I’ve written this post three times and deleted it three times. I want to get this one just ‘right’. You know when you have something you really believe in and want to make sure you convey it with the right conviction and passion that people will hear you?
This is like that.
Then I woke up early this morning and was sitting with my journal, listening to the birdsong outside my window and thought, "You know, a bird doesn't question her song, she just sings. How can more of us just sing?"
And I knew exactly what I wanted to write today. This is for my fellow purpose-driven beings.
Do we all have a purpose? Yes. Do we all want to act it out? No. But oh how I wish you would. So today's article is for those of you who do want to act on their purpose...but are terribly afraid.
You know who you are.
You can feel it brewing beneath the surface. Maybe you've had some experience of your purpose already or have seen it play out a little in your life. Maybe you're totally aligned with your purpose or are evolving it as we speak. No matter where you are with it, you have this unwavering feeling in you that you just can't shake and I urge you not to.
I'll be totally honest - I need to read this article today so I decided to write it.
My work has grown exponentially this year. Not just physically with clients and students but also in what I do, how I serve, what I write about,
and what I dream about. <--- this is the one that really gets me.
What I dream about.
This is what I dream about...
That all of my fellow purpose-driven, soulpreneur, passionate, aligned, open-hearted, conscious peeps would do two powerful things:
1) Get out of their own way
2) Play BIG
And yes, in this order. First, let's address getting out of your own way.
And because there is no quote that sums this up as well as this I give you Marianne Williamson -
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Read this. And then read it again. And again. Pause on this - "It is our light, not our darkness that most frighten's us..."
Fear. Most of us equate purpose with fear.
What if I fail miserably at this?
What if I can't see all the parts, where do I even begin?
What if no one thinks my purpose is worthy or valuable?
Who am I to pursue my purpose?
Sound familiar? This was my narrative too before I turned toward my purpose.
We ALL have a purpose or a calling. Think of it as this truth embedded in the DNA of your soul. When it gets turned on you’re called to something in your life that, if followed, will lead you to the highest version you can live of your life.
This purpose can be many things. Here are a few examples:
- More purposeful work
- To become a parent
- To move or travel
- To start a non-profit
- To write
- To paint
- To play music
- To climb a mountain
- To find God
- To adopt
- To forgive
- And the list goes on…
Your purpose is already there – are you listening for it?
It’s an unspoken thing you can feel in your gut. It’s a sense that you’re missing out on something big in your life. Oh, and it probably sounds terrifying to pursue. Clients often say to me, “How do I know what my purpose is?” And I always answer with this, “I know you know what it is. The better question is, what are you afraid of by turning toward it?”
It isn’t likely that you just don’t know. You know. It’s the idea of actually doing something about your calling that is very scary. Of course it’s scary! Answering your call means…
- Moving WAY out of your comfort zone
- Accepting that your calling won’t fit into your life as it is now
- Challenging what you believe to be absolutely true about who you are
It’s no wonder answering your call requires bravery!
Today I want to share a few stories of this kind of bravery. The kind of bravery playing big beckons from us. My hope is that these stories will act as little nudges to help you turn toward and even answer your purpose.
One is about someone I haven’t actually met but admire her conviction. One is about a client who’s given me permission to share his story. And one is about me and what happened when I answered my calling.
“MAYBE THERE’S A WAY OUT OF THE CAGE WHERE YOU LIVE
MAYBE ONE OF THESE DAYS YOU CAN LET THE LIGHT IN
SHOW ME HOW BIG YOUR BRAVE IS
AND LET THE WORDS FALL OUT
SAY WHAT YOU WANNA SAYHONESTLY I WANNA SEE YOU BE BRAVE
WITH WHAT YOU WANT TO SAY
AND LET THE WORDS FALL OUT
HONESTLY I WANNA SEE YOU BE BRAVE”-SARA BAREILLES
There is a woman who answered her calling and it put her on a quest that challenged her entire life. Her name is Elizabeth Gilbert. You may know her from her book, Eat Pray Love or Big Magic. You might have a very strong opinion about her journey, her book, or her message. No matter your thoughts put them down for a moment and let’s look at the bones of what she did.
She felt something deep within her life that just wasn’t right. She hand picked her entire life, she was present for every decision. Her work, her marriage, and her dreams. Yet one night, walking around her home in the dark, she just knew it was all wrong. She didn’t know what was right just yet.
It’s easier to feel what’s out of place because we haven’t made space yet for what fits better.
