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The Weekly Practice
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I've fallen in love with two words through my work — awaken and practice. For me, they co-create in what feels like a mysterious but intuitive way, but perhaps it's all in how you personally employ them.

I don't feel like I went in search of these words so much as they found me both through experience and the longing to marry slowing down with a reminder so simple it came in the form of single words. Words that remind me daily that all of life is a constancy of ease, effort, and engagement, and when done with intention you get to see more, experience more, and understand more.

In short, awakening is a practice.

I used to think awakening or answering a call came in a burst of insight; some singular yet profound event that could magically land me in a whole new reality. And should this day come, I also wanted it to solve a bunch of problems for me such as worthiness, self-acceptance, trust, and how about making me more money while we're at it.

I thought if you were awake, then doesn't all of life get easier? Shouldn't that be the deal?

My favorite definition of awakening is "Coming into awareness." What awareness? It depends on what needs to be seen, noticed, or felt in that moment. What I love most about this practice of awakening is its never-endedness. It can't be accomplished. It is either present or not present.

But then the most profound thing of all happened in my life — loss. Significant, identity-altering loss. The kind of experience that did wake me up but subsequently required a daily practice or I would get lost down the grief rabbit-hole; a place it can feel all too easy to climb into.

In other words, awakening didn't solve my problems. Instead it seemed to create a whole host of new ones I was unprepared to manage. Emotions like sadness and longing, memories that just tap me on the shoulder when they desire to, and questioning more than I knew I was questionable.

However, these were not my only companions. I've been accompanied by gratitude, clarity, presence, faith, and even a splash of reverence. Some have asked me if my practices are now about mitigating pain but it couldn't be farther from the truth. Now, my practices embrace life more wholly. But here's why:

The whole of your life, the really good stuff that you will recount as having made up who you are, cannot be mentally chewed through. It requires space to converse with, to invoke you, and to guide you from a deep well already inside you. 


The space you create in your life for such a process is called contemplative practice. My favorite definition of this practice comes from Naropa University:


"Contemplative practice transcends the idea that knowledge arises in the thinking mind only. Instead, it invites students to embrace the immediacy of their interior lives as a way to fully integrate what they learn."


Over the past 18 months, I've come to long for this container that gives way to interior space. While my practices vary — yoga, writing, meditation, cooking, walking, art — their purpose has one constant:awakening. The purpose of a practice is a continuous exploration of the self which assumes there is always something to unearth.

A yoga teacher of mine recently shared this: "Don't break the body to meet the idealism of a pose. Build the pose to meet this moment of the body." Practice isn't about a life rehearsal in order to perfect or perform when the time comes. Practice means allowing the experiences of your life to give you a greater capacity for things like compassion, insight, grace, love, intuition, meaning, and purpose. 

In a world where accomplishment has become a harsh measurement for a successful life, the experience of loss has taught me a different rule book; one that beckons a different journey not as popular but, for me, far more fulfilling.

I made a choice when I lost my parents to only move toward my personal truth and continue to create a life I both take seriously and find immense joy within. This may not speak to you. You may be in search of more convenient answers that don't require stillness or sitting in open-endedness. If so, this may be where we part. 

However, if you're craving something similar, here's what you can expect from what I am calling the Weekly Practice:

  • Content to open you to your interior.

  • Personal stories to help you feel seen and not alone.

  • Resources I am currently reveling in such as podcasts, books, and writing prompts.

Thank you for being a reader and for committing to your own practices! Having this space has been a personal refuge and I am grateful to have readers such as you.

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The day I said "yes" to myself
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I had a spiritual awakening on January 8, 2014. A day that changed the whole course of my life but at the time it felt like an unraveling. It felt like something I wanted nothing more than to deny and hide.

And I did. I hid it from almost everyone for almost two years. 

Having a "spiritual awakening" sounds all good and fun but for me it threatened everything I knew to be true. I grew up an atheist and ironically a devout one at that. Logic was the name of the game and we prided ourselves on sitting around the dinner table and "discussing" (a.k.a. arguing) about philosophy, politics, science, feminism, education, and anything but god. 

When it felt like Source/God/Universe cracked me open on that January day, I was a lot confused. Questions began to pour out of my pen which I had never contemplated or given much thought to. Questions like, “What is consciousness? Are we infinite?”

I would spend the next two years in search of answers. What happened to me? What did I miss? Where do I come from? Why am I here? Is there a God? What is Source? How do I feel about religion? What is spirituality? What are the mystics telling us? What is my role in all of this?

I read every text I could get my hands on. I asked teachers, leaders, healers, intuitives, and mentors these questions. I wrote hundreds of pages in my journal. And slowly the answers began to flood from me. I knew what I believed…but I was terrified to say it.

So I hid. 

I thought if I hid it two things would happen.

1) It could be my secret little hobby and no one needed to be the wiser.

2) Like all great hobbies it would lose its luster and I could "go back" to being me.

Well, it turns out you don't have a profound spiritual awakening and then just return to "normal" life. **Insert eye roll emoji**

I was different whether I was willing to admit it or not. Or was I?

The truth was, this wasn't new. I wasn't simply "waking up" so much as I was remembering who I was. I've always been intuitive and tapped into things I can't see but know to be true. We live in a world where these things, which at one time were celebrated culturally, are questioned and criticized for their lack of "truth" and validity. 

I shared with my father recently how I see the world. We were comparing world lens notes and he sees the world very rationally. The left side of his brain is physically bigger than his right. No, really. You can feel it pressing against his skull. 

I shared with him that while I "get" the world rationally I see it through a very emotional lens. That when I walk around in the world I don't just see the world, I feel it. I feel all of it. Sometimes I can't tell which is mine and which is not mine because it just all melts together. One big emotional soup.

If I spend too much time in a hospital, large shopping mall, or in a large crowd I get physically sick. Sometimes just depressed or anxious. My favorite bookstore is as big as a city block and four stories. It's one of my favorite places to spend an afternoon but sometimes it makes me nauseous and queasy within minutes.

Upon sharing this, my father said to me, "That sounds awful." To which I sort of chuckled.

I don't know any different but is it awful? I had to sit with that comment for a moment. And I came to this conclusion...

It isn't awful. In fact, it's wonderful.

To feel the world isn't always easy or convenient but it's a gift. Emotions are the texture to our life. They give our life meaning and make our stories worth recounting. They tell us who and what is important to us. Even anger points the way to what's important in as powerful a way as sadness or joy. 

I’ve known since that January day that I am meant to be a spiritual leader and teacher, a healer and a guide. I am meant to use my intuitive gifts to hold space for others and help them heal and live their purpose. To gift the generosity of space to listen to your heart and hear your own intuition.

But it took me until November 2015 to admit it. I was scared that I shared my new found beliefs and the depth of my intuition I would be pushed out of the tribe. I didn't know which tribe just "the" tribe. I thought I would risk belonging in a world where I already barely felt like I fit in.

It took me almost two years to even write this sentence let alone make it public...
 

"I was sent here by Source (God, Universe, I Am, One) to help the world wake up from within. To remember that we are one, we are love, and we are incredible beings. To help you awaken your life from the inside out."


When I first wrote this with the intent of putting it on my "about" page on my website I think I wrote it cringed with one eye open as if I was about to witness my own train wreck. 

I remember I called my big brother to like, you know, warn him that it may appear as though I'd gone crazy. I wanted to reassure him (and me) that I was perfectly sane...I think.

But that hiding this was no longer an option.

Do you ever feel this way? That at some point it's simply too exhausting and painful to deny who you are to yourself and the world? I tell you though, telling my family I was marrying a woman was easier than this.

Answering our call can feel like life or death. And in truth, it's a kind of death. It's the death of who we thought we were, of the ideals that carried us this far, and of the things we used to believe to be true. 

In order to experience a spiritual rebirth, you have to let go. I had to let go. And risk the leap.

In November 2015 I published my new about page.

Sometimes when I get scared or feel "too" seen I want to delete it and replace it was a more convenient biography. A simple list of my accomplishments is anything but vulnerable.

But I can't.

Because it wouldn't just be deleting an about page. It would be me denying who I am to myself. This is the scariest thing I’ve ever done. And yet I know with my entire being that I am finally home.

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Faith when it matters most
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This article won’t go out for a couple weeks, but I am currently writing it from a bumpy bus seat as I commute back and forth for my family. Although this is a pretty tenuous time in my family’s lives I do my best to keep some things private. It’s important for the sake of my family’s privacy but also because the details are only important to those involved.
 
The lessons, however, are the very basis on which I practice my work and model possibility for those who choose to lean into me once in awhile.
 
It’s amazing how much perspective is available when the unplanned and unwanted things in life come our way - how trivial problems evaporate, how gratitude and grace land right at your feet, and how much space for BS shrinks. Well, I would say I am in the thick of it all.
 
There’s nowhere to be but right where you are. Even when you wish to be somewhere else. This reminder is the sweetest offering anyone could ever give you.
 
As a business owner I tread that line between appreciating what I’ve built, keeping it moving, and planning for what’s to come and sometimes I wonder if that planning for what’s to come gets in the way of what is actually here?
 
I wanted to post something on Instagram in the midst of it all but didn’t because I felt like no one actually wants to see or hear the truth, they merely want to doll it up and parade it around as self-propaganda. I am no exception. I do this too. We all do this. But for what purpose?
 
What good is promoting a beautiful life if you can’t feel your feet on the ground when life goes amiss - and I assure you it will go very amiss.
 
What good is doing the work if when it counts most, you can’t access a space inside yourself that actually feels like home and like it can all be OK?
 
I realize these questions are a bit rhetorical, but they're necessary. Every life experience is a doorway to something, but it doesn’t mean you always want to walk through it, and this is OK.
 
Sometimes we walk through with one hand covering our eyes. Sometimes we walk through glacially to get a grip on whatever is happening on the other side. And sometimes we downright refuse and slam the door shut - forgetting that we carry the door inside ourselves. 
 
We carry the door inside ourselves.
 
What does it mean to practice faith when it matters the most? In my line of work we talk about faith with an air of obviousness, like you just grab hold of it when you need a little. But faith isn’t a luxury or even a lifeline. When it really matters it’s more of a plea.
 
