imperfection andrea leda1. The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

This is easily my most recommended book. Brene Brown easily shows her readers how letting go of 'supposed-to' and 'should' is liberating and needed to live a more happy, fulfilled life. In a 10-year research project she did on the topic of shame, what Dr. Brown discovered were a group of very happy people living what she calls a wholehearted life. What is this exactly? Living life with courage of an open heart, vulnerability, and embracing failure. In her second book here, she shows you how to do the same and reap the benefits of a wholehearted life.

 

 

Daring Greatly andrea leda2. Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

Sometimes I get on a Brene Brown kick, I can't help it. I love her. In her third book, Daring Greatly, Dr. Brown talks about what it means to have the courage to live in the arena. What might you ask is the arena? It's that place in our lives where we are authentic, vulnerable, and open but it also means you should expect some criticism. And that's ok. Because you're in the arena, declaring your worth and that's hard work. Vulnerability, once thought of as weakness, turns out to be this awesome thing that can change your life! There can not be authentic happiness without authentic vulnerability.

 

 

untethered soul andrea leda3. The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer

This book caught me by surprise and I'm grateful for that. Be prepared for this read to challenge you and to think from your higher self. That place that can't rationalize, but can only feel and experience like you already know. Michael Singer outlines in his first book how to release your Self from your ego and reconnect with a place of infinite energy and our collective soul. LIke I said, be prepared to be challenged. But if you can embrace his concepts you will find yourself also embracing the most truthful form of happiness - total presence of body, mind, and spirit.

 

 

the-seven-spiritual-laws-of-success andrea leda4. The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra

Written on a 13-hour flight from LA to Melbourne, this is my favorite book by Deepak Chopra. Don't look at the word success in the title as having anything to do with your career, but as a calling to succeed in life. He focuses on seven keys to a good life - things like giving, karma, and pure potential. Ideas that help to put things in perspective.

 

 

 

 

four agreements andrea leda5. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

Often it's the simplest of things in life that have the biggest impact. This book is just that - simple. The four agreements are: Be impeccable with our word, don't take anything personally, always do your best, and don't make assumptions. He teaches you the real power behind taking personal responsibility for yourself and your actions and detaching from the actions of others. We all see the world through our own unique lens and when you do the best you can within that, happiness is inevitable.

 

 

 

mindset-16. Mindset by Dr. Carol Dweck

Your mindset is your filter for how you interpret the world. How do you feel about your ability? How do you think about failure? Do you think people are out to help you succeed or fail? These are all part of your mindset and your mindset can make a big difference in being happy or not. Happiness is not blind optimism, it is a choice and your mindset will help with that choice. She outlines two mindsets she found in her research and how adopting one or the other will set you up for more or less joy in your life.

 

 

 

how of happiness7. How of Happiness by Sonja Lyubomirsky

This is the only book on my list that deals directly with the happiness. Turns out there are things you can do that can increase your happiness by as much as 40%! That's a lot and within your hands. Once you read a bit about her research you will take a short assessment to help you find which happiness producing activities are best for you. Things like getting in flow, keeping a gratitude list, and exercise among many others are included.

 

 

 

 

the-five-love-languages-new-edition_b8. The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Whether you're in a relationship or not I recommend this book. We all have needs and interpret how much love someone has for us based on how well our needs are being met. Now, I am not an advocate for assuming your partner or even best friend to fill in your needs for you. However, knowing what you need more of and less of will contribute greatly to personal happiness. Dr. Chapman walks you through each language and then you get to find yours. If you're in a relationship I suggest reading this book with your partner. It's amazing what having your language met can do!

CONSULT

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