June Book Club: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
It's no secret that I LOVE this book - can you tell? I even created a 10-part series based on the lessons in the book this Spring. You can read each guidepost and journal prompt here. You may of seen her TedTalk on The Power of Vulnerability or her three books. If not, check them out. Brene’s work is based on a 12-year research project she did on shame. What she unearthed was a population of people living what she now calls a “Wholehearted Life.” This particular group of people embrace failure, creativity, play, laughter, and self-compassion and they do so through the practice of vulnerability.
In her second book, "The Gifts of Imperfection" Brene Brown outlines what she discovered through her research about those living a Wholehearted Life and how they do so. She shares through 10 Guideposts for Wholehearted Living, which include -
1. Cultivate Authenticity – Let go of what people think about you
2. Cultivate Self-Compassion – Let go of perfectionism
3. Cultivate a Resilient Spirit – Let go of numbing and powerlessness
4. Cultivate Gratitude and Joy – Let go of scarcity
5. Cultivate Intuition and Trusting Faith – Let go of the need for certainty
6. Cultivate Creativity – Let go of comparison
7. Cultivate Play and Rest – Let go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth
8. Cultivate Calm and Stillness – Let go of anxiety as a lifestyle
9. Cultivate Meaningful Work – Let go of self-doubt and “supposed to”
10. Cultivate Laughter, Song, and Dance – Let go of being cool and “always in control”
I love this idea of cultivation because it means although they might be simple ideas, they take patience to develop. It shows that each is really a skill and if practiced we too can live more wholehearted lives. I also love the idea of letting go. This is a major theme in my work - letting go is not the same as giving up. In fact it couldn't be farther from it! Giving up can be passive, an act of quitting. Letting go means releasing yourself from expectation, unwanted pressure, and all those "supposed to's" in your life. And that takes strength and courage because you have to tune into the parts of your life that really aren't working.
I loved this book and recommend it to just about everyone. Really, everyone. Pick up a copy and let me know what you think!