I believe it goes hand in hand with surrendering to the moment, and that can be the scariest experience of all. It’s admitting you don’t know what’s to come and you can’t control what’s to come, but maybe in the midst of it all you can conjure up just a tad bit of hope that it will be just as it needs to be. No matter how painful or inconvenient that is.
 
As I sit with my family right now I am struck by how little I can actually do. How little we can ever really do, when we want to the most. And how OK that is. It isn’t a blind acceptance of what’s unfolding and it isn’t a passive surrender to the chaos. But the sooner I surrender to the fact that life will continue to unfold the way it always has, the sooner I can be with what IS instead of what I wish could be.
 
This is all I ever want for my fellow human peeps. To be. I know that sounds so simple and maybe naively so it is. But so much of what we struggle with is anticipated or already gone.
 
We have this gift with every moment. The people who are right here, now. The opportunity that is right here, right now. And the dream that is in your mind, right now. Stay with that awhile even if it means slowing down or even stillness - because in the stillness there is so much truth.
 
More truth than most of us can sometimes bear, so I understand wanting to rush through it all, numb out, take radical action, or move quickly. But what is possible if you didn’t? What is possible if you let the slow present be exactly what it is?
 
Personally, I can breathe more deeply and appreciate more fiercely. I can see what’s actually there, and instead of rushing to sugar coat it or glam it up for social media, I see what really matters like never before. And in THAT moment all there really is, is grace.
 
A ton of beautiful, compassionate, patient, grace.

You have two choices

I need to repeat this: it isn't actually up to us how things turn out, and our obsession with what we have, what we don't have, what we're missing, and what we're striving for is a big old distraction. You already are everything you could possibly be at this very moment and so to be awesomer...you simply be.

My clients are visionaries; they have these mega ideas not about how the world does work but about how it could work. To the outside world, they look like dreamers who live in fantasyland - people who are attempting the impossible with no real account for what “real life” requires. You know, work-hard kind of stuff.

To the outside world, my dreamers are banking on some concoction of faith, belief, and blind luck. But here’s what the outsiders don’t know about what my dreamers know. These visionaries know that they’re playing a game. That we all are. And the game is not meant for you to succeed or fail. It’s simply meant to be played.

So they are playing.

They are using their inner guidance and gut to follow their path of least resistance. To serve, seek, and find their joy in their dreams. And the successful dreamers know that we all have two options in life, and that one will yield significantly better results than the other. Can you guess which one?

Option A) They can use higher guidance to fulfill their goals.

Option B) They can allow themselves to be guided to fulfill their role in the unfolding of their life.

Dreamers succeed because they are following an inner dream, not an outer dream. They are on their path of least resistance and they know that there is no failure, because success is inevitable. This is what we call a calling.

It's an inner call that beckons you toward some great unknown that you can’t see but you can feel. And you can feel when you’re on the path toward your calling and when you’re on a path that’s taking you away from your calling. My purpose seekers understand this quote...

“No matter how hard a surfer works, the ocean is doing most of the heavy lifting. Because, the operant power behind any force of nature, is nature itself.”

Inside Out Revolution

I want to introduce you to a client. Her name is Jessica and she is a force to be reckoned with. The fist time I met Jessica, we met for an innocent happy hour. I knew right away that this was a woman with a purpose and a powerful path to fulfill. But the woman who sat across from me didn’t quite get this. She was playing small.

Now, I don’t mean she was doubtful of herself or that she wasn’t amassing a big following. I mean that she wasn’t living to the fullest extent of her path or allowing it to unfold from within.

The day she hired me I looked at her and said, “You are meant for big things. And I believe in a bigger vision for you, and I think you can feel that.” She looked at me and said, “I’ve felt this but no one has ever seen it in me also.”

Jessica is the founder of the Superwoman Project and has launched the first annual Superwoman Summit. All of this unfolded from within when she surrendered to her intuition and trusted that her vision wasn’t some crazy idyllic ideology or pipedream, but something she felt deeply called to fulfill. It had been there all along.

She chose Option B.

Before, when she was trying to make her work happen and "effort" her way there, she was attempting to convince herself that this calling was, in fact, tapping her directly on the shoulder. She tried with all her might to do anything but this expression of her work. Because it felt BIG, but in truth, it was also the path of least resistance.

In other words, she let the waves work their magic. And all she had to do was put her surfboard in the water and surf. All she had to do was let her intuition in the driver's seat and play.

It doesn't make sense to fight so hard, work so hard, or push so hard for what you already have. Quiet the mind for a moment and listen. Park your doubts for what you hear. Suspend your judgments of yourself for thinking you're incapable of this feat. Don't try to be the ocean and the surfboard. It isn't your job.

Your job is to fulfill your dreams, not from "out here" but in here. Your crazy, visionary, idyllic dream. Because - and this I can guarantee - if you can feel it, then the world needs it.

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Light in the Dark

This is a photo from my Instagram. I posted it on January 20th. I was being cheeky and not at the same time. There is a disturbance in the force. Even if you've never seen a single Star Wars movie, I have a feeling you know this quote...and it seems pretty applicable given our current climate.

A disturbance in the force means there's an imbalance; things are out of harmony. You don't have to look far to see this. Just look at our declining rainforests and the current endangered animals list. For being such conscious beings, we don't respect others very much -- whether this "other" is a tree or a human. WTF?

And then we ask such blatant questions like -- how are we going to solve this? What are we really in danger of losing? How will we fix our current state of poverty, homelessness, racism, hunger, etc? And what is it we're really aiming to solve? Do we even know?

Sometimes the "it" is so big we lump it into one word. For example, hunger. Like this word can possibly contain all the complications and needs of the people who fundamentally don't have enough to eat on a daily basis. 

I'll never forget (and stop me if you've heard this story) one of my infamous discussions with my dad about life.


He asked me, "How come, if we can feed everyone, we don't?"

I replied, "Because we don't have a resource problem. We have a heart problem."


And therein lies our dilemma. How do we, especially those of us who live in the United States, open our hearts when our culture has taught us to independently rise? What is one to do when we're encouraged to be true to ourselves and climb the ladder -- even if it means stepping over someone on the way up?

Then, when you get to the top, you are genuinely confused why there aren't more of you up there. Do people just not want it bad enough? Are people not motivated? Are they just not as much of a go-getter as I am?

Heart Problem.


On January 20th, 2017 we swore in the 45th president of the United States of America. He is a president that has no doubt stirred the pot. He isn't the disturbance in the force. He's a byproduct of it.

On January 21st, 2017 more than 5 million people from 55 global cities and every state in the union gathered for one of the most peaceful demonstrations to date as an answer to this president. Or at least in hopes of starting a new conversation.

I keep thinking that this is a movie. That I can turn it off, sigh some relief and go to bed knowing it wasn't real. But it is real. And it certainly falls in line with this global ascension we just entered the ring with.

All the right characters are here: 

The Hero: You (the protagonist)
The Villain: The anti-you or everything that invokes anger in you (the antagonist)
The Theme: Can we create harmony?
The Climax: What will ultimately be tested on our way back to the middle?
The Payoff: (We don't know yet...)

But I can't turn this off! It's here. So what now? We have a major antagonist. Which means we also have a protagonist. Hesitant but present.

Here's the thing. When I ask you toward the end of this article to step into the light, know that you can't do so by eradicating the dark. It's still dark. It just has light shining on it. Where there's a shadow we have light, and where we have light we have a shadow.

We need to redefine what it means to solve "this." Harmony is not all light and it is not all dark. It is both/and. 

Since the election, I've found myself wondering if this all happened because we needed a grandiose call to adventure. Every hero has one. You've had many in this lifetime alone, some of which you've probably answered. This time it's different. I can't help but feel like this time it affects us all. 

How will we know when we've moved toward harmony? I'm not sure yet, because it doesn't seem to be human nature to move this way even within the self. So this is where we begin: because in the self is the only place your radical awareness can shift the planet. If nothing else, you can resolve the parts of you that are not in harmony -- and won't that feel more whole? Imagine 7 billion people who feel whole.


- My Invocation to be the light -
(Repeat to yourself out loud or write it in your journal)

That which I hate in you, I hate in me.
That which I love in you, I love in me.
I choose to love what I hate.
I choose to be what I love.
I choose to close the gap between "you" and "me" because the gap is in my mind.
When you fall, I fall.
When I fall, you fall.
We forgive one another. 
Only through acceptance can we find the middle.
I choose to practice this love with my words, my thoughts, my intentions, and my actions all the days of my life.
And so it is.

The answer I've been seeking

This is me and my dad. I am three and I am helping him paint what would become library bookshelves for our house. I use the term "help" loosely, as I have a bucket of water and a paint brush, but I am sure I added a little flair to those shelves.

My dad's book collection would grow to thousands of books by the time they sold the house 20 years later. These shelves covered every wall of one room, literally floor to ceiling. This may have something to do with my book obsession. (Note the obvious sarcasm.) 

We lovingly referred to the room with the books as the library as though we were 19th-century aristocrats. This was also where I spent almost every night discussing life with my dad. These discussions continue to this day, but now we text. Because it's 2017. 

I grew up in a family where inquiry was just as important as introspection. If you were going to ask a question, you better be prepared to also seek the answer. This may also have something to do with why I entered a field where I ask questions for a living.

I love a good question. The entire basis of a good coach is a good question. Really. That's all we're made up of: questions. (And coffee. Lots of coffee.) We don't actually have the answers to the things we ask. (Sorry.) But that doesn't mean these questions shouldn't be asked. 

A great question can be a guiding light. It can be the thing that transforms you. It can open new doors and close old ones. A good question can inspire action and motivate you for many years. But too many questions can make your head spin. 

A question I have been asking my dad for the past three years was, "What is the meaning of life?" You know, nice and light. Until five days ago when he mic dropped this statement --

"Don't look for the answer, create it."

"What? Wait...what do you mean, CREATE it?" I stuttered over this revelation. He replied, "Life isn't about seeking so much as it's about creating. You can't take your questions to some all-knowing source. YOU are the source." 

