3 things I wish I'd known about before losing weight
Having the desire to lose weight was easy. Following through was not so easy. How many Mondays have you vowed to really make it happen this week only by Friday to decide maybe next week? Or maybe you've started a weight loss program and are being met with mounting frustration because the weight just isn't coming off as you assumed it would. My journey was not a quick one (3+ years and still going) but I learned so much about myself through the process. When we opened Aleda Fitness I hoped my experience could help other women - but when I tell people it could take years they aren't too pleased. After all, most people come to Aleda when they are totally fed up so we have to talk in weeks. But it doesn't work that way. I wish it could work that way safely but it just doesn't. If you haven't read my article, "Why you're not skinny...yet" read it. It dives a bit more into why it doesn't work that way.
Over the past few weeks I have had an unusual high volume of conversations with (mostly) women about losing weight. It got me thinking about my own experience and what I wish someone had told me before my journey started. I came up with three concise things. Now I don't know if I would have listened to me because at the time I too wanted some immediate satisfaction. However, these came from changing my life. And ultimately, isn't that what you're after?
1. Weight loss is the most misleading phrase, ever - I am pretty certain that you want to lose the weight for good. Right? You don't want to regain it after all the hard work you are going to put in, right? No one does! No one dreams of strenuous workouts and restricted diets just to gain everything back in less time than it took you to get it off. You're not losing weight, you're changing your life. To change your life is forever. That's the only way. This is it. So go s..l..o..w..really slow. Ask for help, you will need the support. And celebrate the little victories along the way.
2. It's very uncomfortable - The life you've been living up to today is exactly what got you where you are. You are going to have to do something new if you want a new body or a new perspective. Anytime you step out of your comfort zone it is uncomfortable, but soon it will be your new normal I promise. Stepping outside of your comfort zone doesn't have to be extreme but it does have to be a step. Your comfort zone is so comfortable I guarantee you aren't even aware of your daily habits. Write them down for a week then decide where to begin. There will be plenty of options! Again, ask for help because you will need the support.
3. The chattering monkey mind doesn't quiet - I know you believe that when you lose the weight you will love yourself and be confident in who you are. This very well may be the biggest let down, but it doesn't work that way. If it's not the weight it will just be something else. Instead of playing the "if then.." game fall in love with the person who takes care of herself. Who treats herself with compassion and kindness. Who is patient with her process and knows that where she is going is going to take time. BEING her will bring self-confidence. Self-confidence is not about what you see in your mirror, it's about trusting yourself to follow through on your own promises. It does't take losing the weight, it takes losing the judgement. Your chattering monkey mind is who I work with because I know the unkind things she is saying to you that are holding you back.