3 Little known factors that could affect your happiness
For the most part I think what we crave more than anything in life is happiness. We're motivated by being happy, discovering happiness, and staying happy. I even wrote a post of 8 Super Awesome Books for Happiness. I summed up that each book teaches some version of this truth - happiness is in acceptance, letting go, and gratitude. As we count down these handful of days left until we move out of 2014 I think happiness is worth giving our attention to. This was quite a year and I know I'm not alone in this. I shared a bit about my personal wake up call here. Through it all it was getting back to a happy center I was most after. Some day I share more on in order to be happy we also have to let it go.
But for today I want to share the 3 little known factors that could affect your happiness. Because in just a couple week's most of you will start setting goals for the new year. Me included.
I believe what you're most after when you set your new year goals is more joy. You think that if accomplished these goals could bring you closer to more happiness whether it be through health, financial security, love, career, family, or trying new things.
As I shared on Tuesday - The goal isn’t going to create the change you want – your perspective and your state of mind will. These 3 little known factors will help your state of mind be more prepared for the year ahead.
Research shows time and time again that a daily gratitude practice can increase your happiness dramatically. It can also change how you're feeling almost immediately. It is physically impossible to be happy and sad at the same time. Gratitude is a bridge between the two. Many people say they're grateful but don't act in accordance with this.
You say you're grateful but you pine for more. More money, more health, more love, more intimacy, more of something...what of what you have right here and now? In this very moment?
This is why Angee of Sheic Journals and I created this 10-day journal course, A Year in Reflection. It's a written gratitude practice. And it will set your mind up for what incredible things are possible in 2015.
Most of us are attached to something - attachment to things, people, ideas, expectations, desires, and more. What if you could let go of the following:
- What other people think of you
- Being certain or perfect
- Being cool or in control
The danger is this: by focusing on what you want to let go of, you may allow it to overpower you. In one of my favorite books, “The Gifts of Imperfection”, Brene Brown outlines not only things to let go of, but also provides a tool that directly counteracts the effects of scarcity. By focusing on all the good stuff that’s inside of you, you shift your perspective. Focus on things like –
So it isn’t enough to let go. You also have to embrace the good. Don’t be ashamed of what you love in yourself. Don’t be afraid to live from a place of self-worth. You are a worthy creature. You have much to offer. You just have to shift your attention onto that, and your journal is the fastest way to do it.
This is why in my newest collaboration A Year in Reflection you can spend the last few days of 2014 reflecting on what worked, what lessons you learned, and how you can make more of this happen in 2015.
Acceptance is not passive. It is not surrendering or even giving up. Acceptance IS a powerful practice in sitting with what is. I understand that acceptance can be difficult. You feel like in accepting something even if you don't like it you somehow lose. Let me assure you, you don't lose. You get to move forward.
You can't accept the gifts you have coming to you if you're attached to the past. What do you need to accept in order to move forward in your life? What, if you accepted it, could you then let go of? What are you holding onto that is no longer serving you?
This is why Angee and I created A Year in Reflection. Spend 10 days before 2015 arrives outlining what you're ready to accept. Give yourself the gift of a clean slate so you can welcome all the incredible things you have coming next year.
Happiness can only come from within. It's a feeling and it doesn't have to get away from you. You can tap into a kind of happiness always available to you by practicing gratitude, letting go, and acceptance.
In light and love,
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