So there it is. Thousands of books, thousands of hours talking, one BIG question, and the answer was hiding in plain sight all along. They like to do that. 

Which, of course, opened a floodgate of more questions. I can't help myself. Questions like:

How do I know I am valuable?

What is a calling, really?

How do I know I am on purpose?

Am I really helping?

What is the meaning of my work?

If there's no one to tell me I am on the right course, how do I totally trust myself?

And still, the answer was all the same.

Create.

Create.

Create.

The glaringly obvious answer to the most asked question was there all along. So, of course, I feel a bit righteous for even thinking this is THE answer. But it's a pretty good one. Just think how liberating this is!

If you could create the answer to every question you're asking about your life right now, you could put down the seeking and just look in the mirror and see what's there. 

Who do you want to be?

What do you want to experience?

Where do you want to go?

What do you want to have?

How do you want to feel?

What kind of success do I want?

Why do I want to live? 

What is joy? What is happiness? What purpose does my pain serve?

More questions, I know. However, if you are the source of the question AND the answer, then you get to actually create a life YOU want to live. Because the truth is, no one can even pretend to answer these for you. Others can live their lives and you can see examples of possibility through them. But it doesn't make it true for you. Truth is relative to your own choices. 

After this conversation with my dad I experienced a really rich meditation and the symbol of a key came to me. Afterward, I wrote this in my journal, and I want to leave this with you as a kickoff to 2017:

"I want every human being, who is willing and aware, to discover their own key. To discover that they are their own key and they already have wholeness locked inside of them. The path of having access to their wholeness is personal and our only life purpose. So go now and create yourself with abandon and you won't just discover your key, you'll discover how to unlock your life."

Happy New Year!

How I got to 6 figures (Part Two)
Journal prompt for spiritual leaders

"I am in my own right. I am in my own authority. I am in my perfect divine timing. I am growing and attracting. I am reaching and rooting. I am everything I've asked for. I am clear and focused. I am ready now. And so it is."

I don't remember what inspired me to write these statements or what I was reflecting on when I did but I come back to this because success is born from your beliefs and how much permission you give yourself.

Not enough of us grant ourselves permission to radically succeed. To me, radical success means wealth, ease, reach, service, clarity, peace of mind, and vision.

Earning 6-figures is a result. It's feedback that says, "Hey, you did something that added up to this number." All results are feedback. There are some undeniable themes that led me to 6-figures but of them all there is one I borderline obsess about every day - a relationship with the not knowable, the universe, divine source, or the energy between energy. 

Ok -- let me back up to August 2014. I had just left the business I found with my wife and dared to imagine I could embark on a totally new adventure all my own. And I was terrified. I had failed 8 other businesses at this point. Why would this be any different? I had to start this business with $0. And it had to make money or break even. This was the deal I made with myself.

I produced some pretty bad ideas in the beginning. And thank goodness I did because they taught me the most.

--->I learned that selling digital products to a massive market required a ton of energy and money to get in front of people. So this was out. 

---> I learned that my list didn't love to buy from me. So creating sales funnels was also a waste of time and energy.

---> I learned that when I got in front of people (speaking, coffee, connection) magic would happen in my business. But I didn't make this connect for almost a year. 

---> I learned that if I was working M-F and charging $75 for an individual coaching session I was not even making minimum wage. I made $4,000 my first year in business and $35k the next year before taxes.

---> I learned that I needed to change my approach to this work.

One year ago I stopped looking outside of myself for answers and I stopped listening to "marketing experts", "Facebook gurus", and "High-end coaches" and got very still. I listened to my heart by opening up a dialogue through my journal. Call it a portal, call it a channel, call it woo-woo, I don't care. It didn't bring life to my business - It brought my business TO life.

Privately I was practicing these incredible things like breath work, listening to my intuition, meditation, prayer, paying attention to synchronicity, communion with the unknown, listening to nature, and channeling my guides.

But when it came to my business - it was like I slammed the door and forgot everything I knew. I didn't trust my gut. I didn't ask for support. I looked completely outside myself for my business to succeed and I was failing, quick.

I felt like I was running out of time. Now, in perspective, one year to a profitable business is almost unheard of. I know this. But I made a deal with myself; this business was not to cost me or my partnership anything. And we were bordering on this deadline. I gave myself until the end of 2015 to bring home a paycheck or I was going job hunting.

I threw caution to the wind (it's a real thing) and hired a coach I couldn't afford AND asked him to charge me more money to hold me accountable to a BIG vision. And because I was now borrowing money to keep my business open I stopped paying for all marketing and did something no one was telling me to do - I brought massive amounts of faith and trust into what would unfold next. I surrendered.

And then magic happened. Things that shouldn't be possible, happened.

Nike called.

I got hired to speak.

I intuited an article called, "Roots to Fruits" and filled my consults 3 months out.

I would fill my coaching program in less than 3 months.

I was a keynote for a beautiful event for women.

I started to hear some version of this over and over - "I have no idea how you ended up in my inbox/email/mail because I am not on your list but it feels like divine timing." 

Magic. 

And the more I trusted and leaned into this faith the more people would show up.

Is this "woo-woo"? No.

We know that the act of how we observe something changes what we observe. Because light, thought, emotion and consciousness are things and they move, act, and honor our intentions we can predict our outcomes by observing our present thoughts, emotions, and expectations. (Translation: what you DECIDE will be and dedicate to both consciously and unconsciously, will be.)

Was I granted success for doing good in the world? No. Absolutely not.

It doesn't work like that. There is no reward because this would assume some moral or ethical righteousness that is better than another. Meaning - who gets to judge what is good and what is bad? 

I practice and employ universal laws consistently and have faith that they've already succeeded. And then I act as though I've already succeeded and what I need TO succeed shows up. 

Which laws? I thought you'd never ask! (This is my interpretation of each law. There are many out there. Adopt what feels right for you.)

The Law of Reciprocity

What you give you receive. Want to receive more? Give a million times more.

The Law of Divine Compensation

You will be rewarded most when you heed the call of your heart and answer your calling. To earn money from something that feels degrading to your soul, will be.

The Law of Light and Shadow

The world is your mirror. There is nothing in your field of awareness that is not also inside of you. Lean into your fears for they are your gateway to freedom.

The Law of Intention

What you intend and commit to both consciously, unconsciously and in your highest plane of existence will be. But you have to be patient. For the time is not instantaneous even if thought is.

The Law of Dharma

You have a calling. You have a pilgrimage of the soul. It's in your bones. And when it knocks on your door, answer. 

When I paired this practice with everything I've dedicated my time to (see last week's article) it adds up to what I would call success. Financially, yes. But also joyfully. I am very happy to be living in a way that shines more light on my path, my calling, and my purpose.

No money can quantify the power of fulfillment. 

I want this for you. If you want this too,

Awaken Your Practice is just around the corner. Just sayin ;)

In light and love,

Andrea

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I am not your guru
I am not your guru

"I am not your guru" is the title of a documentary circling Netflix right now. It is a behind-the-scenes film of an Anthony Robbins event called Date with Destiny. You can Google it or search Netflix and if you haven't already seen the film I urge you to. There's some controversy over his teaching methods. Is it just shock and awe? Is his power what creates change and are people just submitting without integrating the work? You will have to decide for yourself.

Here's why I am spending this space to write about this - because I can't stop thinking about this movie. Because I have watched it 3 times. Because I am one of the few who TOTALLY agree with what happens here. And I realize this puts me a bit on the fringe...so obviously I had to write about it. :)

Tony Robbins uses NLP. NLP is a method that uses language to interrupt patterns we have embedded in our subconscious. Language is very powerful. Words and labels are how we story information or memories about what happens to us. Those stories become our filters. Those filters tell us what to tune into and what not to. This is how we can stay stuck in the same pattern (like no money, fear of failure, poor relationships, etc.) ongoing for years.

NLP is just a tool. Really, he uses love and his commitment to his mission to help end or alter the path suffering has put someone one. And he will stop at nothing to see this mission through.

Two things fascinated me about this event and the film:

ONE - We are so numb, stuck, apathetic, and lost that 2,500 people spend $5,000 every year to sit in a room for 72 hours to WAKE UP.

TWO - Our typical model for change isn't working. According to Dr. Brene Brown, we are the most "overweight, over-medicated, in debt adult cohort in U.S. history." --> Ok. This flat out pisses me off.

We have the most resources, money in circulation, and awareness today about how to effectively change our lives and still we aren't doing the work. Why?

Why are so many people sleep walking?

Why are we treating depression and trauma as illnesses?

Why are we medicating our problems which are the greatest gifts we have?

Why are we so angry, lost, confused, apathetic, and anxious?

As Tony Robbins says in the film, "We think low-level problems are THE problem because we don't want to deal with the root of our suffering."

So I come away from watching this movie (three times) and what is one to do? Well, sit down and have an entire conversation over breakfast with my wife about change and the art of transformation, obviously. (These are the moments I KNOW I married the right person, thanks babe for getting me.) #wearenerds

The question I asked her was this - What compels one person to shift on a dime and another to die with resentment in their bones? 

You know. Small question. And the conversation that unfolded blew me away. I took notes and want to share them here. I don't have THE answer. I can't. It's all part of the human experience. But this I DO know - we are out of time. If we don't start LOVING one another and our home planet....well, I think you can fill in the blank.

So here you have it. Unfiltered notes on the art of transformation...

The difference between interest in change and commitment is taking 100% responsibility for your life. And the decision to do so happens in an instant. Yes, even the things that happen TO you. Can you be a victim? Yes, of course. But when you HOLD ON to your experience you are self-victimizing.

The more willing you are to go into the darkness the more light you let in.

Suffering is human. You will never not suffer. Suffering isn't the problem. Unintegrated and rejected suffering is the problem. And as Tony Robbins says, "Your problem is you think you shouldn't have problems."

You can't have a breakthrough without being triggered. Your "trigger" is the moment your fear comes true. THIS is prime time for a breakthrough.

A breakthrough requires a pattern interrupt. Change requires a commitment to cultivating the new pattern.

We are collectively numb. Don't look to the status quo to teach you about the possibility. They can't.

You have to be hungry to make this change. You have to find what is BIGGER than you.