Then she did something even she couldn’t believe – she turned toward her calling and let it fill in the blanks. Although terrified, she left her marriage, left her home, and left her life as she knew it to embark on a year-long journey around the world. And she found the life that was perfectly designed for her already.
THERE ARE ALWAYS REASONS TO DENY YOUR CALL. LEARN WHAT’S CALLING YOU, LEAVE THE REST TO THE UNIVERSE.
There is a man who is answering his calling one day at a time and he’s finding each day to fit just a little more perfectly. This is the story of a client of mine. I’ll call him John. When John first came to work with me he was in over his head. He had embarked on a business that felt right at the time but slowly it stopped fitting who he was. He wanted so badly to take care of everyone in his life that he never turned toward himself and asked what it was he really wanted.
Until it started to make him feel lost, sad, and sick. Answering your calling will feel oddly effortless.
John slowly started to peel back the layers of his ideal life and where he wasn’t living in alignment with his vision. It turned out what he really wants is to be motivational speaker and a healer. Opportunities were already knocking on his door (yes, this does actually happen) and he was turning them down out of fear that it would rock his current life too much.
Answering your calling will pull you in a direction you are not already headed. In other words – it will ask you to change directions. And fast.
The tipping point is when not answering your calling is more painful than just doing it. John let go of who he thought he was so that who he is could show him the way. In the end, it wasn’t as scary as he anticipated. In fact, it’s the easiest path he’s ever navigated.
“WE MUST BE WILLING TO LET GO OF THE LIFE WE PLANNED SO AS TO HAVE THE LIFE THAT IS WAITING FOR US.” – JOSEPH CAMPBELL
This last story is about a woman who didn’t know she had a calling until it knocked her sideways. This is my story. I’ve shared bits and pieces here and here. Today I’ll give you a short summary that has taken me more than two years to comprehend. Sometimes you have to go with the flow, ask questions later. I had two wake-up calls 6 months apart to the day. The first, a spiritual breakdown, and the second, a life breakthrough. The thing is, I was pretty content before my calling came knocking on my door.
My life was good. Good job, good friends, good relationship. All things happy in their place. Sure I had questions and quiet wonderings about what life was really about. Was there a purpose I wasn’t fulfilling? Why am I here? What is the point?
Until you answer your calling these questions are crazy making. After you answer your calling these questions are irrelevant.
I’ve always known I was intuitive and had a natural gift for hearing and serving people. When I see people hurting I can’t help but go to them. Then on January 8th, 2014 it all came full circle when God tapped me on the back. Growing up atheist this was a bit…alarming. It sent me into a spiral of questions, books, mentors, guides, and late night journal writing. Turning toward your calling will have you questioning so much. Let the questions come – just don’t get hung up on the answers.
This wake-up call set me up for my second calling when I realized I wasn’t working on purpose. After God said hello I knew I was meant to help others lean into their higher selves, reconnect with their soul, and let go of their fears.
Answering your calling brings a sharp amount of clarity we can spend our whole lives searching for. Just like that…there it is.
It would be another 1 1/2 years before I was ready to really own this. Well, I’m still working on it. Each day I ease a little more into my calling. It’s still scary. Here’s the thing about self-enlightenment – once you see and feel the light, going back into the dark feels like dying. Even when scared, uncertain, or lost I keep going because life makes perfect sense to me now.
SO YES, I WANT YOU TO BE BRAVE.
There is no greater purpose for you than to answer your calling.
That silent tug on your heart?
Tune into it.
Listen to what it has for you.
Ask what it knows.
No one knows how it will turn out. You can't know. So put the desire to have all the answers up front aside for a moment and ask yourself the following -
What do I WANT?
For what PURPOSE?
WHO do I need to BE?
What is the ESSENCE of my purpose? (aka how could it make me FEEL?)
This is your business because no matter what purpose you're driven to create in the world or your world - it starts with you. Your heart. Your soul. What makes you come alive. The only how you need to worry about is how you CHOOSE to play big.
Don’t follow the easier path because you don’t know how to play big.Play big and watch yourself growth into the person you need to be TO play that big.
I promise you this – your purpose will not find the fullest expression it possibly can from a place of fear, lack, or scarcity. It can’t exist as its fully expanded self from your lower self.
Only your higher self can actualize your purpose.
And your higher self deals in love.
Don’t pursue your purpose from the step you’re on today
Purse it from where in your heart you believe you can go.
I dare you to get big, be bold, grow, be a visionary, and love your life and work to the degree that it is the perfect expression of what it was always meant to be. And then…get out of the way.
In light and love,
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