I want to help everyone, I really do. And I can't. I won't. Not just because of the sheer amount of people on the planet but because not everyone is here to change.

You can't let go of your fears. You have to integrate them.

Problems sculpt our soul. You "problems" are your best teacher. As long as you aren't learning you have a problem.

Events are irrelevant. It's what you DO with that event that matters. And I mean literally, events can create the matter of your life.

YOU are your own guru. YOU are your own change agent. I am a guide. I facilitate an environment where change is possible but I can't change you for you.

Here is what I decided in an instant: I am done muting my beliefs about this work. Because, as I said, we are out of time.

I am not a practitioner. I am not a therapist. I am not a strategist. I am not just a coach. I am a change agent who BELIEVES in her soul that transformation, joy, love, and happiness is your God given right. Period.

And this is what I believe...

This is NOT Strategy and planning

This is not something you can think your way through. Your stories are not calculated, they are created from the need for love and safety. And when they stop serving you and you decide to face them or untangle them it’s the time to come out of your head and into your heart. We go in with radical acceptance and self-discovery. You will take action, but first, you have to meet you where you are.

This is NOT Just coaching

Coaching is a powerful tool and one that I love. Coaching is a way of showing up with someone and using powerful, open-ended questions to inspire new action in them. I use a coaching container but I fully understand that I can’t help you move forward and get you where you want to go without giving space to where you come from, first.

This is NOT Just therapy

I am not a diagnostician because you are not sick or broken. Therapy is an intimate experience of uncovering and healing. I use therapeutic energy to create safety so you can open up and reveal to yourself the shadows that plague your life. But I fully understand that sitting or stewing in your trauma doesn’t release it or integrate it. Your stories need to see the light of day and be heard. They have so much to teach you and we’ll use them to help return you to a state of wholeness.

THIS WORK IS...

An exploration of YOU

This may be the first time in your life you really meet yourself. This may be the first time you connect the dots or see your stories as energy meant to heal, teach, and guide you and not something designed to trap, harm, or keep you stuck. All humans struggle and hold on to their stories unnecessarily. How freeing will it feel when your stories and limiting beliefs are no longer gripping you or when you are not longer gripping them?

Healing occurs when you create a new relationship to the things that happened to you and when you let yourself learn from them without harming yourself or shaming you for them any longer.

Unearthing why you’re here

It’s our soul’s purpose to become complete and we incarnate to learn what we need to create wholeness. Your calling is your gateway to doing this. Your purpose will ignite a kind of passion that is immeasurable and will bring your entire life into immediate alignment and understanding.

Suddenly the things you thought happened to you really happened for you and you are left with a profound amount of self-love and self-acceptance. For most, once integrated, this calling will lead you to teach, give, and serve others in some way.

Radical action

You cannot get someplace new until you create new, inspired action – action born out of your most authentic self. Movement is what creates the tangible results in your life. But I want you making the right movements inspired by your aligned self. Most of my clients come to me because they want something like money, health, purposeful work, to feel seen, success, etc. They also want joy, excitement, confidence, inspiration, and clarity. These experiences are inevitable with the right action. The things you want are not actually outside of yourself. They are an extension of your beliefs and how you see and experience the world.

Self-love, self-acceptance, and self-worth

All of life is an extension of how you see yourself and how you show up in the world. Imagine what is possible when everywhere you go all you see are more ways to LOVE and accept yourself?

Breakthroughs and NEW roots

Your entire life and the results you’re here to create are grown from your roots. Your beliefs, desires, choices, stories, attachments, and habits are your roots. The results you want to accomplish are your fruits. We focus on planting new roots so you can grow new fruits. This isn’t about doing more but being the person you need to be to accomplish the goal’s you have.

Growth and Confidence

Both within who you are and the things you’re dedicated to is a desire to grow and expand. There is no one plan because everyone’s purpose is a path only they can walk. This is a kind if growth that brings new business, perfect clients, purposeful work, and new opportunities effortlessly to your doorstep. My role in this is to help you recognize it and help you say yes to everything you’ve ever wanted and asked for.

What will you decide in an instant?

In light and love,

Andrea

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Truth Nuggets for my Birthday
Listen to your life
Listen to your life

I love a birthday. They are a gift in themselves. Because YOU are a gift. To even be here is a gift. But it doesn't mean it's always easy. In fact, I hope it isn't because it's those moments that push against our life where we learn the most. This has been an incredible year. It was just two years ago that I was in the throws of a total life collapse. Nothing added up anymore and I was very lost. So to be here today on the other side of that experience and to feel as grateful and full as I do...in a way feels like a miracle and in a way just feels like life.

This is how it goes - we live, learn, live, learn, etc. Some lessons suck. There's no polite way to say that. Some learnings are brutal and make you question everything. Some are mildly uncomfortable. And others barely flag your life but they are all just as important.Growth happens in the contrast of discomfort and comfort.

We learn about love when we hurt. We learn about life when we're lost. We learn about happiness when we're sad. We learn about success when we're failing. We learn about what we want when riddled with things we don't want.

I believe this so much that I have made my work and my life a dedication to teaching this. And I am no exception! I am human. Isn't it a wondrous thing?!

To celebrate my humanity I want to gift myself space to reflect on a few things I really took to heart this year. It was a year of radical growth for me. Radical as in rooted and anchored. Growth as in painful and awesome, all at the same time. If you get something from these, great! If not. Well, it's my birthday and sometimes you just have to be self-serving. ;) #kiddingnotkidding

I learned that no one can show up until I do. If life is my mirror then no one can show up until I show up. This is true in my work, friendships, family, community, and partnership. If I long for something then it is the very thing I have to give. If I need for something it is the very thing I need to give myself. Last November I came out as a spiritual leader. It wasn't as painful as I anticipated and it still challenges the part of me that is terrified of being invisible. I learned that if I really want to be seen in this way I have to BE this way.

I learned it isn't about me. When people reject my ideas, it isn't about me. When I serve my clients, it isn't about me. And when I speak to the truth I experience in my own heart and life it isn't about me. I feel that the work I am doing is my calling and my purpose for being on earth. And it is so much bigger than me even when it affects me.

I learned that I want things. I want the world to change. I want less violence. I want cancer to go away. I want a big house. I want to live in the mountains. I want my family to be healthy. I want to live a long life with my wife. I want to publish a book. I want to be a 7-figure coach. I want to put myself out there. I want people to stop judging and start loving. I want people to go within. I want to enjoy every aspect of life. I want to go Home. I want to not hide the things I want. We all want. It feels good! It's about dreaming and visioning new life. And it's about honoring and loving right where you are.

I learned that I have learned a lot. Yup. Not just this year but all the years of my life are so packed with lessons it's incredible. Life really is handed to you on a silver platter and the moment you see this, you are free.

I learned that I am fiercely loved and appreciated. THANK YOU.

I learned that I really love life. Like a lot. I really do love life. I am in awe of life and it's magic. I used to live from beneath a dark cloud and I didn't see the purpose of life. You could have spelled out miracles for me and I would have said you were a liar. And today I see so much beauty, potential, joy, and possibility everywhere I turn. I wouldn't change where I've been or what I've experienced.

I wish for all people to have their entire life be their entire awakening. To get out of their own way and go for it. To answer their calling and turn their art into their purpose and their gift back to the world. Maybe this is a selfish want. But it's my birthday and this is what I want. 

Light and love, Andrea

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Benefit Coaching Call for Orlando
Love is in the air
Love is in the air

The shooting in Orlando is why I do what I do. Because we are a fragmented whole. Because hate is not an answer. Because hating the perpetrator is also not an answer. And because I think the time is now for business to be an amplifier for good. So, now what? How, exactly, do we do this when events like what happened in Orlando can happen so quickly? Here's what not to do...

Don't point fingers. Call it what you will - a hate crime, a targeted assault, a heinous act - people died for being...human. People are human, first, above all else. This isn't a gay thing this is a human thing. And we kill what we deem different from ourselves. We don't all pull a trigger but we reject, blame, judge, criticize and fear anyone who defines their humanity different than our own. LOVE. Just love.

Don't blame the other. All hate is born from the same place - difference. Be angry, sad, confused, flustered, frustrated that difference causes such scary acts in people. But I request this - LOVE the part of you that is angry, sad, confused, flustered and frustrated and you'll see that you are the other and the other is you. When we blur the line of separation we heal. When we stand for the separation we perpetuate the very thing that causes such violence in the first place.

Love is love. Hate is hate. There's no gray area here. Practice LOVE. Not just with others but with yourself.

Be the thing you wish you saw more of in the world. Love your enemy and they are no longer your enemy. Love what scares you and the fear disappears.

This is where my light workers come in. I want you to hear me out. Really, hear me out. What if your work, your business, your calling were an amplifier of good and of closing the gap in our separateness? What is possible then?

We live in duality where hate exists because love exists and vice versa. Their hate isn't the problem. Only ours is. Love the anger this event conjured up and you heal anger in the world.

"Your purpose is the excuse through which you get to love people." -Panache Desai

You can't lead our world toward harmony if you're still stuck in your head afraid of your gifts. Now is the time to shine as brightly as you were designed to shine! And I am pretty sure it's going to take a lot of us.

Hate is loud. I get it. It screams because its methods are gruesome and cruel. But love...love is the only thing that can bridge any gap and heal any wound. So LOVE through your purpose. This is the spirituality of your gifts and your business. This is the reason you are here.

I want to share something I wrote for my Awaken Your Practice workbook. Sprinkled throughout the workbook are notes from your higher self. And today you need to hear this.I need to hear this.

Dear soul,

I do not give you ideas you can’t realize. I give them to you because you’re the only onewho can realize them in the exact way they’re meant to be realized. There is no great question I haven’t already pondered. No “how” I haven’t already figured out. And no fear I don’t see coming.

So what, then, are you waiting for?

That BIG idea you are sitting on is not doing any good inside your head. It wasn’t granted to you to be pondered. It was granted to you to be BUILT, CREATED, and REALIZED. Why you ask?

Does it matter? I will give you a tiny answer because your “why” is a tiny question. Because. No, really. Just because. Want more? Okay:

Because it’s fun. It feels good. It’s the pure definition of creativity. Creation. To create. To actualize some essence of an idea to something you can hold in your hands. To somethingyou can experience with emotion like joy, gratitude, and reverence. Because, as your higher self, I selfishly want to feel these things too through you.

So go now and create. Put it on paper. Sculpt it. Offer it. Build it. Make it messy. Don’t get it right at first. I assure you, you can’t get it right at first or you’d miss out on things like growth, desire, and the sheer thrill when you actually get it right.

And if you get scared remember this — fear and joy are two sides of the same coin. Just flip it over.

Here's my BIG request

I want to help you step in. I mean really step in. Before you can be a beacon of light and before your work can be shared with the masses you have to do one final, bold step.....Sell.

Yup. You have to sell, invite, and beckon people to be so moved they want to exchange this energy called money for your work. Do you know what good is possible if spiritual teachers were wealthy? Just sayin...

I've teamed up with Michael Knouse and we're hosting a Benefit Coaching Call next week on the Soul of Selling to do TWO powerful things.

1. Help support and give to the families of the victims of the Pulse shooting, who are in such deep mourning right now, put some of the pieces back together.

2. Help you own your craft as an amplifier of good by being so unapologetic about its radical goodness you can't help but invite people in!

The call is $25, 90-minutes, and 100% of the proceeds will go to the Pulse Shooting Victim's Fund and Equality Florida. Details below. (Also, if we raise $500 I will match it.) 

In light and love, Your Higher-Selfand Andrea Leda

- Benefit Coaching Call -Join us, Wednesday, June 29th from 12-1:30 PM PST $25 - All proceeds to Equality Florida + Pulse Shooting Victim's Fund

Soul of Selling - How to invite people into your big, beautiful purpose.

A Benefit Coaching Call for the Pulse Shooting Victims Fund with Andrea Leda and Michael Knouse

During this 90-minute call, we want you to step into your brilliance! And we will coach you through it.

  • How do you sell your purpose?
  • Are you allowed to?
  • What good can earning more money do for others?
  • How do you approach sales and receiving money?
  • How do you move fear aside and made bold requests of your clients and customers?
  • Is money spiritual? Can it be?
  • How can you feel worth what you want?
  • And more.

Let Andrea Leda and Michael Knouse support your vision and help you play big and in doing so we can give support to the families affected by the recent events in Orlando, Florida. Now is the time for heart-centered leadership to take hold and for business to be an amplifier for good! 

Please note: This is a GROUP coaching call. Once registered you will receive a confirmation with the call details.

SIGN UP HERE!If we raise $500, I will match it! 100% of the proceeds will be donated to the Pulse Shooting Victim's Fund + Equality Florida.SIGN UP HERE!

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Coaching is not for everyone...
My Vision

Here we go...another edge I know I HAVE to lean into. And it goes a little something like this...

Really brilliant coaching is not for the faint of heart. 

It just isn't.

And truth be told, I felt bad about this which is why I've tried to coach everybody. Not literally everybody because that is just not possible. But I wanted my work to be accessible to everyone. And this is something I hear a TON of with new coaches - they want to be affordable, accessible, reasonable...but what they're really saying is I don't trust myself to be the boldest, most badass version of my work.

Because if they were, they would also find that is isn't for everyone.

I had a mentor once who said no one needed coaching. And he is right. What he meant was that coaching is a choice to self-actualize. And we don't need to self-actualize to survive. Most of the people on this planet will spend thousands of lifetimes attempting to get there and never quite make it.

He also said this, "Nor is it [coaching] for those who are not 100% serious and committed to their success and happiness (however they define those words in their lives)."

Really brilliant coaching will stretch you, challenge you, push you (gently and sometimes not gently), and help you see that in order to BE the most glorious version of your dreams you have to be willing to do what 99.9% of people are unwilling to do - question everything. And let go. 

I am sorry to say that most people are not committed to their success and happiness. Or they are until they have to...

Invest money in themselves. Invest time in themselves. Question their habits. Be uncomfortable. Or worse - decide that being unhappy, although awful, is less risky. 

Most people want to hold on to what they know and change at the same time. They want to take their stories with them. They want to be right. They aren't willing to take risks or lose anything. They want the experience to be totally quantified in advance. They aren't willing to let their ego-self die. But what's worse is they don't think they need to in order to change. This is what I call spinning your wheels.

You can't go up and stay where you are at the same time. 

This past weekend I invited the challenge and asked to be cracked up. I have a big vision of what's possible here on Earth and I see now that in order to remotely have a chance at succeeding with this vision I have to be unapologetic about my work. (ahhh!!!)  And this means accepting this isn't for everyone...

I still think everyone could use coaching. I still believe the process is powerful for just about anyone. But in my experience really brilliant coaching should not be used on just anyone.

Read books. Journal. Ask big questions. Look within. But don't enter coaching until you are ready to be cracked open. 

- Here's why -

Because it will crack you open! It asks you to step into a version of you that you've maybe only every thought about or doodled on a piece of paper. Because to ask BIG and POWERFUL questions of your life and to not answer them or lean into them...is a waste of a big, beautiful question.

I can't believe I just said that....don't delete it...keep it there...

Don't get me wrong. Coaching isn't for just taking action. In fact, I believe the majority of strategy building and planning done in coaching is a waste of time. (oh geez, I can't believe I am typing this). It's a waste because to take your BEING and expect action to out-run your beliefs is....crazy making.

And for those of you who coaching was BUILT for - Here is what I see in you...

You're a risk taker. You have BIG vision. You're gutsy.You act before you think (sometimes this is good, sometimes not) You don't play a wishing game. You would move mountains if invited to do so.

And my favorite - even when you are riddled with doubt, fear, and uncertainty you lean in anyways. Successful people are no less afraid than unsuccessful people. They don't feel the fear and do it anyways.

They aren't reaching through fear. They are acting in honor of their vision. Period. 

And so in honor of YOUR vision, I have a BIG request for you.

You see, these people I just outlined above are also pretty fiery. They are INSPIRED, PASSIONATE, ON THE FRINGE, maybe even a lot WEIRD in their thinking, and they are BOLD, AUDACIOUS, and UNAPOLOGETIC. 

They are like a big bonfire. They burn high and hot. Here's the problem in coaching fiery peeps - most of you go in search of how to DO more and HAVE more which is like taking gallons of gasoline and drenching your fire! You only burn hotter which makes it almost impossible to come near.

What if you attempted to BE?

Imagine what's possible if you took that FIRE into the heart and soul. If you went within. You would become the brightest beacon of light beckoning people to come close and see what you see.

And for you - I leave you with this.

There is an allowance that we as conscious leaders and visionaries don’t have enough of and that is the entire purpose of my work.

My intention for this experience is to give badass leaders with massive vision for what’s possible for our world a place to go within. We spend 99.9% of our time on the fringe and we have to, this is why we’re visionaries, we have to see what others don’t have the capacity to see just yet.

But to have that one place where we come together, connect, be seen, be vulnerable, and dive into what makes up our heart and humanity is a gift that gives back to us, yes, but also the people we serve.

My vision is to help the world return to its natural state of grace and love. The ONLY way to accomplish this...is to heal yourself. To take what lights your fire and turn that passion into a beacon of light for other's to follow. This is an inner journey and a pilgrimage for the soul.

In light and love,

Andrea

The 4 ways we ALL Suffer (unnecessarily)
The 4 Ways we ALL Suffer
The 4 Ways we ALL Suffer

This is me leaning into my edge even more. Why is it so difficult to stand proudly for what we know to be true for ourselves? I know this may not be for everyone. I don't need to it be. But this is my truth and how I perceive our world. For today at least. Here we go...Do I think suffering is inevitable? Yes. Absolutely. I have never met a single individual who hasn't endured at least one great suffering or pain. Have you?

Do I think most suffer unnecessarily? Yes. Absolutely. I also have not worked with a single individual who wasn't making choices for their present life based on pain or injustice that happened wayyyyy in the past.

Why does it matter that we talk about this? Well, technically you don't have to deal with suffering if you don't want to. It is ALWAYS a choice. And in the grand world of personal development, growth, healing, change, and possibility there will come a day when if you don't learn why and how you suffer unnecessarily you will pay a big price. Which....is also a choice. (I can't believe I just said that...)

Let me back up and share my personal definition for suffering. The word itself is only a label ad there are as many personal definitions as there are people. You don't need to adopt mine or even agree. I define suffering as experiencing pain.

And all humans experience pain. 

So then what is unnecessary suffering? Did you know that an emotional state can only last 90 seconds? That means the emotional reaction you have to any single stimulus (humor, sadness, rejection, etc.) only last 1 1/2 minutes.

Call me crazy but to take an experience that lights up emotional and fear-based reactions in the body for 90 seconds and holding on to them for....days, months, years, even decades seems unnecessary.

What, exactly, are we holding on to? Does suffering serve a purpose? Is letting go an allowance of that injustice?

Prolonged suffering is basically a decision to KEEP the awful, scary, dark, terrifying experience PRESENT in your life as though you can't survive without it.

There are 4 ways we ALL suffer and one of them sort of takes the cake. (I am sure there are more than 4 but here are the ones I see over and over and over..)

1.) I am not worthy 2.) I am not powerful 3.) I have no purpose 4.) I can't lose

Read number four again. I have an entire career ahead of me still so I don't want to make definite statements just yet....however I can say this with plenty of confidence - most unnecessary suffering is caused by LOSS.

Loss of a loved one. Loss of our sense of self. Loss of innocence. Loss of an identity. Loss of a thing or money.Loss of control. And the FEAR of loss in the future.

We basically hate losing. Which is why you hear over and over that the antidote to suffering is detachment or letting go. As well as...

Forgiveness. Release. Acceptance. Self-love. And my personal favorite - to own our place in our own suffering.

I want to share a story. This story is about a girl, a girl who had a pretty charming childhood. Plenty of love and support. She had a wild imagination and loved people. She could see the good in everyone and was always adopting stray cats.

Then one day her love for people was overshadowed by a fear that she didn't belong and she began isolating herself. She replaced loving people with fearing people. She lost her sense of self. And every time someone would leave her life she took it as proof that not only was she alone but she was unloveable.

For 10 years she would hide her ideas, creativity, and optimism in hopes people would take her under their wing and accept her. She fell into a deep depression and began identifying as 'the sad one' and 'the broken one'. She was horribly miserable but she knew how to play this role. She kept people around that proved this right. She took this out on others but mostly she took it out on herself and her body.

It would take a ton of support, inner work, and a total change in her environment to reconnect with the girl she once was. To be able to look out into the world and see and feel love again. It would take her totally accepting that she was creating her depression to seek love and there were better ways. Less painful ways. She took her lessons and returned to wholeness again. And when she did she found a kind of joy she didn't know was possible. Now she was thankful for her suffering for it taught her compassion. But she was ready to let it go, to let it die, so she could be reborn. Which is exactly what she did.

This is my story.

And although I can look back and remember what I went through I wouldn't change a thing. Yes, I suffered unnecessarily and when I was finally ready to let it GO my 10-year experience of depression was done. Just like that. It would take me a bit to mend relationships and pick up the pieces but when I was done suffering I was DONE. I had to lose my story of what it meant to be sad.

Did I suffer unnecessarily? Absolutely. Now I wouldn't take any of my experience back because I can't and because I learned so much about myself. I also know that level of depression would not serve me now or in the future. And hopefully I learned enough to pick a different strategy should there be a next time.

What suffering are you ready to lose?

In light and love, Andrea

Dear Purpose Driven Beings, 
Purpose Driven Beings
Purpose Driven Beings

I’ve written this post three times and deleted it three times. I want to get this one just ‘right’. You know when you have something you really believe in and want to make sure you convey it with the right conviction and passion that people will hear you? This is like that.

Then I woke up early this morning and was sitting with my journal, listening to the birdsong outside my window and thought, "You know, a bird doesn't question her song, she just sings. How can more of us just sing?"

And I knew exactly what I wanted to write today. This is for my fellow purpose-driven beings.

Do we all have a purpose? Yes. Do we all want to act it out? No. But oh how I wish you would. So today's article is for those of you who do want to act on their purpose...but are terribly afraid.

You know who you are.

You can feel it brewing beneath the surface. Maybe you've had some experience of your purpose already or have seen it play out a little in your life. Maybe you're totally aligned with your purpose or are evolving it as we speak. No matter where you are with it, you have this unwavering feeling in you that you just can't shake and I urge you not to.

I'll be totally honest - I need to read this article today so I decided to write it.

My work has grown exponentially this year. Not just physically with clients and students but also in what I do, how I serve, what I write about, and what I dream about. <--- this is the one that really gets me.

What I dream about.

This is what I dream about... That all of my fellow purpose-driven, soulpreneur, passionate, aligned, open-hearted, conscious peeps would do two powerful things:

1) Get out of their own way 2) Play BIG

And yes, in this order. First, let's address getting out of your own way.

And because there is no quote that sums this up as well as this I give you Marianne Williamson -

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” 

Read this. And then read it again. And again. Pause on this - "It is our light, not our darkness that most frighten's us..."

Fear. Most of us equate purpose with fear.

What if I fail miserably at this? What if I can't see all the parts, where do I even begin? What if no one thinks my purpose is worthy or valuable? Who am I to pursue my purpose? 

Sound familiar? This was my narrative too before I turned toward my purpose.

We ALL have a purpose or a calling. Think of it as this truth embedded in the DNA of your soul. When it gets turned on you’re called to something in your life that, if followed, will lead you to the highest version you can live of your life.

This purpose can be many things. Here are a few examples:

  • More purposeful work
  • To become a parent
  • To move or travel
  • To start a non-profit
  • To write
  • To paint
  • To play music
  • To climb a mountain
  • To find God
  • To adopt
  • To forgive
  • And the list goes on…

Your purpose is already there – are you listening for it? 

It’s an unspoken thing you can feel in your gut. It’s a sense that you’re missing out on something big in your life. Oh, and it probably sounds terrifying to pursue. Clients often say to me, “How do I know what my purpose is?” And I always answer with this, “I know you know what it is. The better question is, what are you afraid of by turning toward it?

It isn’t likely that you just don’t know. You know. It’s the idea of actually doing something about your calling that is very scary. Of course it’s scary! Answering your call means…

  • Moving WAY out of your comfort zone
  • Accepting that your calling won’t fit into your life as it is now
  • Challenging what you believe to be absolutely true about who you are

It’s no wonder answering your call requires bravery!

Today I want to share a few stories of this kind of bravery. The kind of bravery playing big beckons from us. My hope is that these stories will act as little nudges to help you turn toward and even answer your purpose. One is about someone I haven’t actually met but admire her conviction. One is about a client who’s given me permission to share his story. And one is about me and what happened when I answered my calling.

“MAYBE THERE’S A WAY OUT OF THE CAGE WHERE YOU LIVE MAYBE ONE OF THESE DAYS YOU CAN LET THE LIGHT IN SHOW ME HOW BIG YOUR BRAVE IS

AND LET THE WORDS FALL OUT SAY WHAT YOU WANNA SAYHONESTLY I WANNA SEE YOU BE BRAVE WITH WHAT YOU WANT TO SAY AND LET THE WORDS FALL OUT HONESTLY I WANNA SEE YOU BE BRAVE”-SARA BAREILLES

There is a woman who answered her calling and it put her on a quest that challenged her entire life. Her name is Elizabeth Gilbert. You may know her from her book, Eat Pray Love or Big Magic. You might have a very strong opinion about her journey, her book, or her message. No matter your thoughts put them down for a moment and let’s look at the bones of what she did.

She felt something deep within her life that just wasn’t right. She hand picked her entire life, she was present for every decision. Her work, her marriage, and her dreams. Yet one night, walking around her home in the dark, she just knew it was all wrong. She didn’t know what was right just yet.

It’s easier to feel what’s out of place because we haven’t made space yet for what fits better. 

Then she did something even she couldn’t believe – she turned toward her calling and let it fill in the blanks. Although terrified, she left her marriage, left her home, and left her life as she knew it to embark on a year-long journey around the world. And she found the life that was perfectly designed for her already

THERE ARE ALWAYS REASONS TO DENY YOUR CALL. LEARN WHAT’S CALLING YOU, LEAVE THE REST TO THE UNIVERSE.

There is a man who is answering his calling one day at a time and he’s finding each day to fit just a little more perfectly. This is the story of a client of mine. I’ll call him John. When John first came to work with me he was in over his head. He had embarked on a business that felt right at the time but slowly it stopped fitting who he was. He wanted so badly to take care of everyone in his life that he never turned toward himself and asked what it was he really wanted.

Until it started to make him feel lost, sad, and sick. Answering your calling will feel oddly effortless.

John slowly started to peel back the layers of his ideal life and where he wasn’t living in alignment with his vision. It turned out what he really wants is to be motivational speaker and a healer. Opportunities were already knocking on his door (yes, this does actually happen) and he was turning them down out of fear that it would rock his current life too much.

Answering your calling will pull you in a direction you are not already headed. In other words – it will ask you to change directions. And fast.

The tipping point is when not answering your calling is more painful than just doing it. John let go of who he thought he was so that who he is could show him the way. In the end, it wasn’t as scary as he anticipated. In fact, it’s the easiest path he’s ever navigated. 

“WE MUST BE WILLING TO LET GO OF THE LIFE WE PLANNED SO AS TO HAVE THE LIFE THAT IS WAITING FOR US.” – JOSEPH CAMPBELL

This last story is about a woman who didn’t know she had a calling until it knocked her sideways. This is my story. I’ve shared bits and pieces here and here. Today I’ll give you a short summary that has taken me more than two years to comprehend. Sometimes you have to go with the flow, ask questions later. I had two wake-up calls 6 months apart to the day. The first, a spiritual breakdown, and the second, a life breakthrough. The thing is, I was pretty content before my calling came knocking on my door.

My life was good. Good job, good friends, good relationship. All things happy in their place. Sure I had questions and quiet wonderings about what life was really about. Was there a purpose I wasn’t fulfilling? Why am I here? What is the point?

Until you answer your calling these questions are crazy making. After you answer your calling these questions are irrelevant. 

I’ve always known I was intuitive and had a natural gift for hearing and serving people. When I see people hurting I can’t help but go to them. Then on January 8th, 2014 it all came full circle when God tapped me on the back. Growing up atheist this was a bit…alarming. It sent me into a spiral of questions, books, mentors, guides, and late night journal writing. Turning toward your calling will have you questioning so much. Let the questions come – just don’t get hung up on the answers.

This wake-up call set me up for my second calling when I realized I wasn’t working on purpose. After God said hello I knew I was meant to help others lean into their higher selves, reconnect with their soul, and let go of their fears.

Answering your calling brings a sharp amount of clarity we can spend our whole lives searching for. Just like that…there it is. 

It would be another 1 1/2 years before I was ready to really own this. Well, I’m still working on it. Each day I ease a little more into my calling. It’s still scary. Here’s the thing about self-enlightenment – once you see and feel the light, going back into the dark feels like dying. Even when scared, uncertain, or lost I keep going because life makes perfect sense to me now.

SO YES, I WANT YOU TO BE BRAVE.

There is no greater purpose for you than to answer your calling. That silent tug on your heart? Tune into it. Listen to what it has for you. Ask what it knows.

No one knows how it will turn out. You can't know. So put the desire to have all the answers up front aside for a moment and ask yourself the following - 

What do I WANT? For what PURPOSE? WHO do I need to BE? What is the ESSENCE of my purpose? (aka how could it make me FEEL?)

This is your business because no matter what purpose you're driven to create in the world or your world - it starts with you. Your heart. Your soul. What makes you come alive. The only how you need to worry about is how you CHOOSE to play big.

Don’t follow the easier path because you don’t know how to play big.Play big and watch yourself growth into the person you need to be TO play that big.

I promise you this – your purpose will not find the fullest expression it possibly can from a place of fear, lack, or scarcity. It can’t exist as its fully expanded self from your lower self.

Only your higher self can actualize your purpose. And your higher self deals in love.

Don’t pursue your purpose from the step you’re on today Purse it from where in your heart you believe you can go. I dare you to get big, be bold, grow, be a visionary, and love your life and work to the degree that it is the perfect expression of what it was always meant to be. And then…get out of the way.

In light and love, Andrea

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The L Word
Love
Love

I had something else planned for today and after editing and revisiting that article for three days I threw it away. Because something else was more ready to be written and it was staring me in the face this whole time (see the photo above!). This theme has also been presented to me by three incredible women over the course of a couple months. Three different people. Three different meetings. One single message - can you fall in love with what is?

Then the book I finally picked up (see below) confirmed these three separate occasions and their now BIG place in my life. So the answer is...I'm working on it. (I'm one day in so it might take me a moment...)

My initial answer was 'no way!' Hear me out...

How can I love hate? How can I love suffering? How can I love pain? How can I love disease? How can I love racism? How can I love poverty? And the list goes on....

If I love what is am I not just throwing my hands up in the air and saying, 'Sorry...can't help you.'? Because this simply was not an option. This is why I'm a helper. A healer. A guide. A teacher. And this list could also go on.

I know I am not alone in this - if I love what is then what exactly am I doing here? This was really the question I needed an answer to. Because I have navigated my entire life around the idea that I incarnated to serve. To help. To heal. So...does this mean I am out of a job? Well. Yes, in a way.

Let me back up to these three women and their three messages.

The first woman I met with is a fellow intuitive and healer.  We resonated right away - one of those conversations that I could have had for hours and hours. And in the midst of us talking I shared with her that as an empath I am often sick. That I walk around and 'see' so much pain and then I am in pain.

To which she replied - "How do you know they're in pain?"

And I said, "Because I can't imagine they're happy."

And then she said that thing that knocked me sideways - "You aren't absorbing their pain you are creating it yourself in yourself out of your judgment of what you assume someone else is experiencing. But what you're missing is this - whatever is being experienced in the world is the perfect expression of what it is. Can you love what is?"

The second woman I met with is also an intuitive, a teacher, and a writer. I shared with her a bit about my dilemma around allowing things to be as they are and then what does that mean for me as a helper? To which she replied, "You aren't here to save anyone."

And I, confused, asked, "Then why do I have these intuitive gifts? Why do I feel called to serve"

And she said the second thing that knocked me sideways - "You aren't here to help in the way you think. You can't hold space for people and 'take their pain away'. They are already being held. What holds the sun and the stars and the moon and beats your heart? You are here to simply BE. Be love. Be present. Be empathetic. Be aware. But fall in love with this human life because it is perfection as it is. Can you love what is?"

So....then I meet with the third woman. A woman who is my mentor and very dear friend. Someone I know came into my life to be a wise guide and support for my growth.  We were having a casual conversation about all of these recent revelations and my now major confusion. Is being enough? Can letting people fall on their face really be a good thing? But people are hurting and they don't need to, what of this?

Over the phone, I am asking these questions and she says so calmly the third thing that knocks me sideways - "Can you remember a time in your life of great pain? A time that really was difficult, a time that changed you?

"Of course", I replied. And then she says....

"If you could, would you change it?"

"Actually, no. That experience made me who I am, and in a way I am beyond grateful for it. It taught me compassion, awareness, love, patience, kindness, and self-respect...." I start to ramble, and then she says the zinger -

"What if someone had 'saved' you from something they felt 'you shouldn't have to experience'. Wouldn't they be robbing you of the very thing you needed to become who you're meant to be? Can you love what is?"

So here's where this all leaves me...life doesn't happen TO us. It happens FOR us. Is suffering inevitable? Yes, I believe it is.

For what purpose? To learn. To grow. To understand. To evolve our soul.

Being here is a gift and you chose it. You chose your life, your experience, your people, your teachers, and all that beautiful mess in the middle.

So my practice now, and I invite you to this as well, is this - get curious.

And my purpose? Your purpose? It is just as powerful and just as mission-driven as it always was. But instead of 'helping', or 'healing', I am here when you decide TO get curious. TO look at the labels, assumptions, and lessons of your life and look at what they point to. To support you in loving this splendid experience here.

And to help you ask yourself, "Can I love what is?"

In light and love, Andrea

What's calling your soul?
What's calling your soul?
What's calling your soul?

What's calling your soul? I know you can hear it, you can feel it or sense it brewing there. You can tap into it once in a while and feel the flood of emotion that come with your soul's calling. This isn't necessarily about your 'job' or your 'purpose' so much as it's about what is asking for your attention. It might be your purpose. It might also be your health. Your partnership. Your community. Words in you that want to be written. Photos that want to be captured. Rituals that need to be formed. A place you need to see or visit.

I observe people every day who are turning away from what's calling them. Myself included. I am choosing to give space to this today for two reasons: 1) My hope is to nudge you a little into giving yourself this thing your soul is craving, and 2) Because now is the time.

I've never met anyone who doesn't know what's calling them. 99.9% of the work I do is help people chisel away the things that are keeping them from turning toward what calls them.

I've heard these callings described as pipe dreams, bucket list items, or sheer wishful thinking. I find that we describe the thing we really want to do, or be, or create as out there, away from us, and not possible.

In saying no to the thing you want to do, you're also saying yes to something you don't really want to do. Then we wonder why we're unhappy, unhealthy, stressed, unfulfilled, or broke.

You can not give the best of your heart and soul to something that doesn't speak to you. Because this is a co-created relationship. And the thing you give to gives back to you in the form of inspiration, joy, wealth, and fulfillment.

Turning toward what your soul is calling into your life isn't frivolous, it's completion. It's how you evolve, grow, explore, and understand what you were built for.

The photo above is a journal exercise I did a few weeks back. I decided to turn toward my calling and work with people who inspire me...I wrote who they are down. And then this is what happened...clarity cuts through like citrus on grease. It clears the path. The people I journaled about started to reveal themselves to me. Becuase they had been there all alone.

I didn't change anything other than my perception.

You can't see how close you actually are to the thing that calls you until you choose tosee it. 

In the book I'm reading right now, The Art of Possibility, they ask these two powerful questions:

1) What assumption am I making that I'm not aware I'm making that gives me what I see? 2) What might I invent that I haven't yet invented that would give me other choices?

If you had to drop all your reasoning that is keeping this calling at bay... If you could put them down like heavy stones in your pocket... Imagine picking them out, one by one, and leaving them at your feet. Free yourself from the weight of the assumptions that aren't serving you.

Now - what choices would put your calling at your doorstep? Is it allowance? Abundance? Worthiness? Playfulness? Possibility? Invent a space in yourself, even if just for a moment, where the person you need to be to BE your calling just is

Feels pretty good, doesn't it.

This is what I did in my journal. This isn't manifestation in the sense that I called these people in. They were already around me. I simply chiseled away at the assumptions I'd wrapped around my life and my work keeping me from seeing this so clearly.

And then, like when the sun breaks over the ocean after a storm revealing the horizon, I could see that my calling has been patiently waiting for me this whole time. 

In light and love, Andrea

Roots to Fruits - Part Two
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I am SO grateful that my last article resonated with so many of you. I ended up giving an entire talk on Roots to Fruits to a women's conscious entrepreneur group a few days later and as I started to explain how our roots become our fruits I saw eyes getting wider as the idea landed for them. Today I want to go down into your Roots with you and look at what they're made up of. I updated the image and added a few more things!

Your Roots are made up of:

  • Stories
  • Negative Emotions
  • Beliefs
  • Habits
  • Purpose
  • Fear
  • Peace
  • Worthiness
  • Trauma
  • And more....
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I could spend an entire article on each root. So instead, I have been reflecting on which root is the most potent? Which one when changed, has the biggest ripple effect on the rest? I think it's our BELIEFS.I am not talking about what you believe in. I am referring to what you believe to be true about yourself AND the world. I love this definition of a belief from the book, 'Creating Money':

"Beliefs are an assumption about the nature of reality."

I just think that nails it! Your beliefs are those bold absolute statements you have created to make sense of your life and the world. We are meaning making machines - this means we need to make sense of things. All things.

We ask questions like...

'Why do I get hurt?' 'Why am I broke?' 'Why can't I get healthy?' 'Do I deserve this love?' 'Am I the kind of person who succeeds?' 'Why do I always fail?'

And on the list goes.

See what happens is we have these strings of memories we've attached emotion and meaning to. Then we interpret them as truth. This becomes our own individual reality. No two people see the world the same way.

So when we go to make sense of something or to answer one of these big questions above, we have to pull from our beliefs. From our assumptions about the world. Our beliefs are made up of our memories or our stories that we have strong emotions about.

Here's a sampling of how we answer these questions with a negative belief/assumption:

'Why do I get hurt?' ---> I am weak 'Why am I broke?' ---> I am bad with money 'Why can't I get healthy?' ---> I was born this way 'Do I deserve love?' ---> I am not good enough 'Am I the kind of person who succeeds?' ---> I never follow-through 'Why do I always fail?' ---> I am not worth it.

How do these turn into fruits? Because - remember, what you plant you reap. If you plant a belief that, 'I am not good enough' you will SEE the world THROUGH this belief. It's like wearing a pair of glasses. But instead of glass, the lenses are made up of your beliefs. You are now interpreting AND creating your life through this belief.

Here's the belief I had to do some work on...

"I don't belong anywhere."

Now I could spend time talking about this. That means dissecting why I believe this, where it came from, and so on.

But looking at a belief doesn't remove it. It's like acknowledging there are weeds in the garden, talking about them, asking if others see them, finding out why they are there, etc. BUT NEVER ACTUALLY PULLING IT!

How did I pull this weed? How did I plant a new root?

Please don't' get me wrong, there are no steps here.And this process is 100% dependent on YOU.

For me, I had to see it. Then I had to talk about it. Then I did some meditation, with support, and asked my higher self what purpose it served? Then I listened to my gut...

Here's the fun part...

A negative belief is a lesson in disguise. It's a part of you that got sent into the shadows (more on this another day!) Learn from it and it evolves. This is what it means to transcend!

This is key - it doesn't go away. It morphs from dark to light. It fills in this small gap in you that's missing.

My belief went from - I don't belong anywhere.

To...

I belong everywhere as long as I travel with heart.

Now I have to do the work. Once you change a belief give the new one time to grow. New seedlings don't sprout overnight. They take nourishment and care.

It's a daily practice to allow this new belief to be true. We're talking about a belief that's been in my life since I was a kid! So be patient and kind to yourself in this process.

This is a recent belief change, but I can share what FRUIT has already come from it.

  • I got to give a wonderful talk to a group of entrepreneurial women and share in my work with zero shame.
  • I was invited to co-train with a coaching academy.
  • I can talk about my work and my spiritual practices with my family openly and honestly.

Will this lead to more money, more joy, more balance, etc? Of course! It can't not. And never underestimate this simple truth - peace of mind is worth more than we can quantify.

Happy Holidays & Many Blessings, Andrea

Your Roots ARE Your Fruits
Fruits and Roots Andrea Leda

I want to share an incredible story today about a woman I get to call a client. She inspires me every single week.

Not just because she shows up and does the work but because she reminds me what is possible when we dig into the depths of who we are…and open a new door.

Before I get to her story let’s talk about this a little - What does it mean to dig into our depths?

First, here’s a little myth I had to learn the hard way. Changing something that’s going wrong in your life isn’t about simply closing the gap.

But you’ve been taught this, right?

Me too. In fact I think this definition of change is even in the International Coach Federation’s description of coaching. Something to this effect – success ishelping you close the gap between where you are and where you desire to be.

Here’s the thing – change isn’t horizontal. It’s vertical. Let me explain.

Closing the gap is external. For example – trying a new strategy for growing your business or building a new plan for staying healthy. These are two things outside of you.

Now I agree that change can occur here. You can alter how you do something and experience a different result.

But I don’t think you want to merely alter something. I think you’re ready to experience a transformation in your life.

This might be a stretch but think about it – why do we hire a therapist? Work with a coach? Attend a life-changing conference? Read the trendy self-help books? Take classes on meditation and prayer? Build in rituals?

We don’t embark on these things to alter single habits like eating chocolate or fighting with our spouse.

We embark on these because we’re searching for an easier, more fulfilling, and peaceful way to live our life.

This isn’t a minor change – it’s a calling from the Self and the Soul to dramatically shift how we do life!

Something that radically shifts how you see yourself and the world, which creates, not just a new result, a whole new way of living.

Transformation is vertical. Transformation requires you to go into the depths of who you are and ask questions like:

What does ‘playing big’ mean to me?

What great impact am I here to create?

What self-limiting stories are on repeat?

What does total fulfillment look and feel like?

What is so compelling about the way I live my life?

What scares me?

What inspires me?

Even if you answer one question – answer it.

If you do this I can promise you that you’ll discover a glimpse of your depth - the things that make you, you.

I call this depth your roots. And this I know for sure -

FRUITS AND ROOTS

The Roots you plant are the Fruits you reap.Most of us begin doing change work on the Fruits - we employ new strategies for more money, happier partnerships, more successful businesses, motivation and fulfillment.

But what's possible if you dug, just a little, into your roots?

Imagine what it would it feel like to be able to totally surrender…to be able to slow down, breath, and create a life that is meaningful and deeply satisfying...

Imagine if you could create a business from peace of mind and not begin with burn our or marketing strategies...

Imagine totally trusting that money flows to you...

This happens in your roots.

Here is what I believe to be true with the entire essence of my being and every fiber in my body -  Change your root, shift what you plant, and you’ll never have to struggle with the details again.

Big promise, I know.

Let me share this story now about a client. I’ll call her Lisa. Lisa is like so many women – her story is significant because it demonstrates the power in going into our roots.

Lisa came to me just before the first leaf fell this fall wanting to radically grow her business.

Lisa is a healer and a recovery coach. She is a single mom with two awesome children. She loves her work and is in her purpose lane. Success wasn’t new for her but she was in a rut. She felt something big was on the horizon…but how to get there?

I describe Lisa as on-purpose, intuitive, and curious. She's a go-getter, hard-working, independent, and intelligent. Lisa is an empath, a nurturer, and searching for something bigger than her.

She had talked to several other coaches about strategy and goals for making some big changes in the coming months.

Then she came to me. Here’s the thing – I don’t do strategy.

In our first two hours together I shared with her that no strategy or goal would compensate for a story that was no longer serving her.

This story was one of her roots and she was seeing the fruits of this every day.

The old root story: “It’s not safe to be on my own.”

This story may be so simple. But as we peeled back the layers she discovered how this story was not allowing her to be the incredible recovery coach and business owner she could be. It was keeping her business from thriving and ultimately her life from ease.

We never talked about action steps. We never coached around new ideas. We never discussed growth tactics.

We let go of the story and wrote a different one.She planted a new root. And then something that even surprised me happened.

She organically and effortlessly grew her business…

  • Lisa’s revenue increased by 400% in less than 90 days.
  • Her transformative coaching program received plenty of applicant’s and she had to turn people away.
  • She ended a toxic relationship safely and confidently.
  • She de-cluttered her entire home, painted furniture, and made her space a place that inspired her for the first time in her life.

The most remarkable part - She now practices the art of surrender and allowing everyday. She is at peace.

Here’s the magical part – we never talked about strategies for any of her new success. She created this 100% on her own because we planted a new root!

Her new root grew into fruits of money, collaboration, peace, and safety.

I’ve never met a single human being who doesn’t have a story that isn’t interfering with the greatest and grandest version of their life. A root that is not producing the kind of fruit you want -

If you want better relationships, more money, better health, successful business, happiness....Then let's dive into your stories, beliefs, habits, purpose, fear, and self-worth.

Most of us try pruning the tree when we need to have a look at what we’ve planted. What if you could create the kind of results Lisa did with one story, one root?

Compassion...When it's REALLY Hard
10,000 buddhas
10,000 buddhas

I was in L.A. co-training last weekend when the news of what happened in Paris trickled through. I normally do not address world events in my writing. Taking a stand, publicly, has always been a bit scary. It means possibly creating a divide and causing disagreement in my readers. This is now the risk I am wiling to take. And in a moment I will share why…

I was co-training with the Integrative Wellness Academy – a coach training company that is courageously teaching new coaches and light-workers how to work with the WHOLE person – Spiritually, Mentally, Emotionally, and Physically.

As the news hit of what was unfolding around the world my heart fell to the floor. I realize that these acts are not new and may continue to unleash. A good friend of my wife’s was staying in Paris, he is safe, and it’s getting closer and closer to home.

Every time I hear about an act of violence that is in response to fear and disagreement of this magnitude I am blatantly reminded of the power in this work.

The work of going within…

I can only speak of my experience because that is all I know.

I won’t sit here and tell you how to feel or how to respond. I won’t pretend to know what it was like to be in Paris on that evening as my friend was. And I won’t pretend to know what it’s like to have your homeland represented in such an unfair and ugly way.

So instead I will simply make an invitation - Just as I did to the 30 students who showed up for our training.

Now is the time for us to shift our relationship to how we struggle. At this training I got bold and for the first time in my career I decided to share openly and freely about my mission and the vision I have for this work.

When I say ‘my work’ I am not referring to me as a coach or to you as a client, student, or reader.

I am referring to the act of pausing, listening, and creating a life with intentionality. I am referring to the world. 

Writing this article, choosing to address something like hate, is something I can’t ignore anymore if the work even remotely has a chance to do its job.

First, I don’t believe we need to eradicate suffering….

Have you ever read or heard this quote attributed to Buddha?

“Life is 10,000 joys and 10,000 sorrows.”

My interpretation is this – life is both/and. Life is love and pain. Life is joy and sorrow. Life is a blessing AND a burden. Why?

It is both because one helps to define the other.

When you are experiencing a moment of pure bliss it’s in the absence of anything not blissful. It’s in this contrast that you have this full experience.

This is the law of duality, which says that one thing is actually TWO things – if, for example, you are a woman then at the same time you are also not a man.

Why does this matter?

Because the intent of life is not to eliminate suffering – it is to use our moments of struggle to learn, grow, and learn. The point, then, is to change our relationship to what it means TO struggle.

Think about a trait of yours that you are proud of - like resilience, tenacity, compassion, etc. Now think back on all the experiences that help you develop this trait. Do you find a story of pain in there?

For example, if you are what someone calls ‘resilient’ and you love your resiliency then this painful moment that helped you learn resilience was your teacher. I believe in my bones that if we change how we struggle and contend with the hard stuff then we change how we suffer.

I do believe we can eliminate poverty, hunger, racism, and even hate by allowing struggle to be our teacher and not our demon.

  When I hear about an event like Paris what comes over me is first sadness and deep empathy for the victims AND the perpetrators. Then I go to work on myself – did I experience judgment? Yes. Did I experience fear? Yes. Did I experience anger? Yes.

Then my experience of this event is one not only of sadness and empathy but ALSO of judgment, fear, and anger. The work then isn’t out there but inside of me. It is now about healing my judgments. Learning from my fears. Understanding my anger.

In the end I come to a place of LOVE for all sides. For ALL of humanity. This is compassion when it’s really hard. 

I invite you to look within. Tragedies can teach us a lot about who we are and what beliefs we walk around with. They can show us in an instant how we view the world and our place in the world.

As you look within see if you can create space to extend love to yourself and to all involved. Can you extend forgiveness? This is the work.

Until we, as individuals, do the work of constantly returning to a state of WHOLE-ness we will continue to be swept up by our fear, anger, judgment, etc.

The moment you allow that emotion to be a teacher you’ve retained the learning without harboring the pain.

Harboring pain is the birthplace of poverty, hunger, disease, and hate. They are born from emotion that is experienced and taken inside the self.

So, if I may, I invite you to continue to grieve, extend empathy, and compassion for those who were deeply effected by this event. AND, just as important, I invite you to look to yourself and extend the same love and compassion for your experience of this event.

Because what you heal in yourself you heal in the world.

Much love and light, Peace of I. Andrea

P.S.

The photo above is one of the paintings in the 10,000 Buddha's project - read about it here!